Tag: Denial

• The Cure for ‘Pity-Pot’ Prayers to Gain Perspective in Marriage

  

  I’m continuing in my series: “Back to School—7 Lessons on Learning to Love Well When the Winds of Marriage Grow Colder”—by talking today about lesson #2 on “Writing.” Be advised: this isn’t just writing for the sake of improving our penmanship or literary skills. It is all about a valuable marriage tool available to us […]

  BethSteffaniak

  August 15, 2017

  About Me, Acceptance, Anger, Attitude, Back to School Series, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Confession, Denial, Discouragement, Encouragement, Faith in God, False Beliefs, From Messes to Messages Linkup, Marriage, Perspective, Positive Focus, Prayer, Pride, Resentments, Self-awareness, Self-deception, Self-Reflection, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Practices, Victim Mentality

  Conviction, Denial, Discouragement, Encouragement, Journal, Prayer, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Practices, Truth

• One Key Way Prayer Journaling Uncovers Denial And Linkup

  

  I never dreamed many years ago that prayer journaling would open up a whole new world of insight for me like I’d never experienced before in my prayer life. I must preface that by saying God opened up new insights as I combined my prayer journaling with my Bible studies and readings. [Tweet “We should […]

  BethSteffaniak

  December 20, 2016

  Attitude, Bible Study Tools, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Denial, Encouragement, Faith in God, False Beliefs, From Messes to Messages Linkup, Marriage, Perspective, Prayer, Responsibility, Self-awareness, Self-deception, Self-Reflection, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Practices, Truth

  Denial, Perspective, Prayer, Prayer Journal, Prayer journaling, Reflection, Responsibility

• ‘Fix’-ated on Changing Your Mate?

  

  Today we continue to unpack the many subtle ways our spouses can control us by talking today about the temptation to try to “fix” or change our spouse because he/she doesn’t do his/her part or do it correctly. This is very similar to the victim-mentality post I wrote about recently, but the emphasis is on […]

  BethSteffaniak

  January 16, 2016

  About Me, Acceptance, Alienation, Anger, Blaming, Boundaries, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Conflict, Confrontation, Control, Criticism, Denial, Discouragement, False Beliefs, Magical Thinking, Nagging, Resentments, Responsibility, Self-awareness, Self-deception, Unity, Victim Mentality

  Anger, Blaming, Conflict, Denial, Fixer, Judgmental, Perspective, Responsibility, Self-examination

• The Allure of the Illegitimate in Marriage

  

  Today I’m continuing to unpack another way we can let our spouses control us with – “Choosing to have an affair or to look at pornography because you believe you’ve been deprived of ‘whatever’ in your marriage.” I have a sneaking suspicion that the spouses who need this message the most are not going to […]

  BethSteffaniak

  January 9, 2016

  About Me, Abuse, Accountability, Addictions, Affairs, Authenticity, Betrayal, Choices, Christ-Centered, Confession, Control, Counseling, False Beliefs, Infatuation, Magical Thinking, Marriage, Marriage Mistakes, Negative Self-Talk, Self-awareness, Self-deception, Sex & Sexuality, Sex/Porn Addiction

  Accountability, Adultery, Affair, Betrayal, Confession, Control, Counseling, Denial, False Beliefs, Sex, Sex-Drive

• Waiting on Your Mate to Change? And WW Linkup

  

  Are you feeling like you’re tired of beating your head against a wall because your mate never changes? Does your spouse continue to deny the glaring issues that you see in his or her character and choices? Do you fear that if your mate doesn’t wake up soon your love and marriage may not survive? […]

  BethSteffaniak

  August 25, 2015

  Accountability, Attitude, Blaming, Boundaries, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Confessional Culture, Discouragement, Expectations, Faith in God, Fear, God’s Redemption, Perseverance, Perspective, Plank Hunt Series, Positive Focus, Realistic Expectations, Redemption, Responsibility, Self-Reflection, Toxic Baggage, Victim Mentality, Vulnerability, Wedded Wednesday, Wounds

  Choices, Christ-centered, Confessional Culture, Denial, Proactive, Self-examination, Self-Reflection

• Why Confession is Worth the Risk! And WW Linkup!

  

  I’m currently conducting a survey with men {or husbands in particular} that asks, What makes opening up and confessing to a mate or girlfriend so difficult? I only have a small number who’ve responded so far, but the answers to this one question have revealed a glaringly apparent fear of rejection. The sad fact is […]

  BethSteffaniak

  May 12, 2015

  Alienation, Anger, Apologies, Attitude, Authenticity, Bonding, Confession, Confessional Culture, Conflict, Denial, Encouragement, False Beliefs, Guilt, Humility, Negative Self-Talk, Responsibility, Self-Protection, Trust, Truth, Unity, Vulnerability, Wedded Wednesday

  Apologies, Authenticity, Bonding, Confession, Denial, False Beliefs, Secrets

• Ignoring a problem in marriage? And WW Linkup!

  

  If you don’t know this about me already, you must know that I am always looking at what the metaphor for life might be that God wants to teach me. The graphic above is a photo of the piece of glass that lodged downward into my left hand last Thursday. I was trying to get […]

  BethSteffaniak

  January 13, 2015

  Avoidance, Choices, Christ-Centered, Conflict, Denial, Discouragement, Faith in God, Pain, Positive Focus, Toxic Baggage, Trials, Wedded Wednesday

  Conflict, Denial, Faith in God, Proactive, Self-examination

• Are You a Speck Inspector? And Linkup!

  

  Hi, I’m Beth Steffaniak and I’m a recovering “Speck Inspector.” Yessiree, I’m guilty as charged! And if you asked my hubby, he would definitely nod in agreement. This concept is revealed to us in Matthew 7:1-5, where Jesus provides a very “eye-opening” truth about humanity’s habit of judging others. He says that we cannot be […]

  BethSteffaniak

  October 28, 2014

  Attitude, Blaming, Criticism, Denial, False Beliefs, Humility, Pride, Wedded Wednesday

  Arrogance, Blaming, Criticism, Denial, Humility, Judging, Superiority