Category: Codependency
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What to Do When You Love Your Children More than Your Spouse
Most days around here, I talk about my marriage rather than about my three young adult sons who matter monumentally to my life and family. But, make no mistake! Being a mom has been my highest calling and greatest joy. I can still remember the day each of my sons was born like it was…
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7 Ways to Develop Empathy and Gain Insight into Your Mate
Have you ever struggled to truly understand your mate’s feelings—feeling empathy for what he/she is going through? I sure have! 😉 But it’s important to examine this important responsibility from every angle. So, first off … What exactly is empathy? Empathy is the ability to come alongside someone, and not only understand a person’s point…
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How Enabling Your Mate Controls ‘You’
I want to discuss one more way that our mates can sometimes control us … through the ever-tempting avenue of enabling them. The reason I say this is “tempting” is probably because I feel this draw as a woman and mother perhaps a bit more than men generally do. Enabling actually springs up from a…
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Resisting God because You Feel Pressured?
This week I’m tackling another way we let our spouses control us … “Resisting spiritual pursuits because your spouse is cramming them down your throat.” The spouse who has been pressured by his/her spouse in this way often “reacts” rather than “responds” to this situation. The distinction is an important one. A “reaction” is letting…
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Feel like a Victim in Marriage?
I’m back from a much-needed vacation to continue the series on how our spouses can control us. Today’s focus is about feeling like a victim in a hopeless marriage. Sometimes people who are in a hurtful marriage for a very long time and have tried to combat the issues for as long as they’ve been…
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Healthy Boundaries and Expectations for a Heart-to-Heart And Linkup!
Today I’m continuing in the series that was born out of the results from my Men and Openness survey by unpacking a bit more what a wife (or any spouse for that matter) needs to keep in mind in a heart-to-heart. [Tweet “If you want to encourage openness, establish healthy boundaries and realistic expectations.”] Since…
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3 Steps to Avoid a Parenting Power Struggle
It’s easy to think that when your spouse does something that bugs you and you react, that you are making a conscious choice born out of your freewill to resist. But more times than not, you are allowing yourself to be controlled by your spouse’s actions or words. Today I want to continue the series…
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5 Ways Your Spouse Can Control You
I’m beginning a new series on Sundays that will unpack five ways that we are prone to let our spouses control us. FYI … I’ll still be posting videos on upcoming Sundays, just not as often. If you’ve been married for any length of time, it is so easy to fall into these five unhealthy…
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Can I out-shout you? SJT Video
In today’s “Sloppy Joe Time” video, I’m pulling back the curtains on a rather unflattering time when I made my messy marriage that much messier by trying to “out-shout” my husband in times of conflict! I hope you’ll check it out by clicking on the less than 3 minute video below! One more…
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