Category: Wounds

• How to Get Results by Praying Through Scripture with Journaling

  Sometimes we try to do too much before or instead of praying through a problem.  As you might imagine, that typically makes the problem much worse! 😉 However, most of us don’t really take either of these tacks. Most of us do too much, while ALSO praying about it. Then when we grow tired and […]

  BethSteffaniak

  August 29, 2021

  Bible Study, Bible Study Tools, Choices, Christ-Centered, Confession, Counseling, Discouragement, Emotions, Encouragement, Marriage, Perspective, Positive Focus, Prayer, Responsibility, Self Inventory, Self-awareness, Self-Reflection, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Practices, Surrender, Surrender Series, Trauma, Trials, Truth, Wounds

  Bible, Confession, Pain, Perspective, Plan, Prayer, Prayer journaling, Problems, Repentance, Scripture, Trials

• How Praying in a Certain Way Can Bring You Perspective

  Have you faced a situation that was so dire that you found yourself saying, “All we can do is pray”?  And as you’re saying those words, you might not even believe that prayer is the only thing you can do.  As humans, we so often don’t.  When the pain is fiercest, you and I want […]

  BethSteffaniak

  August 22, 2021

  Bible Study, Bible Study Tools, Christ-Centered, Discouragement, Encouragement, Faith in God, Marriage, Pain, Perseverance, Perspective, Prayer, Surrender Series, Trauma, Trials, Trust, Wounds

  Healing, Marriage, Perspective, Pray, Prayer, Praying, Scripture

• How to Validate Your Spouse in the Conflicts of Marriage

  

  Have you ever desperately wanted your spouse to validate your feelings but have been left feeling unheard, judged, or simply misunderstood instead? That’s because . . . [bctt tweet=”One primary way to open ourselves up with our spouses is to validate or acknowledge their feelings. And one primary way to shut their hearts down is […]

  BethSteffaniak

  January 24, 2021

  Acceptance, Affirmation, Alienation, Blaming, Communication, Conflict, Connection, Conversation, Differences, Discouragement, Emotions, Empathy, Encouragement, Engagement, Listening Skills, Marriage, Openness, Positive Focus, Realistic Expectations, Validation, Vulnerability, Wounds

  Bible, Communication, Connect, Connection, Conversation, Empathy, Listening, Listening Skills, Validate, Validation

• How to be Humble When Pride Rears Up

  

  I’ve pulled from my vault (2014) a post on humility that really captures a struggle I deal with to this day. I hope you find it to be as inspiring, funny, and convicting as I do now and did then. Lately, God has been dealing with my “pride.” Ugh! That’s such an ugly word and […]

  BethSteffaniak

  January 3, 2021

  Acceptance, Attitude, Bible Study, Bible Study Tools, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Conflict, Forgiveness, Grace, Humility, Marriage, Pride, Self-Reflection, Truth, Wounds

  Conflict, Encouragement, Forgiveness, Grace, Healing, Humility, Inspiration, Marriage, Pride

• Do You Need to Trust Your Spouse More?

  

  I’m writing this post to help you gain insight into how wise you’re being and how well you’re doing on trusting your spouse. It’s always necessary to have certain boundaries and biblical principles in mind when granting trust, especially if your spouse has consistently acted in untrustworthy ways. No where in Scripture does God expect […]

  BethSteffaniak

  March 22, 2020

  About Me, Acceptance, Accountability, Alienation, Anger, Apologies, Attitude, Authenticity, Betrayal, Bible Study, Boundaries, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Confession, Conflict, Confrontation, Conversation, Courage, Deception, Discouragement, Encouragement, Expectations, Faith in God, Grace, Guilt, How Trusting? Inventory, Humility, Insight for 2020 Series, Marriage, Negative Self-Talk, Openness, Pain, Patience, Perfectionism, Positive Focus, Prayer, Realistic Expectations, Respect, Responsibility, Safety, Security, Self-awareness, Spiritual Practices, Trust, Truth, Validation, Vulnerability, Wisdom/Insight, Wounds

  Betrayal, Bible, Boundaries, Encouragement, Faith in God, Inspiration, Openness, Quotes, Rebuild Trust, Trust, Trusting, Truth, Verses, Vulnerability, Wisdom

• How Forgiving are You? Take the Inventory to Find Out!

