Category: Immaturity

• When Your Connection to Your Parent Creates a Wedge in Your Marriage

  

  Years ago, when my marriage was at its messiest, I was not a cleaver. I’m not talking about being like June Cleaver, but rather about the need to unite with my husband. One of the most important ways that I did not unite with him was in how I chose to align myself with my…

  BethSteffaniak

  February 13, 2019

  Alienation, Anger, Bad Habits, Betrayal, Bonding, Boundaries, Communication, Conflict, Connection, Immaturity, In-Laws, Marriage, Marriage Mistakes, Oneness, Priorities, Support, Unity

  Betrayal, Boundaries in Marriage, Connection, Oneness, United Front, Unity

• Lord, why aren’t You answering? SJT Video

  

  I’m finally back today after much vacationing and celebrating of my son’s wedding—not to mention, technical/computer issues bogging me down—with yet another “Sloppy Joe Time.” Thanks so much for your patience with me in this! Today I’m delving into a sloppy expectation I had with God in regards to my husband and my painful, messy…

  BethSteffaniak

  July 5, 2015

  Acceptance, Blaming, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Control, Discouragement, Entitlement, Expectations, Faith in God, False Beliefs, Immaturity, Magical Thinking, Patience, Perseverance, Prayer, Selfishness, Sloppy Joe Time Video, Spiritual Growth, Surrender, Trust

  Entitlement, Faith in God, Patience, Prayer, Refinement, Spiritual Growth, Trust

• Why Can’t I Run to My Mom? SJT Video

  

  In today’s “Sloppy Joe Time” video, I’m talking about an unhealthy practice I had early in my marriage. I was still running to my mother’s arms, when I should’ve been running to God’s and never leaving my husband’s! Can you relate? I hope you’ll click on the video below to see what I discovered and…

  BethSteffaniak

  April 5, 2015

  About Me, Alienation, Anger, Bonding, Boundaries, Choices, Comfort, Communication, Conflict, Discouragement, Emotions, Expectations, False Beliefs, Immaturity, In-Laws, Marriage Mistakes, Oneness, Realistic Expectations, Respect, Sloppy Joe Time Video, Support, Unity, Victim Mentality, Video

  Boundaries, Cleaving, Conflict, Immaturity, In-Laws, Respect, Support

• Consumed with Making My Spouse Perfect

  Back some 25 years ago, I didn’t marry the man that I now call my husband. No, I haven’t gotten a divorce and remarried a different man. I simply married the man I believed would change to suit my preferences and ideals. In hindsight, I can clearly see that was the … Wrong Approach!   …

  BethSteffaniak

  August 13, 2012

  Acceptance, Change, Codependency, Expectations, Immaturity, Love of God, Magical Thinking, Negative Self-Talk, Perfectionism, Respect

• Who’s Your Daddy?

  

  Sometimes this dynamic shows up in a marriage, and when it does, it almost always makes the marriage messier. Don’t get me wrong. If your spouse acts this way, you probably like it on some level. It truly has its perks. A spouse that acts like a parent often . . . Takes care of…

  BethSteffaniak

  June 20, 2011

  Communication, Control, Immaturity, Mess Makers, Respect

• How Money Became the Real Ball and Chain in My Marriage

  

  When Gary and I were first married, we were young seminary students with very little money to our name. Unfortunately, I wanted to rework his fashion image. And since I proudly held “a single” credit card to a department store and because Gary needed some clothes, we went on a spending spree!  After all, we…

  BethSteffaniak

  April 25, 2011

  About Me, Accountability, Bad Habits, Boundaries, Change, Choices, Denial, Discouragement, False Beliefs, Immaturity, Marriage, Marriage Mistakes, Money Matters, Newlywed, Perseverance, Priorities, Realistic Expectations, Self-sacrifice

  Debt, Financial Problems, Immaturity, Money, Money Matters, Responsibility