Tag: Apologies
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4 Ways to Avoid Correcting Choices Your Mate Makes
If you’ve read my blog for any length of time, you know that I tend to want to correct, even manipulate, my spouse’s choices. There’s just something within me that loves to bite on the bait of this temptation whenever it comes my way. Dare I say it? That something within me is my old…
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How to Clean Up Nitpicking Imperfections in Your Spouse
Today, I’m excited to be joined by my next guest blogger in the “Spring Clean Your Marriage” series, Carmen Brown. Her story will move you in powerful ways to see the destructiveness of nitpicking your spouse’s imperfections! See her bio below to find out more about her and her ministry. I was alone in my…
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8 Creative and Romantic Gift Ideas for Your Mate
With springtime flower gardens beginning to bloom, I’m reminded that every married person is something of a gardener. You may have a garden (marriage) that’s overrun by weeds, but nevertheless, you are a gardener. Every good gardener knows that intentional and wise care must be given consistently to your garden, or it will not thrive.…
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10 of My Favorite Posts
I’d like to share ten of my favorite posts (in no particular order) that I’ve done here at Messy Marriage. Most are recent, but there are a few that go a bit further back in the vault. I hope you find them to be encouraging, thought-provoking and marriage-challenging! Validating Your Spouse’s Feelings Find God’s Redemptive…
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‘Everybody Loves Vulnerability’ And WW Linkup!
I am still unpacking what I feel are the important aspects of creating a confessional culture today, which leads me to share about a vulnerable and unflattering moment of mine in my own marriage. Sometimes the best way to communicate a reality is to learn from a real-life and raw human encounter in marriage. It…
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When Your Apology is Used Against You – And WW Linkup!
It’s never easy to make yourself vulnerable nor to lay your heart out on the table in a sincere and humble apology before the one person on earth who matters most—your spouse. But what’s worse is when your spouse uses your apology against you. Typically, a spouse won’t do this unless: Your spouse simply got…
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When and When NOT To Apologize – Plus WW Linkup!
Creating a confessional culture in your marriage should be developed with both discernment and timing in mind. Like most changes you want to make in life or marriage, you must go slowly and strategically, unless you are prepared for the entire effort to backfire on you! This is especially true if your spouse is not…
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How to Apologize Effectively and WW Linkup!
I grew up in a home where apologies were rarely extended or witnessed. We were a loving bunch, but somehow this important practice of acknowledging our sins and apologizing to each other was never clearly present, at least not in my view. Unfortunately, that also became true for my marriage in the early days. Gary…
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Why Confession is Worth the Risk! And WW Linkup!
I’m currently conducting a survey with men {or husbands in particular} that asks, What makes opening up and confessing to a mate or girlfriend so difficult? I only have a small number who’ve responded so far, but the answers to this one question have revealed a glaringly apparent fear of rejection. The sad fact is…
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Will you soothe my mood? SJT Video
Ever give yourself permission to vent with your spouse? Well, I certainly do and have! In my latest “Sloppy Joe Time” video, I share what I’m trying to get my spouse to do when I vent (yes, that means “messy manipulation” is present!). And I share the three positive strategies I’m using to turn that…
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