My Husband’s View on Spiritual Leadership

Spiritual Leadership

I’m excited to add a new installment to my “Pick Hubby’s Brain” video series this week. We’ve had some camera issues (and quite frankly, are still having some issues to iron out) but am happy to offer some food for thought from my wise and witty hubby on the sticky subject of spiritual leadership. I am excited for this because it is such a common struggle among the wives I talk with, so I hope it gives you some new insight on the challenge to navigate this winding path in marriage.



What are the sticking points you face in dealing with spiritual leadership in your marriage?


What would you like to see as the next topic addressed in the “Pick Hubby’s Brain” series?

Linking up with – Mommy Moments, Weekend Whispers, Making Your Home SingMondays @ Soul Survival, Faith ‘n Friends, Word of God Speak, Spiritual Sundays, Sitting Among Friends, Give Me Grace, Family, Friendship and Faith, DanceWithJesusFriday and Kelly at Social Butterfly Sunday


10 responses to “My Husband’s View on Spiritual Leadership”

  1. Andrew Budek-Schmeisser Avatar
    Andrew Budek-Schmeisser

    Great topic, Beth!

    The hardest thing about spiritual leadership has been that we came from very different spiritual ‘homes’; Barbara’s main influence was Charismatic Catholic, and mine was a Zen-inspired kind of gnosticism. She spoke in tongues; I was reading “The Cloud of Unknowing” and Paul Tillich.

    I don’t know if I could have HAD any hope of spiritual leadership. I did try, but there was genuine bafflement on both side.

    Since then, I’ve come to some understanding of her ‘position’, though I don’t embrace it; but the knowing has come too late.


    1. I can only imagine how difficult blending those faith’s would be, Andrew. I do pray that the “understanding” you’ve come to is a comfort to Barbara, even though you feel it is a bit too late. In God’s economy, I think everything is redeemable and used for good. Thanks so much for your ever-present encouragement, my friend! Praying for you daily!


  2. So, so good to see you and Gary back in action again! What an incredible team God has put together in your marriage. I pray He will continue to use your conversations with others in powerful ways.

    Tim and I listened to your discussion together last night … a very WELCOME break from the political wrangling that we all find ourselves party to these days.

    Spiritual leadership is a complex dance in the marriage relationship … I find myself wrestling for a deeper understanding in this season of life. I’ve come to embrace the truth that there are times when the wife has been gifted in certain ways that allow her to lead her husband even within the context of a humble spirit. As we ‘submit to one another out of reverence for Christ’ as brothers and sisters in the faith {Ephesians 1:21} a greater joy and freedom flows to allow the following verses about marriage to play out in ways that are respectful, loving, and kind.

    Thanks for putting this on the table. This is important stuff …


    1. Aww, thanks, Linda! I was hoping you two would watch it. I kind of feel like we have this in common–a desire to include our hubbies in our ministries. They are great guys to be sure! And I’m glad you found it a refreshing change from the political scene.

      Yes, complex is putting it mildly! I thought as we were talking on this subject that there could be many videos on this particular issue to unpack more and more nuances and challenges. But I don’t want to wear Gary out! This continues to be a work-in-progress for him, but one he is committed to. I guess it’s that same old persevering spirit we need to have in spiritual matters–always seeking to try, try again with greater love and grace in the mix!


      1. As I was digging around for resources for my upcoming marriage mini-series, I discovered some writing I had done about this very subject a few years back. It’s a bit of a different slant, but I hope it will encourage us all to be fully authentically ourselves as we navigate the call to minister to one another in love.



  3. I think it’s great that I am your neighbour at ‘Give me Grace’ as it means I’ve found your blog 🙂 I live messy marriage. It’s what I’ve written about too. I look forward to listening to more of your conversations .


    1. and I found it super helpful. like really, really helpful. Thank you for not pretending it’s straightforward, and thank your husband for helping me get some understanding of what it’s like to be the man.


    2. Thanks so much for visiting and jumping in to encourage me, my friend. I’m so glad we share the same God-given passion for accepting that marriage is often messy and full of potholes. I look forward to more interactions with you too. I do hope you’ll let me know your first name. But if that’s something you’d rather keep private for obvious reason, I totally understand!

      I’ll let my hubby know what you said. I’m sure it will encourage him as well!


  4. Hi Beth, sorry I’m a bit late in watching this video. I love Gary’s (and your) hearts to to be willing to share your thoughts on spiritual leadership. I like that you both reminded us that going to God and praying for our spouse in reference to this issue is key. Having the patience and not always “assuming” are characteristics I tend to ignore, but shouldn’t! Thank you for your sweet words of wisdom and for Gary’s willingness to participate. Love you both.


  5. Beth, this is so great to get a glimpse into what husbands think, especially when it comes to spiritual leadership. Thanks for sharing with #SocialButterflySunday! Hope to see you link up again this week 🙂


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