Category: Bad Habits

• How to Avoid Letting Television Control Your Marriage

  

  With the quarantines and social restrictions enacted due to the pandemic, television viewing in many families has been on the rise. According to research done by Comcast¹, Americans are viewing television 8 more hours per week than before the quarantines. That makes sense for safety’s sake but doesn’t make our marriages any safer. Far from […]

  BethSteffaniak

  November 8, 2020

  Accountability, Alienation, Bad Habits, Balance, Bible Study, Bible Study Tools, Bonding, Boundaries, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Connection, Conversation, Discouragement, Encouragement, Focus, Marriage, Negotiation, Out of Balance Series, Positive Focus, Prayer, Priorities, Self-Reflection, Spiritual Practices, Togetherness, Vulnerability

  Bible Study, Boundaries, Connection, Conversation, Discussion, Negotiation, Prayer, Television, TV viewing

• How Scripture Can Help You to Be a Better Parent

  

  Making “parenting” my focus this week means I’m either way behind, since today is Mother’s Day, or I’m way ahead, since Father’s Day is more than a month away! 😉 I choose to frame this as being really organized and thinking ahead, though I never was great at that as a mom most days! Today […]

  BethSteffaniak

  May 10, 2020

  About Me, Accountability, Affairs, Apologies, Attraction, Bad Habits, Balance, Betrayal, Bible Study, Blended Family, Boundaries, Christ-Centered, Commitment, Communication, Confession, Conflict, Confrontation, Counseling, Courage, Deception, Desires, Discouragement, Enabling, Encouragement, Faith in God, Honest/Trustworthy, Infatuation, Insight for 2020 Series, Love, Love for God, Marriage, Motherhood, Parenthood, Parenting Inventory, Positive Focus, Prayer, Priorities, Self-deception, Self-Protection, Self-Reflection, Sex & Sexuality, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Leadership, Spiritual Practices, Truth, Unity

  Affairs, Children, Deception, Discipline, Enabling, Faith in God, Love, Mentoring, Parenting, Salvation, Spiritual Growth

• How I’m Overcoming Arguing AND Not Planning for the Future!

  

  I’m extending last week’s focus on forgiveness for another week since it’s such an important topic! Besides, I’ve got two other posts I want to highlight for you this week. One has to do with my tendency to argue, which certainly dovetails nicely with forgiveness. And the other one has to do with planning for […]

  BethSteffaniak

  February 10, 2020

  Anger, Attitude, Bad Habits, Boundaries, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Conflict, Faith in God, Marriage, Priorities, Surrender

  Anger, Arguing, Bible, Conflict, Future, Planning, Scripture, Strategy, Wisdom

• Upcoming Webinar—Is Your Marriage a Contract or Covenant?

  

  What would you like your marriage to look like for the rest of 2019 and going into next year? Really—answer this for me! 🙂 If you’re like most Christian married people … you came into marriage with YOUR EYES WIDE OPEN to what God had for you and an ideal of what married life would […]

  BethSteffaniak

  October 6, 2019

  Bad Habits, Bonding, Christ-Centered, Communication, Connection, Desires, Discouragement, Encouragement, Expectations, Faith in God, False Beliefs, Laziness, Marriage, Marriage According to Bible, Marriage Roles, Negative Self-Talk, Positive Focus, Priorities, Proactive, Self-awareness, Self-deception, Self-Reflection, Self-sacrifice, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Leadership, Spiritual Practices, Support, Togetherness

  Bible, Contract, Covenant, Covenant Marriage, Headship, Roles in Marriage, Scripture, Submission, Webinar

• How to Forgive the Past and Move Forward in Your Marriage

  

  Today, I’m excited to introduce to you my next guest blogger in the “Spring Clean Your Marriage” series—Julie Loos. She’s sharing about how subtle and destructive ruminating on our mates’ failures and limitations can be to our marriages. Be sure to check out her bio below, as well as making her feel welcome by commenting […]

  BethSteffaniak

  June 2, 2019

  Acceptance, Alienation, Amends, Anger, Attitude, Bad Habits, Blaming, Boundaries, Christ-Centered, Communication, Counseling, Discouragement, Emotions, Encouragement, Expectations, Forgiveness, Humility, Marriage, Nagging, Negative Self-Talk, Pain, Positive Focus, Pride, Resentments, Self-awareness, Spiritual Growth, Spring Clean Your Marriage, Victim Mentality, Wounds

  Anger, Bitterness, Conflict, Counseling, Faith in God, Forgive, Forgiveness, Humble, Pouting, Pride, Prideful, Ruminating

