Tag: Wounds

• 6 Lessons that Motivate Me to Forgive My Mate

  

  I’ve always struggled to let go of offenses and forgive my husband from the heart. In the moment it feels like God needs my help to point out my spouse’s sin or at least to stop it from happening again. When I give in to that thinking it mushrooms. I feel like I need to…

  BethSteffaniak

  September 23, 2018

  About Me, Acceptance, Alienation, Anger, Blaming, Choices, Christ-Centered, Confession, Conflict, Control, Denial, Emotions, Entitlement, Expectations, False Beliefs, Forgiveness, God’s Redemption, Grace, Lessons Learned in Marriage, Marriage, Marriage Mistakes, Negative Self-Talk, Perspective, Positive Focus, Prayer, Pride, Realistic Expectations, Resentments, Responsibility, Self-deception, Self-Protection, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Practices, Surrender, Victim Mentality, Wounds

  Anger, Bitterness, Christ’s Forgiveness, Forgive, Forgiveness, Realistic Expectations, Redemption, Surrender, Trust in God, Wounds

• 6 Reasons Attraction Fades in Marriage

  

  Most spouses at some point inevitably face distractions and/or hindrances to sexual and physical attraction in marriage. I’ve encountered this at various points in my marriage too, but every single time it’s had little to do with how physically or sexually attractive my mate was in that particular moment. #disillusionment I think this is true…

  BethSteffaniak

  March 25, 2018

  Abandonment, About Me, Acceptance, Affairs, Alienation, Anger, Attraction, Avoidance, Blaming, Boundaries, Conflict, Desires, Discouragement, Emotions, Expectations, False Beliefs, Forgiveness, Infatuation, Love, Lust, Marriage, Marriage Mistakes, Mess Makers, Miscarriage, Money Matters, Motherhood, Pain, Parenthood, Priorities, Rekindling Sex Series, Resentments, Self-awareness, Self-deception, Self-Reflection, Sex & Sexuality, Sex-Drive, Sex/Porn Addiction, Spiritual Warfare, Toxic Baggage, Withdrawal, Wounds

  Affair, Attraction, Conflict, Forgiveness, Infatuation, Infidelity, Pain, Sex, Sex-Drive, Sexual Attraction, Spiritual Warfare, Wounds

• The Controller Love Style And FMTM Linkup

  

  With Thanksgiving in the U.S. a day away, it seems appropriate to discuss the many shades of a Controller “love style!” We wouldn’t be able to get through a true Thanksgiving meal or celebration without the “Control Freak” in somebody rising to the surface like a tasty batch of homemade rolls  . . . minus…

  BethSteffaniak

  November 22, 2016

  Abuse, Alienation, Anger, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Conflict, Control, Counseling, Emotions, From Messes to Messages Linkup, Pain, Parenthood, Prayer, Safety, Self-Protection, Stress, Support, Toxic Baggage, Trauma, Wounds

  Abuse, Anger, Conflict, Control, Counseling, Support, Wounds

• Finding Healing for Your Wounds And Linkup

  

  Today I’m continuing the series on the wounds of our past by focusing on how to bring healing to those wounds through a new spiritual and relational focus. This means delving a bit deeper into what must be done in tandem with any ongoing prayer/processing of wounds (that I’ve shared in past posts). I believe…

  BethSteffaniak

  March 15, 2016

  About Me, Acceptance, Authenticity, Choices, Christ-Centered, Comfort, Confession, Confessional Culture, Denial, Empathy, Encouragement, Faith in God, God’s Redemption, Guilt, Identity, Love, Love of God, Pain, Perspective, Prayer, Redemption, Self-awareness, Self-deception, Self-Image, Self-Reflection, Shame, Surrender, Toxic Baggage, Truth, Unity, Vulnerability, Wedded Wednesday, Wounds

  Acceptance, Christ’s Wounds, Comfort, God’s Redemption, Healing, Wounds

• Taming Triggers in Your Marriage and Life Plus WW Linkup

  

  You’d think that after almost 29 years of marriage, my hubby and I would have tamed all of the “beasts” that arise from the moments when our wounds are triggered … but you would be wrong! 😉 I think it’s sort of like the apostle Paul’s “thorn” that God did not remove from his life…

  BethSteffaniak

  March 1, 2016

  Anger, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Confession, Conflict, Emotions, Fear, Humility, Pain, Perspective, Prayer, Respect, Responsibility, Self-awareness, Self-Reflection, Spiritual Practices, Toxic Baggage, Triggers in Marriage Series, Vulnerability, Wounds

