Category: Support

• Upcoming Webinar—Is Your Marriage a Contract or Covenant?

  

  What would you like your marriage to look like for the rest of 2019 and going into next year? Really—answer this for me! 🙂 If you’re like most Christian married people … you came into marriage with YOUR EYES WIDE OPEN to what God had for you and an ideal of what married life would…

  BethSteffaniak

  October 6, 2019

  Bad Habits, Bonding, Christ-Centered, Communication, Connection, Desires, Discouragement, Encouragement, Expectations, Faith in God, False Beliefs, Laziness, Marriage, Marriage According to Bible, Marriage Roles, Negative Self-Talk, Positive Focus, Priorities, Proactive, Self-awareness, Self-deception, Self-Reflection, Self-sacrifice, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Leadership, Spiritual Practices, Support, Togetherness

  Bible, Contract, Covenant, Covenant Marriage, Headship, Roles in Marriage, Scripture, Submission, Webinar

• Are You a More Perfectionistic or Realistic Spouse? Take the Quiz!

  

  My husband and I are both perfectionists—meaning we have double trouble when it comes to being realistic in our marriage. No wonder we had a very messy start and still dip into messy moments more often than I’d like to admit! 😉 And maybe, if you’re a perfectionist like us, you chant these words to…

  BethSteffaniak

  March 17, 2019

  Acceptance, Alienation, Anger, Apologies, Attitude, Boundaries, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Confession, Conflict, Connection, Criticism, Desires, Discouragement, Encouragement, Expectations, Failure, Faith in God, Forgiveness, Grace, Jesus’ Sacrifice, Love of God, Marriage, Nagging, Patience, Perfectionism, Personality, Positive Focus, Prayer, Realistic Expectations, Resentments, Self-awareness, Self-Reflection, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Practices, Spouse I Want to Be Series, Support, Surrender, Unity, Wounds

  Acceptance, Limitations, Love of God, Perfectionism, Perfectionistic Spouse, Realistic Expectations, Realistic Spouse, Trust in God

• When Your Connection to Your Parent Creates a Wedge in Your Marriage

  

  Years ago, when my marriage was at its messiest, I was not a cleaver. I’m not talking about being like June Cleaver, but rather about the need to unite with my husband. One of the most important ways that I did not unite with him was in how I chose to align myself with my…

  BethSteffaniak

  February 13, 2019

  Alienation, Anger, Bad Habits, Betrayal, Bonding, Boundaries, Communication, Conflict, Connection, Immaturity, In-Laws, Marriage, Marriage Mistakes, Oneness, Priorities, Support, Unity

  Betrayal, Boundaries in Marriage, Connection, Oneness, United Front, Unity

• 6 Ways to Apply God’s Word When Your Spouse Hurts You

  

  God’s word is like a salve that, when applied to the wounds and tension-filled moments we experience in marriage, soothes and heals. But just how do we apply God’s word when hurts come in life and marriage? Consider this day in the life of my marriage … I woke up to my husband’s cheerful greeting…

  BethSteffaniak

  January 19, 2019

  21 Days of Love Series, Acceptance, Affirmation, Anger, Attitude, Bible Study, Bible Study Tools, Blaming, Boundaries, Choices, Christ-Centered, Comfort, Communication, Conflict, Connection, Discouragement, Emotions, Enabling, Encouragement, Expectations, Faith in God, Grace, Love of God, Marriage, Pain, Perspective, Positive Focus, Prayer, Proactive, Realistic Expectations, Relief, Resentments, Respect, Responsibility, Self-sacrifice, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Practices, Support, Trials, Vulnerability, Wounds

  Acceptance, Affirmation, Apply God’s Word, Bible Verses, Boundaries, God’s Truth, Grace, Marriage Conflicts, Marriage Hurts, Neglect, Spiritual Practices

• 3 Ways to Weather Seasons of Transition in Marriage

  

  I’m excited to have as my guest this week blogger Liz Giertz, who is sharing personal insights on how to navigate a season of transition in marriage. She knows quite a bit about this as a military wife! You’ll find her bio and a link to her blog below. Please make her feel welcome by…

  BethSteffaniak

  October 7, 2018

  Acceptance, Alienation, Attitude, Boundaries, Choices, Christ-Centered, Commitment, Communication, Connection, Differences, Discouragement, Encouragement, Expectations, Faith in God, Lessons Learned in Marriage, Marriage, Negotiation, Perseverance, PTSD, Realistic Expectations, Spiritual Growth, Stress, Support, Transitions

