Category: Pain

• New Series on Wounds of the Past and Linkup

  

  Lately, it seems like God is dealing with me through all sorts of sources on the need to deal with old wounds that trigger me and my hubby in our marriage. It’s like everywhere I turn the subject turns to old wounds … From my Men and Openness Survey results (see post here on how…

  BethSteffaniak

  February 9, 2016

  Emotions, Failure, In-Laws, Marriage Mistakes, Mess Makers, Messy Mom’s and Dad’s, Pain, Self-awareness, Self-Reflection, Toxic Baggage, Triggers in Marriage Series, Wedded Wednesday, Withdrawal, Wounds

  Emotional Wounds, Self-awareness, Self-Reflection, Toxic Baggage, Triggers

• What Men Fear about Opening Up And Linkup

  

  Today I want to continue to unpack the results of the “Men and Openness” survey by looking at question #5 … What do you feel you need to overcome in order to be better able to identify and share your feelings? (I allowed the men to choose all that applied) 70.49% – My fear of…

  BethSteffaniak

  February 2, 2016

  Alienation, Anger, Authenticity, Avoidance, Balance, Blaming, Bonding, Boundaries, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Confession, Confessional Culture, Conflict, Confrontation, Control, Criticism, Discouragement, Emotions, Empathy, Encouragement, Fear, Gender Differences, Humility, Listening Skills, Marriage, Openness, Pain, Perseverance, Positive Focus, Prayer, Pride, Respect, Security, Validation, Vulnerability, Wedded Wednesday, Withdrawal

  Affirmation, Communication, Conflict, Empathy, Fear, Listening Skills. Active Listening, Openness, Prayer, Vulnerability

• The Day I Walked Out on My Husband And WW Linkup

  

  Today we have Aimee Imbeau who blogs at A Work of Grace with us sharing a guest post and hosting Wedded Wednesday while I am on vacation. I hope you’ll welcome her with oodles of comments and encouragement! 😉 I was devastated by his careless words spoken the night before as I walked out my…

  BethSteffaniak

  October 27, 2015

  Abandonment, Acceptance, Affairs, Alienation, Anger, Betrayal, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Commitment, Conflict, Faith in God, Forgiveness, God’s Redemption, Grace, Negative Self-Talk, Pain, Perseverance, Positive Focus, Reconciliation, Redemption, Resentments, Self-Reflection, Trials, Truth, Wedded Wednesday

  Acceptance, Forgiveness, God’s Redemption, Mercy, Perseverance, Proactive, Rejection, Trust in God

• Can I point out your flaws? SJT Video

  

  Today I’m back with another “Sloppy Joe Time” that addresses our tendency as faulty and defensive human beings to point the finger at our spouse’s flaws and “specks” rather than going on a “Plank Hunt” in our own lives. I’ve been there and done that and am here to say there’s a better way to…

  BethSteffaniak

  September 27, 2015

  Attitude, Authenticity, Blaming, Boundaries, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Comfort, Confessional Culture, Criticism, Encouragement, Expectations, Got Truth?, Pain, Plank Hunt Series, Proactive, Responsibility, Self-Reflection, Sloppy Joe Time Video, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Practices, Surrender, Truth, Video, Vulnerability

  Blaming, God’s Truth, Pain, Proactive, Responsibility, Self-examination

• Plank Hunting – Shoot Down Your Excuses And WW Linkup

  

  When I was about 11 years old, my mother did not ask me to help with getting the table set or cleaning up after a meal. I remember feeling guilty whenever I saw my older sister helping my mom with those tasks. Finally, my mom woke up to the fact that I was indeed old…

  BethSteffaniak

  September 1, 2015

  Change, Choices, Confessional Culture, False Beliefs, Fear, Guilt, Pain, Plank Hunt Series, Self-Protection, Self-Reflection, Spiritual Growth, Survey, Truth, Wedded Wednesday

  Barriers, Character Flaws, Confession, Growth, Guilt, Pain, Self-examination, Shame, Truth

• Push Out of Your Comfort Zone And WW Linkup!

  

  I mentioned during week one of the “Triple C” challenge that I wanted to gradually make each week in this challenge a bit more vulnerable—pushing you ever-so-slightly out of your comfort zone. So far I believe I’ve kept the challenges fairly safe and mild. But this week it’s time to ramp it up a tad.…

  BethSteffaniak

  August 4, 2015

  Affection, Affirmation, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Comfort, Dates with Mates, Encouragement, Faith in God, Love of God, Marriage Spark, Pain, Perseverance, Romance, Sex & Sexuality, Triple “C” Challenge, Vulnerability, Wedded Wednesday

  Challenge, Comfort Zone, Pain, Perseverance, Vulnerability

• When Your Spouse Stonewalls You And WW Linkup

  Creating a confessional culture is not for the faint of heart, especially if you are trying to do so in a deeply wounded and dysfunctional marriage. As a marriage life-coach and counselor, I’d say that the majority of folks I deal with are in a relationship where one partner is doing most of the humbling…

  BethSteffaniak

  July 14, 2015

  Acceptance, Alienation, Boundaries, Choices, Christ-Centered, Commitment, Confessional Culture, Contentment, Discouragement, Expectations, Faith in God, Love for God, Love of God, Pain, Perseverance, Realistic Expectations, Self-sacrifice, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Practices, Surrender, Trials, Vulnerability, Wedded Wednesday

  Boundaries, Expectations, Faith in God, Love of God, Perseverance, Pursue God, Spiritual Growth

• Are You ‘In Over Your Head’? Video

  I wanted to share a video this week of a song that has become very close to my heart lately. I love the lyrics because it says, “I’m in over my head.” I love that idea because, so much of the time, we hear songs or messages that talk about walking on water or being…

  BethSteffaniak

  June 14, 2015

  Choices, Christ-Centered, Discouragement, Emotions, Faith in God, Fear, Pain, Surrender, Trials, Video

  Faith in God, Pain, Surrender, Trials

• Why Fearing God is Needed for Your Trial and Messy Marriage

  

  I know it’s been a while since I posted a “Sloppy Joe Time” and, FYI, I have two more in the queue! However, today I’m posting this very important video by Francis Chan that explains why the fear of God  is needed in life, especially if you’ve been in a long-standing trial. I know how…

  BethSteffaniak

  May 31, 2015

  Christ-Centered, Faith in God, False Beliefs, Fear, Pain, Perseverance, Trials, Trust, Worry

  Faith in God, Fear of God, Pain, Trials, Trust

• ‘Broken Together’ Video

  

  I’m going to try and scale back here in order to spend a bit more time working on several book projects I have in the works. So I will be sharing my SJT videos every other week instead of weekly. But on the weeks that I discover a video that’s worth sharing, I’ll be sharing…

  BethSteffaniak

  March 1, 2015

  Bonding, Choices, Christ-Centered, Faith in God, God’s Redemption, Humility, Love for God, Love of God, Oneness, Pain, Perseverance, Redemption, Support, Surrender, Toxic Baggage, Trials, Trust, Unity, Video, Vulnerability, Wounds

  Bonding, Brokenness, Casting Crowns, God’s Love, Imperfect, Redemption, Vulnerability, Wounds