Category: Nagging

• 4 Ways to Avoid Correcting Choices Your Mate Makes

  If you’ve read my blog for any length of time, you know that I tend to want to correct, even manipulate, my spouse’s choices. There’s just something within me that loves to bite on the bait of this temptation whenever it comes my way. Dare I say it? That something within me is my old…

  BethSteffaniak

  August 11, 2019

  About Me, Acceptance, Accountability, Alienation, Anger, Apologies, Blaming, Boundaries, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Confession, Conflict, Confrontation, Control, Criticism, Expectations, Faith in God, Forgiveness, Humility, Marriage, Marriage Mistakes, Nagging, Perfectionism, Pride, Realistic Expectations, Resentments, Respect, Responsibility, Self-deception, Surrender

  Apologies, Boundaries in Marriage, Boundary Violation, Communication, Conflict in Marriage, Correcting Choices, Criticism of Mate, Forgiveness, Personal Responsibility, Respect Mate, Surrender to God

• How to Forgive the Past and Move Forward in Your Marriage

  

  Today, I’m excited to introduce to you my next guest blogger in the “Spring Clean Your Marriage” series—Julie Loos. She’s sharing about how subtle and destructive ruminating on our mates’ failures and limitations can be to our marriages. Be sure to check out her bio below, as well as making her feel welcome by commenting…

  BethSteffaniak

  June 2, 2019

  Acceptance, Alienation, Amends, Anger, Attitude, Bad Habits, Blaming, Boundaries, Christ-Centered, Communication, Counseling, Discouragement, Emotions, Encouragement, Expectations, Forgiveness, Humility, Marriage, Nagging, Negative Self-Talk, Pain, Positive Focus, Pride, Resentments, Self-awareness, Spiritual Growth, Spring Clean Your Marriage, Victim Mentality, Wounds

  Anger, Bitterness, Conflict, Counseling, Faith in God, Forgive, Forgiveness, Humble, Pouting, Pride, Prideful, Ruminating

• How to Clean Up Nitpicking Imperfections in Your Spouse

  

  Today, I’m excited to be joined by my next guest blogger in the “Spring Clean Your Marriage” series, Carmen Brown. Her story will move you in powerful ways to see the destructiveness of nitpicking your spouse’s imperfections! See her bio below to find out more about her and her ministry. I was alone in my…

  BethSteffaniak

  May 26, 2019

  Acceptance, Affairs, Alienation, Anger, Apologies, Blaming, Boundaries, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Conflict, Criticism, Discouragement, Divorce, Expectations, Faith in God, Forgiveness, Grace, Humility, Love, Love of God, Marriage, Nagging, Perfectionism, Positive Focus, Prayer, Proactive, Realistic Expectations, Remarriage, Resentments, Responsibility, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Practices, Spring Clean Your Marriage, Wounds

  Acceptance, Apologies, Baggage, Confession, Emotional Wounds, Faith in God, Forgiveness, God’s Love, Imperfections, Perfectionism

• 5 Ways to C.L.E.A.N. Up Manipulating Your Spouse with Guilt

  

  Today, I’m excited to continue in the “Spring Clean Your Marriage” series with my next guest blogger, Karen Friday. I feel a special kinship with her because she’s a pastor’s wife like me! I hope you’ll check out her bio below and make her feel welcome by commenting and sharing her wise words all around…

  BethSteffaniak

  May 19, 2019

  Acceptance, Anger, Avoidance, Bad Habits, Blaming, Boundaries, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Conflict, Criticism, Discouragement, Encouragement, Expectations, Faith in God, False Beliefs, Forgiveness, Grace, Guilt, Insecurity, Marriage, Nagging, Negative Self-Talk, Realistic Expectations, Resentments, Self-Reflection, Spiritual Practices, Spring Clean Your Marriage, Toxic Baggage, Withdrawal

  Acceptance, Boundaries, Communication, Conflict Resolution, Disrespect, Faith in God, Guilt, Guilt Messages, Insecurity, Jealousy, Manipulation, Marriage Boundaries, Respect, Trust, Trust Spouse

• Are You a More Perfectionistic or Realistic Spouse? Take the Quiz!