  #marriagetransitions, #militarymarriage, Commitment, Communication, Expectations, Faith in God, God’s Love, Military Wife, Realistic Expectations, Transitions

• 5 Best Practices to Help Your Marriage Survive Tragedy

  

  I’m excited to introduce you to my latest guest blogger—Rachel Lee—who’s talking today about recovering from a tragedy in her life and marriage. See her bio below for more on where to find her. And be sure to make her feel welcome by commenting and sharing this moving and meaningful post all around the web!…

  BethSteffaniak

  September 16, 2018

  Acceptance, Alienation, Christ-Centered, Commitment, Communication, Conflict, Counseling, Depression, Differences, Discouragement, Emotions, Grief, Hope, Lessons Learned in Marriage, Marriage, Motherhood, Pain, Parenthood, Prayer, Spiritual Practices, Support, Trauma, Trials, Wounds

  Communication, Counsel, Death of Child, Grief, Loss, Marriage, Prayer, Tragedy, Trauma, Trials

• Marriage’s Definition and Purposes According to the Bible

  

  Even though our country and world continues to hotly debate what defines marriage, the Bible settled the issue for Christ-followers long ago. It began with the very first people—a man and a woman—that God joined together in a one-flesh covenant in the Garden of Eden. If you’re not a Christ-follower, then you probably don’t believe…

  BethSteffaniak

  August 12, 2018

  Accountability, Affection, Affirmation, Attraction, Bible Study, Bible Study Tools, Bonding, Boundaries, Christ-Centered, Commitment, Connection, Contentment, Encouragement, Faith in God, Intimacy, Jesus’ Sacrifice, Love of God, Marriage, Marriage According to Bible, Motherhood, Oneness, Parenthood, Positive Focus, Prayer, Purpose, Safety, Security, Self-sacrifice, Sex & Sexuality, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Leadership, Spiritual Practices, Submission, Support, Togetherness, Unity

  Bible, Companionship, Definition of Marriage, Marriage, One Flesh, Parenthood, Purposes of Marriage, Reflect Christ, Sex, Sexual Intimacy

• The Unfair Task of Holding in Your Personal Truth in Marriage

  

  Did you know that my husband is an open book with a transparent cover and see-through pages?! I always know exactly where I stand with him at just about every moment in our marriage. This can be a good thing most of the time. I’m grateful for his openness and willingness to clear the air.…

  BethSteffaniak

  May 20, 2018

  Acceptance, Anger, Attitude, Authenticity, Blaming, Boundaries, Christ-Centered, Communication, Confession, Conflict, Confrontation, Connection, Criticism, Discouragement, Emotions, Empathy, Encouragement, Grace, Listening Skills, Marriage, Openness, Pain, Patience, Positive Focus, Prayer, Realistic Expectations, Relief, Respect, Safety, Self-Protection, Self-sacrifice, Spiritual Practices, Support, Truth, Unfair Realities in Marriage

  Boundaries, Communication, Discretion, Hold Tongue, Kindness, Listen, Openness, Respect, Sensitivity, Timing, Truth, Understanding

• 5 ‘Little Foxes’ that Damage a Marriage by Kelly R. Baker

  

  Have you heard of the allegorical foxes that spoil the vine? My mother used to quote Song of Songs 2:15 to my brother and me growing up, as part of teaching us how to treat people. She continued to remind me of this verse when my husband Justin and I started butting heads early on…

  BethSteffaniak

  November 15, 2017

  Acceptance, Affirmation, Bible Study, Blaming, Bonding, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Connection, Criticism, Discouragement, Encouragement, Expectations, Forgiveness, Grace, Marriage, Marriage Spark, Patience, Perfectionism, Positive Focus, Priorities, Realistic Expectations, Respect, Self-awareness, Self-sacrifice, Serving, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Practices, Support, Thankfulness, Vulnerability

  Bible Study, Criticism, God’s Word, Gratitude, Negative Focus, Positive Focus, Respect, Thankfulness

• 4 Ways Listening Draws My Mate to Me

  

  My husband and I did not enter marriage as great listeners or with amazingly refined listening skills. We were young and really not all that aware of how important listening was to our marriage. I would go on in those early days of marriage to get my Masters Degree in Marriage and Family Counseling, where…

  BethSteffaniak

  September 23, 2017

  Acceptance, Anger, Bonding, Comfort, Communication, Conflict, Connection, Conversation, Empathy, Encouragement, Listening Skills, Openness, Perspective, Positive Focus, Respect, Support, Togetherness, Validation

  Bond, Closeness, Communication, Conflict, Empathy, Listening, Perspective, Respect, Togetherness