Category: Enabling
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How to Be Generous Instead of Selfish in Your Marriage
I just knew that looking into this week’s focus—selfishness—would hurt! That’s because, when push comes to shove, I’ve often chosen to be selfish rather than generous with my mate. It would be easy for me to point to my upbringing as the somewhat spoiled youngest in my family. My parents yielded to my way an…
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Spring Cleaning Tips Leaving More Time for Your Family
I’m excited to start off a new series, “Spring Clean Your Marriage” with a guest blogger Sarah Rollandini today! Check out her bio below to find out more about her and her blog. Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help…
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6 Ways to Apply God’s Word When Your Spouse Hurts You
God’s word is like a salve that, when applied to the wounds and tension-filled moments we experience in marriage, soothes and heals. But just how do we apply God’s word when hurts come in life and marriage? Consider this day in the life of my marriage … I woke up to my husband’s cheerful greeting…
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3 Important Questions to Ask when Holiday Stress Looms
Nearly twenty years ago, I journaled about a holiday moment in my life that was filled with more stress than love. On this particular occasion, I was worn-down by trying to do too much decorating, shopping, cleaning, cooking and entertaining. At that time, my husband wasn’t as involved in helping me with those kinds of…
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How Enabling Your Mate Controls ‘You’
I want to discuss one more way that our mates can sometimes control us … through the ever-tempting avenue of enabling them. The reason I say this is “tempting” is probably because I feel this draw as a woman and mother perhaps a bit more than men generally do. Enabling actually springs up from a…
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3 Steps to Avoid a Parenting Power Struggle
It’s easy to think that when your spouse does something that bugs you and you react, that you are making a conscious choice born out of your freewill to resist. But more times than not, you are allowing yourself to be controlled by your spouse’s actions or words. Today I want to continue the series…
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Peacemaker or Peacekeeper? And WW Linkup
Since my post last week encouraged the extending of grace to our mates, I felt it was important to explain the difference between giving grace (peacemaking) and enabling unhealthy behavior (peacekeeping). After all … [Tweet ” Enabling and extending grace are two very different things that often get mistaken for each other.”] I’ve provided a…
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