Category: Fear

• My Failures, God’s Inroads And WW Linkup!

  

  I’ve been studying in 1st Samuel and God has been bringing to my attention all the times that people either wrongly let pride overtake them or rightly let humility be their response to circumstances. [Tweet “I honestly think God brings to our attention the very things we need! #Ineedhumility”] In fact, humility is one area…

  BethSteffaniak

  May 3, 2016

  About Me, Acceptance, Anger, Attitude, Blaming, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Confession, Conflict, Criticism, Denial, Discouragement, Emotions, False Beliefs, Fear, God’s Redemption, Grace, Humility, Love of God, Mess Makers, My Failures Series, Negative Self-Talk, Perspective, Pride, Self-awareness, Self-deception, Victim Mentality, Wedded Wednesday

  Competitiveness, Conflict, God’s Redemption, God’s Refinement, Humility, Perspective, Pride, Sober view

• Coming Out as a Christian to Your Unbelieving Spouse

  

  I’m excited to have yet another edition of “Picking Hubby’s Brain” as we endeavor to answer one of the many questions we’ve been given from you our readers/viewers on how to navigate challenges in marriage. This husband’s question deals with “change” and in particular dealing with a drastic change in marriage, moving from atheism to…

  BethSteffaniak

  April 17, 2016

  Acceptance, Attitude, Authenticity, Avoidance, Bonding, Change, Christ-Centered, Communication, Confession, Conflict, Differences, Encouragement, Faith in God, Fear, Love for God, Marriage, Openness, Positive Focus, Respect, Spiritual Mismatch, Truth, Vulnerability

  Atheism, Belief Systems, Change, Christianity, Confession, Courage, Faith in God, Fear, Truth, Vulnerability

• Taming Triggers in Your Marriage and Life Plus WW Linkup

  

  You’d think that after almost 29 years of marriage, my hubby and I would have tamed all of the “beasts” that arise from the moments when our wounds are triggered … but you would be wrong! 😉 I think it’s sort of like the apostle Paul’s “thorn” that God did not remove from his life…

  BethSteffaniak

  March 1, 2016

  Anger, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Confession, Conflict, Emotions, Fear, Humility, Pain, Perspective, Prayer, Respect, Responsibility, Self-awareness, Self-Reflection, Spiritual Practices, Toxic Baggage, Triggers in Marriage Series, Vulnerability, Wounds

  Anger, Communication, Conflict, Emotions, Fear, Healing, Prayer, Processing Emotions, Triggers, Wounds

• What Men Fear about Opening Up And Linkup

  

  Today I want to continue to unpack the results of the “Men and Openness” survey by looking at question #5 … What do you feel you need to overcome in order to be better able to identify and share your feelings? (I allowed the men to choose all that applied) 70.49% – My fear of…

  BethSteffaniak

  February 2, 2016

  Alienation, Anger, Authenticity, Avoidance, Balance, Blaming, Bonding, Boundaries, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Confession, Confessional Culture, Conflict, Confrontation, Control, Criticism, Discouragement, Emotions, Empathy, Encouragement, Fear, Gender Differences, Humility, Listening Skills, Marriage, Openness, Pain, Perseverance, Positive Focus, Prayer, Pride, Respect, Security, Validation, Vulnerability, Wedded Wednesday, Withdrawal

  Affirmation, Communication, Conflict, Empathy, Fear, Listening Skills. Active Listening, Openness, Prayer, Vulnerability

• How Enabling Your Mate Controls ‘You’

  

  I want to discuss one more way that our mates can sometimes control us … through the ever-tempting avenue of enabling them. The reason I say this is “tempting” is probably because I feel this draw as a woman and mother perhaps a bit more than men generally do. Enabling actually springs up from a…

  BethSteffaniak

  January 30, 2016

  About Me, Acceptance, Anger, Balance, Boundaries, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Codependency, Confrontation, Control, Discouragement, Enabling, Faith in God, False Beliefs, Fear, Forgiveness, Negative Self-Talk, Negotiation, Pride, Realistic Expectations, Resentments, Responsibility, Self-Protection, Self-Reflection, Selfishness, Togetherness, Trust, Worry

  Balance, Confrontation, Control, Enabling, Fear, Negotiation, Responsibility, Worry

• What Men Say About Opening Up And WW Linkup!

