Tag: Self-examination

• ‘Fix’-ated on Changing Your Mate?

  

  Today we continue to unpack the many subtle ways our spouses can control us by talking today about the temptation to try to “fix” or change our spouse because he/she doesn’t do his/her part or do it correctly. This is very similar to the victim-mentality post I wrote about recently, but the emphasis is on…

  BethSteffaniak

  January 16, 2016

  About Me, Acceptance, Alienation, Anger, Blaming, Boundaries, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Conflict, Confrontation, Control, Criticism, Denial, Discouragement, False Beliefs, Magical Thinking, Nagging, Resentments, Responsibility, Self-awareness, Self-deception, Unity, Victim Mentality

  Anger, Blaming, Conflict, Denial, Fixer, Judgmental, Perspective, Responsibility, Self-examination

• 5 Important Ways to Identify Your Emotions And WW Linkup!

  

  We’re continuing to unpack the “Men and Openness” survey responses, focusing today upon the second most popular response (53.45%) from the men: “I don’t know how to articulate my feelings.” However, I would like to focus today on one key aspect of articulating feelings—becoming more self-aware about our feelings. (Wives listen up, because this is…

  BethSteffaniak

  November 17, 2015

  Authenticity, Communication, Confessional Culture, Counseling, Emotions, Men and Openness Series, Perspective, Self-awareness, Self-Reflection, Toxic Baggage, Vulnerability, Wedded Wednesday, Wounds

  Counselor, Emotions, Self-awareness, Self-Disclosure, Self-examination, Self-Reflection

• Can I point out your flaws? SJT Video

  

  Today I’m back with another “Sloppy Joe Time” that addresses our tendency as faulty and defensive human beings to point the finger at our spouse’s flaws and “specks” rather than going on a “Plank Hunt” in our own lives. I’ve been there and done that and am here to say there’s a better way to…

  BethSteffaniak

  September 27, 2015

  Attitude, Authenticity, Blaming, Boundaries, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Comfort, Confessional Culture, Criticism, Encouragement, Expectations, Got Truth?, Pain, Plank Hunt Series, Proactive, Responsibility, Self-Reflection, Sloppy Joe Time Video, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Practices, Surrender, Truth, Video, Vulnerability

  Blaming, God’s Truth, Pain, Proactive, Responsibility, Self-examination

• Plank Hunting – Shoot Down Your Excuses And WW Linkup

  

  When I was about 11 years old, my mother did not ask me to help with getting the table set or cleaning up after a meal. I remember feeling guilty whenever I saw my older sister helping my mom with those tasks. Finally, my mom woke up to the fact that I was indeed old…

  BethSteffaniak

  September 1, 2015

  Change, Choices, Confessional Culture, False Beliefs, Fear, Guilt, Pain, Plank Hunt Series, Self-Protection, Self-Reflection, Spiritual Growth, Survey, Truth, Wedded Wednesday

  Barriers, Character Flaws, Confession, Growth, Guilt, Pain, Self-examination, Shame, Truth

• Waiting on Your Mate to Change? And WW Linkup

  

  Are you feeling like you’re tired of beating your head against a wall because your mate never changes? Does your spouse continue to deny the glaring issues that you see in his or her character and choices? Do you fear that if your mate doesn’t wake up soon your love and marriage may not survive?…

  BethSteffaniak

  August 25, 2015

  Accountability, Attitude, Blaming, Boundaries, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Confessional Culture, Discouragement, Expectations, Faith in God, Fear, God’s Redemption, Perseverance, Perspective, Plank Hunt Series, Positive Focus, Realistic Expectations, Redemption, Responsibility, Self-Reflection, Toxic Baggage, Victim Mentality, Vulnerability, Wedded Wednesday, Wounds

  Choices, Christ-centered, Confessional Culture, Denial, Proactive, Self-examination, Self-Reflection

• Ignoring a problem in marriage? And WW Linkup!

  

  If you don’t know this about me already, you must know that I am always looking at what the metaphor for life might be that God wants to teach me. The graphic above is a photo of the piece of glass that lodged downward into my left hand last Thursday. I was trying to get…

  BethSteffaniak

  January 13, 2015

  Avoidance, Choices, Christ-Centered, Conflict, Denial, Discouragement, Faith in God, Pain, Positive Focus, Toxic Baggage, Trials, Wedded Wednesday

  Conflict, Denial, Faith in God, Proactive, Self-examination