Tag: Shame

• How to Stop Hiding and Improve Your Life and Marriage

  

  When I was a little girl, my way of dealing with sadness or the sins I had committed was to crawl under my bed and hide. This provided a soothing escape from the dark shadows that seemed to mirror my state of mind. No one but the shoes next to my head knew the tears…

  BethSteffaniak

  September 6, 2020

  Confession, Marriage, Prayer, Shame

  Confession, Guilt, Marriage, Shame, Sin

• Plank Hunting – Shoot Down Your Excuses And WW Linkup

  

  When I was about 11 years old, my mother did not ask me to help with getting the table set or cleaning up after a meal. I remember feeling guilty whenever I saw my older sister helping my mom with those tasks. Finally, my mom woke up to the fact that I was indeed old…

  BethSteffaniak

  September 1, 2015

  Change, Choices, Confessional Culture, False Beliefs, Fear, Guilt, Pain, Plank Hunt Series, Self-Protection, Self-Reflection, Spiritual Growth, Survey, Truth, Wedded Wednesday

  Barriers, Character Flaws, Confession, Growth, Guilt, Pain, Self-examination, Shame, Truth

• 10 of My Favorite Posts

  

  I’d like to share ten of my favorite posts (in no particular order) that I’ve done here at Messy Marriage. Most are recent, but there are a few that go a bit further back in the vault. I hope you find them to be encouraging, thought-provoking and marriage-challenging! Validating Your Spouse’s Feelings Find God’s Redemptive…

  BethSteffaniak

  July 12, 2015

  About Me, Anger, Apologies, Codependency, Communication, Conflict, Forgiveness, God’s Redemption, Shame, Sloppy Joe Time Video

  Anger, Apologies, Communication, Conflict, Conflict Resolution, God’s Redemption, Peacemaker, Shame, Sloppy Joe Time Videos

• Covering for My Spouse and WW Linkup

  

  I think there’s just something in the DNA of every human being that tries to cover up vulnerabilities and weaknesses that we see in ourselves. Believe me, I know what I’m talking about, because that describes me much more than I’d like to admit! However, I think this pattern started way back in the Garden…

  BethSteffaniak

  June 30, 2015

  Acceptance, Anger, Attitude, Blaming, Choices, Christ-Centered, Confession, Confessional Culture, Confrontation, Faith in God, Forgiveness, Grace, Jesus’ Sacrifice, Love of God, Negative Self-Talk, Perseverance, Perspective, Positive Focus, Self-Protection, Self-sacrifice, Shame, Vulnerability, Wedded Wednesday, Wounds

  Blame, Forgiveness, Positive Focus, Shame, Vulnerability

• Shame on You?! How to Feel Released from Shame

  

  There are many of who feel shameful for sin(s) you’ve committed, perhaps way in your past or even ones you still cling to and commit today. These shameful thoughts not only make your marriage and life “messier” … But are an insult to God! Yes, you heard that right! I might be heaping a bit…

  BethSteffaniak

  April 20, 2014

  Christ-Centered, Faith in God, False Beliefs, Forgiveness, God’s Redemption, Guilt, Jesus’ Sacrifice, Love of God, Shame

  Christ’s Sacrifice, Forgiveness, Shame