  Anger, Communication, Conflict, Emotions, Fear, Healing, Prayer, Processing Emotions, Triggers, Wounds

• The Childhood Wound of Neglect And WW Linkup

  

  I’ve been a bit surprised by the amount of interest in this series on the wounds of our past, but definitely not shocked. I think this is an area that many couples struggle with and can relate to—realizing it brings with it much messiness and misery in marriage. The first step I want to take…

  BethSteffaniak

  February 16, 2016

  About Me, Abuse, Acceptance, Blaming, Christ-Centered, Denial, Emotions, False Beliefs, Messy Mom’s and Dad’s, Negative Self-Talk, Pain, Perspective, Self-awareness, Self-deception, Self-Reflection, Toxic Baggage, Trauma, Trials, Victim Mentality, Wedded Wednesday, Wounds

  Childhood, Pain, Self-awareness, Toxic Baggage, Trauma, Triggers, Victim Mentality, Wounds

• What Distorts and Damages Men’s Openness? And Linkup

  

  I’m picking up where we left off from the “Men and Openness Survey” series by unpacking question number 4 from the survey … What outside sources have been hindrances to you opening up and sharing your feelings with your wife? (I let the men choose all that applied.) 55.56% – The poor example I saw…

  BethSteffaniak

  January 26, 2016

  Acceptance, Christ-Centered, Communication, Discouragement, Empathy, Encouragement, Faith in God, Forgiveness, God’s Redemption, Listening Skills, Marriage, Men and Openness Series, Messy Mom’s and Dad’s, Openness, Parenthood, Perspective, Realistic Expectations, Self-awareness, Shame, Toxic Baggage, Wedded Wednesday, Wounds

  Communication, Forgiveness, God’s Redemption, Openness, Realistic Expectations, Stigma, Toxic Baggage, Vulnerability, Wounds

• 3 Steps to Avoid a Parenting Power Struggle

  

  It’s easy to think that when your spouse does something that bugs you and you react, that you are making a conscious choice born out of your freewill to resist. But more times than not, you are allowing yourself to be controlled by your spouse’s actions or words. Today I want to continue the series…

  BethSteffaniak

  December 12, 2015

  Acceptance, Alienation, Anger, Apologies, Attitude, Authenticity, Balance, Blaming, Boundaries, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Codependency, Communication, Confessional Culture, Conflict, Control, Discouragement, Enabling, False Beliefs, Forgiveness, Messy Mom’s and Dad’s, Motherhood, Negotiation, Parenthood, Proactive, Responsibility, Self-awareness, Toxic Baggage, Victim Mentality, Vulnerability, Wounds

  Apologizing, Baggage, Codependency, Confession, Negotiating, Parenting, Power Struggles, Responsibility, Wounds

• When Your Apology is Used Against You – And WW Linkup!

  

  It’s never easy to make yourself vulnerable nor to lay your heart out on the table in a sincere and humble apology before the one person on earth who matters most—your spouse. But what’s worse is when your spouse uses your apology against you. Typically, a spouse won’t do this unless: Your spouse simply got…

  BethSteffaniak

  June 9, 2015

  Acceptance, Anger, Apologies, Blaming, Christ-Centered, Comfort, Communication, Confession, Confessional Culture, Conflict, Discouragement, Faith in God, God’s Redemption, Grace, Humility, Love of God, Perseverance, Realistic Expectations, Redemption, Resentments, Trust, Vulnerability, Wedded Wednesday, Wounds

  Apologies, Conflict, Perseverance, Resentments, Trust God, Wounds

• Feeling like a victim in a hopeless marriage? SJT Video

  

  Sometimes a common dynamic or mindset develops when a marriage has been in crisis for a extended period of time. Click on the video below to find out what that mindset is in Beth’s latest “Sloppy Joe Time” – “Why won’t ‘you’ change?”   What have been some of the lies you’ve embraced when you’ve…

  BethSteffaniak

  March 8, 2015

  Alienation, Attitude, Avoidance, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Confrontation, Control, Criticism, Discouragement, False Beliefs, Positive Focus, Realistic Expectations, Sloppy Joe Time Video, Trials, Victim Mentality, Video, Withdrawal, Wounds

  Conflict, Control, Victim Mentality, Video, Withdrawal, Wounds