  

  Years ago, I grew very interested in the subject of forgiveness, mostly because I realized how much I needed it in my marriage! So I committed to continuing education and training, as well as applying the principles to my own life with God’s help. This not only profited me with a new coaching niche, but […]

  BethSteffaniak

  February 2, 2020

  About Me, Acceptance, Alienation, Anger, Apologies, Attitude, Bible Study, Boundaries, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Confession, Conflict, Confrontation, Criticism, Discouragement, Emotions, Empathy, Encouragement, Faith in God, Forgiveness, Forgiveness Inventory, Grace, Insight for 2020 Series, Jesus’ Sacrifice, Love of God, Marriage, Negative Self-Talk, Patience, Peace, Perspective, Positive Focus, Prayer, Resentments, Responsibility, Self-awareness, Self-Reflection, Spiritual Practices, Surrender, Withdrawal, Wounds

  Anger, Bible, Bitterness, Forgiveness, Grace, Insight, Inventory, Prayer, Resentment, Scripture, Surrender, Verses

• How to Forgive the Past and Move Forward in Your Marriage

  

  Today, I’m excited to introduce to you my next guest blogger in the “Spring Clean Your Marriage” series—Julie Loos. She’s sharing about how subtle and destructive ruminating on our mates’ failures and limitations can be to our marriages. Be sure to check out her bio below, as well as making her feel welcome by commenting […]

  BethSteffaniak

  June 2, 2019

  Acceptance, Alienation, Amends, Anger, Attitude, Bad Habits, Blaming, Boundaries, Christ-Centered, Communication, Counseling, Discouragement, Emotions, Encouragement, Expectations, Forgiveness, Humility, Marriage, Nagging, Negative Self-Talk, Pain, Positive Focus, Pride, Resentments, Self-awareness, Spiritual Growth, Spring Clean Your Marriage, Victim Mentality, Wounds

  Anger, Bitterness, Conflict, Counseling, Faith in God, Forgive, Forgiveness, Humble, Pouting, Pride, Prideful, Ruminating

• How to Clean Up Nitpicking Imperfections in Your Spouse

  

  Today, I’m excited to be joined by my next guest blogger in the “Spring Clean Your Marriage” series, Carmen Brown. Her story will move you in powerful ways to see the destructiveness of nitpicking your spouse’s imperfections! See her bio below to find out more about her and her ministry. I was alone in my […]

  BethSteffaniak

  May 26, 2019

  Acceptance, Affairs, Alienation, Anger, Apologies, Blaming, Boundaries, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Conflict, Criticism, Discouragement, Divorce, Expectations, Faith in God, Forgiveness, Grace, Humility, Love, Love of God, Marriage, Nagging, Perfectionism, Positive Focus, Prayer, Proactive, Realistic Expectations, Remarriage, Resentments, Responsibility, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Practices, Spring Clean Your Marriage, Wounds

  Acceptance, Apologies, Baggage, Confession, Emotional Wounds, Faith in God, Forgiveness, God’s Love, Imperfections, Perfectionism

• Are You a More Perfectionistic or Realistic Spouse? Take the Quiz!

  

  My husband and I are both perfectionists—meaning we have double trouble when it comes to being realistic in our marriage. No wonder we had a very messy start and still dip into messy moments more often than I’d like to admit! 😉 And maybe, if you’re a perfectionist like us, you chant these words to […]

  BethSteffaniak

  March 17, 2019

  Acceptance, Alienation, Anger, Apologies, Attitude, Boundaries, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Confession, Conflict, Connection, Criticism, Desires, Discouragement, Encouragement, Expectations, Failure, Faith in God, Forgiveness, Grace, Jesus’ Sacrifice, Love of God, Marriage, Nagging, Patience, Perfectionism, Personality, Positive Focus, Prayer, Realistic Expectations, Resentments, Self-awareness, Self-Reflection, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Practices, Spouse I Want to Be Series, Support, Surrender, Unity, Wounds

  Acceptance, Limitations, Love of God, Perfectionism, Perfectionistic Spouse, Realistic Expectations, Realistic Spouse, Trust in God

• 6 Ways to Be a More Compassionate and Forgiving Spouse

  

  Have you ever noticed how hard it is to be compassionate toward your spouse when you’re angry with him or her? It gets even harder when we let our anger turn into bitterness because we’ve chosen not to forgive them. Ironically, keeping this same mindset and practice in place inevitably creates a hard heart as […]

  BethSteffaniak

  February 17, 2019

  About Me, Acceptance, Alienation, Anger, Blaming, Bonding, Boundaries, Brokenness, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Conflict, Connection, Discouragement, Emotions, Empathy, Encouragement, Faith in God, Forgiveness, Grace, Humility, Jesus’ Sacrifice, Love for God, Love of God, Marriage, Pain, Perfectionism, Perspective, Positive Focus, Prayer, Pride, Realistic Expectations, Resentments, Self-Protection, Self-Reflection, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Practices, Spouse I Want to Be Series, Vulnerability, Wounds

  Christ’s Forgiveness, Christlike, Compassion, Empathy, Forgiveness, God’s Love, Perspective