  

  My husband and I are both perfectionists—meaning we have double trouble when it comes to being realistic in our marriage. No wonder we had a very messy start and still dip into messy moments more often than I’d like to admit! 😉 And maybe, if you’re a perfectionist like us, you chant these words to…

  BethSteffaniak

  March 17, 2019

  Acceptance, Alienation, Anger, Apologies, Attitude, Boundaries, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Confession, Conflict, Connection, Criticism, Desires, Discouragement, Encouragement, Expectations, Failure, Faith in God, Forgiveness, Grace, Jesus’ Sacrifice, Love of God, Marriage, Nagging, Patience, Perfectionism, Personality, Positive Focus, Prayer, Realistic Expectations, Resentments, Self-awareness, Self-Reflection, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Practices, Spouse I Want to Be Series, Support, Surrender, Unity, Wounds

  Acceptance, Limitations, Love of God, Perfectionism, Perfectionistic Spouse, Realistic Expectations, Realistic Spouse, Trust in God

• The Unfair Task of Being Transparent in Marriage No Matter What

  

  Ever struggle to be open and transparent to your mate about a mistake you’ve made or a troubling thought or feeling you’ve had? So you hide it or stuff it, and try to go on with life as usual.  Where do we get the idea that this is ever a good thing? After all, the…

  BethSteffaniak

  May 27, 2018

  Boundaries, Christ-Centered, Communication, Confession, Conflict, Deception, Denial, False Beliefs, Fear, Nagging, Negative Self-Talk, Openness, Spiritual Growth, Trust, Truth, Unfair Realities in Marriage, Vulnerability

  Communication, Confession, Conflict, Honesty, Marriage, Open, Transparency, Transparent, Truth, Vulnerable

• My Husband’s View on Spiritual Leadership

  

  I’m excited to add a new installment to my “Pick Hubby’s Brain” video series this week. We’ve had some camera issues (and quite frankly, are still having some issues to iron out) but am happy to offer some food for thought from my wise and witty hubby on the sticky subject of spiritual leadership. I…

  BethSteffaniak

  February 20, 2016

  Balance, Boundaries, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Control, Encouragement, Expectations, Faith in God, Gender Differences, Insecurity, Love for God, Nagging, Negotiation, Patience, Perfectionism, Perseverance, Positive Focus, Prayer, Priorities, Realistic Expectations, Respect, Responsibility, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Leadership, Spiritual Practices, Spiritually Unequal, Trust, Unity, Video

  Christ-centered, Patience, Perseverance, Respect, Spiritual Disciplines, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Leadership

• ‘Fix’-ated on Changing Your Mate?

  

  Today we continue to unpack the many subtle ways our spouses can control us by talking today about the temptation to try to “fix” or change our spouse because he/she doesn’t do his/her part or do it correctly. This is very similar to the victim-mentality post I wrote about recently, but the emphasis is on…

  BethSteffaniak

  January 16, 2016

  About Me, Acceptance, Alienation, Anger, Blaming, Boundaries, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Conflict, Confrontation, Control, Criticism, Denial, Discouragement, False Beliefs, Magical Thinking, Nagging, Resentments, Responsibility, Self-awareness, Self-deception, Unity, Victim Mentality

  Anger, Blaming, Conflict, Denial, Fixer, Judgmental, Perspective, Responsibility, Self-examination

• 8 Things to Avoid When Your Husband Opens Up And Linkup

  

  Today we’re continuing to focus on the answers that I gleaned from my “Men and Openness” survey, in an effort to address some of the hindrances that are present in attempts to communicate between a husband and wife, as well as to point out what encourages better communication. Today I want to focus on the…

  BethSteffaniak

  December 1, 2015

  Acceptance, Attitude, Avoidance, Boundaries, Change, Choices, Comfort, Communication, Confessional Culture, Control, Differences, Gender Differences, Grace, Listening Skills, Men and Openness Series, Nagging, Negotiation, Realistic Expectations, Respect, Support, Validation, Vulnerability, Wedded Wednesday

  Acceptance, Active Listening, Communication, Control, Listening, Openness, Respect

• Why won’t you give as much as me? Sloppy Joe Time Video

  

  For this “Sloppy Joe Time” I’m talking about the common human temptation to keep a record of all the wrongs my mate does against me. Since I know that God’s word tells me not to keep a record of wrongs, then what’s a girl to do? Well, I’ll tell ya what this girl is trying…

  BethSteffaniak

  May 17, 2015

  Acceptance, Anger, Blaming, Christ-Centered, Confrontation, Criticism, Expectations, Faith in God, False Beliefs, Forgiveness, Grace, Love, Nagging, Negative Self-Talk, Positive Focus, Realistic Expectations, Sloppy Joe Time Video, Video

  Anger, Blaming, Confrontation, Criticism, Grace, Record of Wrongs