When Your Connection to Your Parent Creates a Wedge in Your Marriage

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Years ago, when my marriage was at its messiest, I was not a cleaver. I’m not talking about being like June Cleaver, but rather about the need to unite with my husband.

One of the most important ways that I did not unite with him was in how I chose to align myself with my mom. Unfortunately, I was not just aligning with her, but uniting with her against my husband.

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I was not taking this Scripture to heart …

“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and cleave to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.”  Genesis 2:24 (Darby)

Many translations of the Bible have replaced the word cleave with words like: united, joined, hold fast, etc. But none of these communicate quite so clearly the idea of sticking to our mates like we’re glued to them—the idea behind “cleave.”

There are a lot of things that get in the way of cleaving to our husbands. But I would like to focus on …

Intrigued? Want to know more? Then head over to Rachel Lee’s blog—Betheeinspired.com. I’m honored to be her guest today, sharing the rest of this post,Restoring Hope in Marriage: Why it’s Important to Leave Your Parents and Cleave to Your Spouse over there. 

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3 responses to “When Your Connection to Your Parent Creates a Wedge in Your Marriage”

  1. This is a powerful post, Beth! It’s such a common issue in marriages, and I know so many women who have struggled to cleave to their husbands instead of their mothers, often falling into teaming against their husbands with their well-intending but protective parents. Thanks for addressing this!


  2. Oof! I could see myself earlier in my marriage in your story. Thank you for sharing. I sometimes wonder how my poor hubby put up with me!


  3. This is such an important (often unspoken issue). I, just like Laurie, wonder how my husband had been so patient with me!


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