Tag: Responsibility
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How to Make a Change for the Better that Lasts
Months ago, I introduced you to my Heart Healing Prayer method that allows you to prayer journal and process through a struggle in your life. It’s one of the most effective and transformative ways I know, as a biblical counselor and prayer warrior, to respond to a problem in life or marriage. Happen to have […]
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How 5 Unfair Tasks Can Make Marriage Stronger
Sometimes we bristle at a task because it’s “unfair,” especially when it comes to our marriages. Oh sure, most of us accept this reality in the realm of parenting or even in our jobs. But when it comes to marriage, we’ve somehow bought the lie that there should never be anything “unfair” about it. I […]
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How to Stop Hiding and Improve Your Life and Marriage
When I was a little girl, my way of dealing with sadness or the sins I had committed was to crawl under my bed and hide. This provided a soothing escape among the dark shadows that seemed to mirror my state of mind. No one but the shoes next to my head knew the tears […]
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How Trying to be the Good Spouse Can be a Bad Idea
Years ago there was a popular show called “The Good Wife” that showcased the dynamic that often develops when one spouse’s character and actions are strikingly better than the other. Oddly enough, this kind of imbalance happens a lot in marriage. It’s as if the nurturing and dutiful wife (or husband) feels drawn into a romantic relationship […]
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3 Ways to Cover Others with Love When Hurt or Stressed
How did you fare on getting through the stress of the Thanksgiving holiday? Did it fill you up with large helpings of turkey, as well as fun times spent with family and friends? Or were you fed up by someone’s hurtful words and/or actions? Sadly, family gatherings often come and go with heaping portions of […]
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How Enabling Your Mate Controls ‘You’
I want to discuss one more way that our mates can sometimes control us … through the ever-tempting avenue of enabling them. The reason I say this is “tempting” is probably because I feel this draw as a woman and mother perhaps a bit more than men generally do. Enabling actually springs up from a […]
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‘Fix’-ated on Changing Your Mate?
Today we continue to unpack the many subtle ways our spouses can control us by talking today about the temptation to try to “fix” or change our spouse because he/she doesn’t do his/her part or do it correctly. This is very similar to the victim-mentality post I wrote about recently, but the emphasis is on […]
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Feel like a Victim in Marriage?
I’m back from a much-needed vacation to continue the series on how our spouses can control us. Today’s focus is about feeling like a victim in a hopeless marriage. Sometimes people who are in a hurtful marriage for a very long time and have tried to combat the issues for as long as they’ve been […]
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3 Steps to Avoid a Parenting Power Struggle
It’s easy to think that when your spouse does something that bugs you and you react, that you are making a conscious choice born out of your freewill to resist. But more times than not, you are allowing yourself to be controlled by your spouse’s actions or words. Today I want to continue the series […]
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