• 5 Ways to C.L.E.A.N. Up Manipulating Your Spouse with Guilt

  

  Today, I’m excited to continue in the “Spring Clean Your Marriage” series with my next guest blogger, Karen Friday. I feel a special kinship with her because she’s a pastor’s wife like me! I hope you’ll check out her bio below and make her feel welcome by commenting and sharing her wise words all around […]

  BethSteffaniak

  May 19, 2019

  Acceptance, Anger, Avoidance, Bad Habits, Blaming, Boundaries, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Conflict, Criticism, Discouragement, Encouragement, Expectations, Faith in God, False Beliefs, Forgiveness, Grace, Guilt, Insecurity, Marriage, Nagging, Negative Self-Talk, Realistic Expectations, Resentments, Self-Reflection, Spiritual Practices, Spring Clean Your Marriage, Toxic Baggage, Withdrawal

  Acceptance, Boundaries, Communication, Conflict Resolution, Disrespect, Faith in God, Guilt, Guilt Messages, Insecurity, Jealousy, Manipulation, Marriage Boundaries, Respect, Trust, Trust Spouse

• When Your Connection to Your Parent Creates a Wedge in Your Marriage

  

  Years ago, when my marriage was at its messiest, I was not a cleaver. I’m not talking about being like June Cleaver, but rather about the need to unite with my husband. One of the most important ways that I did not unite with him was in how I chose to align myself with my […]

  BethSteffaniak

  February 13, 2019

  Alienation, Anger, Bad Habits, Betrayal, Bonding, Boundaries, Communication, Conflict, Connection, Immaturity, In-Laws, Marriage, Marriage Mistakes, Oneness, Priorities, Support, Unity

  Betrayal, Boundaries in Marriage, Connection, Oneness, United Front, Unity

• 5 Battle Tools to Help in Hard Moments

  

  I’m excited to have a guest blogger and author, Kelly Balarie, with me today! I’m honored to be on the launch team of her latest book, Battle Ready, that is available starting today, July 3, 2018. (You can find the link to her book on Amazon by clicking on the book cover below.) Kelly offers such […]

  BethSteffaniak

  July 3, 2018

  Attitude, Bad Habits, Choices, Christ-Centered, Deception, Discouragement, Encouragement, Faith in God, False Beliefs, Identity, Insecurity, Negative Self-Talk, Perfectionism, Perspective, Positive Focus, Prayer, Realistic Expectations, Self-awareness, Self-deception, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Warfare, Truth, Victim Mentality, Wounds

  Faith in God, Fear, Insecurity, Perfectionism, Prayer, Rejection, Satan, Spiritual Tools, Spiritual Warfare

• How Being Broken in Your Marriage is a Good Thing!

  

  Ever ignore something that is or might be broken in your life or marriage? It can be scary and intimidating to face this harsh reality. I know, because I did so with one of my my sons and also with my marriage to its detriment. Years ago, my two oldest sons were enjoying a fun […]

  BethSteffaniak

  June 24, 2018

  Accountability, Attitude, Bad Habits, Brokenness, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Confession, Denial, Discouragement, Emotions, Entitlement, Expectations, Failure, God’s Redemption, Grace, Laziness, Lust, Marriage, Marriage Mistakes, Perfectionism, Positive Focus, Prayer, Pride, Redemption, Responsibility, Self-Reflection, Self-sacrifice, Spiritual Practices, Surrender

  Broken, Brokenness, Confession, Entitled, Laziness, Lust, Perfectionism, Perfectionist, Prayer, Self-deceived, Self-Righteous

• The Unfair Task to Avoid Lust and Attraction to Others

  

  When I first got married I was under the mistaken notion that I would never feel attracted to anyone other than my husband. I was, after all, deeply in love and thought that “love was all I needed” to fight back any desires, urges or attractions to others. This made me a prime target for […]

  BethSteffaniak

  June 3, 2018

  About Me, Accountability, Affairs, Alienation, Attraction, Bad Habits, Betrayal, Bonding, Boundaries, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Commitment, Contentment, Desires, Discouragement, Emotions, Encouragement, Faith in God, Infatuation, Love for God, Lust, Marriage, Positive Focus, Prayer, Resentments, Self-Reflection, Self-sacrifice, Sex & Sexuality, Sex/Porn Addiction, Spiritual Practices, Unfair Realities in Marriage

  Accountability, Attraction, Boundaries, Desire, Faithful, Guard Heart, Guard Marriage, Love of God, Lust, Prayer, Unfair Realities