Category: Realistic Expectations
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5 Tips for Finding a Good Counselor

Recently I wrote a post about the unfortunate reality that counseling does not always work or improve a couple’s marriage. I believe there are reasons for this failure and I talk about them at – 7 Reasons Marriage Counseling May Fail. But today I want to give you some insight into how to choose a…
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“9 Thoughts that Can Change Your Marriage” Giveaway and Linkup

I was excited to receive and read Sheila Gregoire’s latest marriage book, 9 Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage. If you don’t know Sheila, then you need to get to know her! She blogs at To Love, Honor and Vacuum and in her characteristic transparent and witty style, she used 9 pat answers as a…
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Can I out-shout you? SJT Video

In today’s “Sloppy Joe Time” video, I’m pulling back the curtains on a rather unflattering time when I made my messy marriage that much messier by trying to “out-shout” my husband in times of conflict! I hope you’ll check it out by clicking on the less than 3 minute video below! One more…
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Waiting on Your Mate to Change? And WW Linkup

Are you feeling like you’re tired of beating your head against a wall because your mate never changes? Does your spouse continue to deny the glaring issues that you see in his or her character and choices? Do you fear that if your mate doesn’t wake up soon your love and marriage may not survive?…
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7 Reasons Marriage Counseling May Fail

Last week we had the privilege of having Robi Smith of Hopeful Wife Today share a piece of her very brave testimony about her husband’s pornography addiction and how they are working toward putting their marriage together with God’s help. However, I noticed that Robi responded to a comment in the comment section, saying that…
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Can I read your mind? SJT Video

Today I’m sharing a “Sloppy Joe Time” video that hits close to home because I put this sloppy expectation into action just a week or so ago. Honestly, I don’t think there will be a day when I won’t have to clean up some mess that I make in my marriage! 😉 I am a…
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When Your Spouse Stonewalls You And WW Linkup
Creating a confessional culture is not for the faint of heart, especially if you are trying to do so in a deeply wounded and dysfunctional marriage. As a marriage life-coach and counselor, I’d say that the majority of folks I deal with are in a relationship where one partner is doing most of the humbling…
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When Your Apology is Used Against You – And WW Linkup!

It’s never easy to make yourself vulnerable nor to lay your heart out on the table in a sincere and humble apology before the one person on earth who matters most—your spouse. But what’s worse is when your spouse uses your apology against you. Typically, a spouse won’t do this unless: Your spouse simply got…
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Why won’t you give as much as me? Sloppy Joe Time Video

For this “Sloppy Joe Time” I’m talking about the common human temptation to keep a record of all the wrongs my mate does against me. Since I know that God’s word tells me not to keep a record of wrongs, then what’s a girl to do? Well, I’ll tell ya what this girl is trying…
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Will you soothe my mood? SJT Video

Ever give yourself permission to vent with your spouse? Well, I certainly do and have! In my latest “Sloppy Joe Time” video, I share what I’m trying to get my spouse to do when I vent (yes, that means “messy manipulation” is present!). And I share the three positive strategies I’m using to turn that…


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