Category: Victim Mentality
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How Trying to be the Good Spouse Can be a Bad Idea
Years ago there was a popular show called “The Good Wife” that showcased the dynamic that often develops when one spouse’s character and actions are strikingly better than the other. Oddly enough, this kind of imbalance happens a lot in marriage. It’s as if the nurturing and dutiful wife (or husband) feels drawn into a romantic relationship […]
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3 Red Flags that Point to a Martyr Mother-In-Law
This is a revised republishing of a vintage and super popular post I did years ago. I’m bringing it out of the vault today revamped and hopefully a bit more robust in the ways it can help you if you’re facing this difficult situation. You’ve probably seen her type. Outwardly, she’s as sacrificial and sweet […]
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How to Forgive the Past and Move Forward in Your Marriage
Today, I’m excited to introduce to you my next guest blogger in the “Spring Clean Your Marriage” series—Julie Loos. She’s sharing about how subtle and destructive ruminating on our mates’ failures and limitations can be to our marriages. Be sure to check out her bio below, as well as making her feel welcome by commenting […]
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6 Lessons that Motivate Me to Forgive My Mate
I’ve always struggled to let go of offenses and forgive my husband from the heart. In the moment it feels like God needs my help to point out my spouse’s sin or at least to stop it from happening again. When I give in to that thinking it mushrooms. I feel like I need to […]
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5 Battle Tools to Help in Hard Moments
I’m excited to have a guest blogger and author, Kelly Balarie, with me today! I’m honored to be on the launch team of her latest book, Battle Ready, that is available starting today, July 3, 2018. (You can find the link to her book on Amazon by clicking on the book cover below.) Kelly offers such […]
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4 Reasons God Does NOT Want You to Marry Your Soulmate
I remember a time when I questioned almost daily whether I had married the right man or my “soulmate.” I had fallen for the perverted cultural mindset that marriage should be all about me, and making my life better … even easier. So whenever my marriage hurt more than it encouraged me, I swallowed the […]
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Are You Making Your Spouse Your savior?
I had a very messy marriage back in the day, and this was directly related to an even messier view of my identity. My lagging sense of self worth set me up for pursuing my husband as my savior, instead of pursuing my Savior as my Savior. Oh sure, I’d received Christ as my Savior […]
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