Tag: Abuse

• 64 Abusive Actions That Spell Trouble for Your Marriage

  

  We live in a culture and world racked by a rising and alarming number of sexual abuse accusations right now. But in marriage, the issue of abuse of every type can be extremely murky and convoluted. I think that’s because it’s so hard to know when your spouse is crossing a healthy and appropriate boundary […]

  BethSteffaniak

  January 30, 2018

  Abuse, Affairs, Alienation, Anger, Betrayal, Boundaries, Choices, Conflict, Control, Criticism, Deception, Denial, Discouragement, Divorce, Marriage, Pain, Perspective, Safety, Victim, Withdrawal

  Abuse, Abuse in Marriage, Abusive Marriage, Anger, Boundaries, Conflict, Control, Safety, Separation, Victim, Violence

• Victim Love Style in Marriage And FMTM Linkup

  

  Here at Messy Marriage, I’ve talked about a “Victim Mentality” a lot over the years, but this isn’t necessarily what I’m talking about today. A victim mentality can develop in any person’s life regardless of their love style. A victim mentality is a fixation on a real or supposed victimizer in one’s life, feeling helpless […]

  BethSteffaniak

  November 29, 2016

  Abuse, Accountability, Addictions, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Codependency, Conflict, Emotions, Fear, From Messes to Messages Linkup, Openness, Pain, Parenthood, Prayer, Self-deception, Self-Protection, Toxic Baggage, Victim, Victim Mentality, Vulnerability, Withdrawal, Wounds

  Abuse, Addictions, Anxiety, Avoidance, Compliant, Detached, Fears, Prayer, Prayer journaling, Secrets, Victim, Vulnerability

• The Controller Love Style And FMTM Linkup

  

  With Thanksgiving in the U.S. a day away, it seems appropriate to discuss the many shades of a Controller “love style!” We wouldn’t be able to get through a true Thanksgiving meal or celebration without the “Control Freak” in somebody rising to the surface like a tasty batch of homemade rolls  . . . minus […]

  BethSteffaniak

  November 22, 2016

  Abuse, Alienation, Anger, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Conflict, Control, Counseling, Emotions, From Messes to Messages Linkup, Pain, Parenthood, Prayer, Safety, Self-Protection, Stress, Support, Toxic Baggage, Trauma, Wounds

  Abuse, Anger, Conflict, Control, Counseling, Support, Wounds

• What ’50 Shades’ Reveals about Your Marriage and WW Linkup!

  

  I’m amazed at all the hype surrounding 50 Shades of Grey. Our country and probably the world is celebrating the release of this movie in more “shades” than I can count. I haven’t seen a lot of talk on the news or TV about the backlash this movie is creating, but I see it in […]

  BethSteffaniak

  February 10, 2015

  Abuse, Bonding, Christ-Centered, Control, False Beliefs, Fear, Intimacy, Jesus’ Sacrifice, Love of God, Oneness, Pain, Sex & Sexuality, Trust, Vulnerability, Wedded Wednesday

  50 Shades, Abuse, BDSM, Bondage, Intimacy, S & M, Sex, Sex & Sexuality, Trust