  

  Today we are diving into the first of the responses from the “Men and Openness” survey. The first question I posed to men was: What makes opening up and disclosing your feelings to your wife difficult? Here are the results … 65.52% – I am afraid my wife will become upset by my disclosures. 53.45%…

  BethSteffaniak

  November 10, 2015

  Acceptance, Alienation, Anger, Attitude, Authenticity, Avoidance, Blaming, Choices, Communication, Confessional Culture, Conflict, Criticism, Discouragement, Encouragement, Fear, Listening Skills, Marriage, Men and Openness Series, Positive Focus, Prayer, Respect, Safety, Support, Trust, Validation, Vulnerability, Wedded Wednesday

  Communication, Confession, Conflict, Emotional Safety, Emotions, Openness, Safety, Vulnerability

• A Wife’s Perspective on Men and Openness And WW Linkup!

  

  In a couple of weeks I will be diving into a series on “Men and Openness” that’s based upon a survey that I’ve been conducting for several months now. But today I want to approach this sticky subject from my own feminine and often skewed (probably due to Estrogen) perspective. 😉 [Tweet “My husband and…

  BethSteffaniak

  October 20, 2015

  About Me, Acceptance, Authenticity, Avoidance, Bonding, Change, Choices, Comfort, Communication, Conflict, Control, Differences, Emotions, Encouragement, Expectations, False Beliefs, Fear, Gender Differences, Intimacy, Men and Openness Series, Negative Self-Talk, Negotiation, Perspective, Priorities, Proactive, Realistic Expectations, Self-Protection, Togetherness, Truth, Validation, Vulnerability, Wedded Wednesday

  Barriers, Communication, Conflict, Conversation Skills, Emotions, False Beliefs, Gender Differences, Openness, Vulnerability

• When an Unexpected Detour Interrupts the Journey And WW Linkup!

  

  Today we are excited and honored to have Nannette Elkins from Hope in the Healing sharing a guest post and hosting Wedded Wednesday while my husband and I (Beth) travel to Dallas for a Marriage Ministry Conference. Please make her feel welcome, since she’s been a faithful presence in our linkups and is so very…

  BethSteffaniak

  September 8, 2015

  Christ-Centered, Contentment, Discouragement, Expectations, Faith in God, False Beliefs, Fear, God’s Redemption, Patience, Perseverance, Redemption, Trust, Wedded Wednesday

  Delays, Encouragement, God’s Redemption, Patience, Trust in God

• Plank Hunting – Shoot Down Your Excuses And WW Linkup

  

  When I was about 11 years old, my mother did not ask me to help with getting the table set or cleaning up after a meal. I remember feeling guilty whenever I saw my older sister helping my mom with those tasks. Finally, my mom woke up to the fact that I was indeed old…

  BethSteffaniak

  September 1, 2015

  Change, Choices, Confessional Culture, False Beliefs, Fear, Guilt, Pain, Plank Hunt Series, Self-Protection, Self-Reflection, Spiritual Growth, Survey, Truth, Wedded Wednesday

  Barriers, Character Flaws, Confession, Growth, Guilt, Pain, Self-examination, Shame, Truth

• Waiting on Your Mate to Change? And WW Linkup

  

  Are you feeling like you’re tired of beating your head against a wall because your mate never changes? Does your spouse continue to deny the glaring issues that you see in his or her character and choices? Do you fear that if your mate doesn’t wake up soon your love and marriage may not survive?…

  BethSteffaniak

  August 25, 2015

  Accountability, Attitude, Blaming, Boundaries, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Confessional Culture, Discouragement, Expectations, Faith in God, Fear, God’s Redemption, Perseverance, Perspective, Plank Hunt Series, Positive Focus, Realistic Expectations, Redemption, Responsibility, Self-Reflection, Toxic Baggage, Victim Mentality, Vulnerability, Wedded Wednesday, Wounds

  Choices, Christ-centered, Confessional Culture, Denial, Proactive, Self-examination, Self-Reflection