Tag: Expectations
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How Trying to be the Good Spouse Can be a Bad Idea
Years ago there was a popular show called “The Good Wife” that showcased the dynamic that often develops when one spouse’s character and actions are strikingly better than the other. Oddly enough, this kind of imbalance happens a lot in marriage. It’s as if the nurturing and dutiful wife (or husband) feels drawn into a romantic relationship…
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7 Tips for Cleaning Up a Boring Sex Life in Marriage
Today I’m thrilled to have author and marriage blogger Sheila Gregoire as my guest in the “Spring Clean Your Marriage” series. See her bio below to find out more about her, as well as where to connect with her on social media. We’ve all been there. Whether you are in a hectic season of life,…
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3 Ways to Weather Seasons of Transition in Marriage
I’m excited to have as my guest this week blogger Liz Giertz, who is sharing personal insights on how to navigate a season of transition in marriage. She knows quite a bit about this as a military wife! You’ll find her bio and a link to her blog below. Please make her feel welcome by…
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Asking For Too Much Conversation in Marriage?
Let’s face it. There are major differences between men and women, but none more obvious than in the desire for conversation. There’s a drastic difference in the amount of communication women typically use on any given day versus men. Studies have actually been done on this that reveal how women use approximately 20,000 words per day,…
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How Long Should I Extend Grace in Marriage? And Linkup
I ended last week’s post in the series, The Many Faces of Grace, with this question: When is it unhealthy or “enabling” to overlook an insult or sin in my spouse (or other offender)? I think the questions to consider in this kind of situation are: Is it destructive to one or more relationships? (Creating…
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When Your Spouse Stonewalls You And WW Linkup
Creating a confessional culture is not for the faint of heart, especially if you are trying to do so in a deeply wounded and dysfunctional marriage. As a marriage life-coach and counselor, I’d say that the majority of folks I deal with are in a relationship where one partner is doing most of the humbling…
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Will you soothe my mood? SJT Video
Ever give yourself permission to vent with your spouse? Well, I certainly do and have! In my latest “Sloppy Joe Time” video, I share what I’m trying to get my spouse to do when I vent (yes, that means “messy manipulation” is present!). And I share the three positive strategies I’m using to turn that…
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Who Should Apologize First?
I hope you’ll take two and a half minutes to watch this first of many videocast installments here at MM on “Sloppy Expectations in Marriage.” Part of the reason I’ve decided to add videos is: I’m still having arm/hand/tendonitis issues and typing adds to that problem. Creating a video is less “typing-intensive.” I’ve always wanted…
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Assuming Too Much & WW Link Up!
Part of what I do as a counselor and life coach is to “speculate.” It’s easy to let this “skill” that’s often appropriate in one setting, carry over to my personal relationships where it is far from appropriate! In fact, whenever I’m around my hubby and speculate about what someone might think or feel, he very matter-of-factly…
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How to Deal with Nit-Picky Perfectionism in Marriage
Do you ever feel like you can never satisfy your husband because he expects perfection from you? Are you constantly being challenged by your wife to do something her way, and in her opinion, the only right way? Is your marriage beginning to feel like a competition with only one winner? If you answered “yes”…
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