Category: Criticism

• Video of Wives Confessing Bad Habits in Marriage

  

  I’m excited to be back with another video chronicling the confessions of several wives on one or two bad habits they bring into their marriages. These are all from friends of mine who share openly about their flaws, along with a few that are laugh-out-loud funny! I hope you’ll stick around to watch this 5 minute…

  BethSteffaniak

  October 14, 2017

  About Me, Attitude, Authenticity, Bad Habits, Blaming, Communication, Confession, Control, Criticism, Discouragement, Marriage, Marriage Mistakes, Mess Makers, Messy Mr. and Mrs. Videos, Negative Self-Talk, Self-deception, Self-Reflection, Video

  Assuming, Bad Habits, Control, Criticism, Habits, Listening, Negative Focus, Pickiness

• My Failures, God’s Inroads And WW Linkup!

  

  I’ve been studying in 1st Samuel and God has been bringing to my attention all the times that people either wrongly let pride overtake them or rightly let humility be their response to circumstances. [Tweet “I honestly think God brings to our attention the very things we need! #Ineedhumility”] In fact, humility is one area…

  BethSteffaniak

  May 3, 2016

  About Me, Acceptance, Anger, Attitude, Blaming, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Confession, Conflict, Criticism, Denial, Discouragement, Emotions, False Beliefs, Fear, God’s Redemption, Grace, Humility, Love of God, Mess Makers, My Failures Series, Negative Self-Talk, Perspective, Pride, Self-awareness, Self-deception, Victim Mentality, Wedded Wednesday

  Competitiveness, Conflict, God’s Redemption, God’s Refinement, Humility, Perspective, Pride, Sober view

• What Men Fear about Opening Up And Linkup

  

  Today I want to continue to unpack the results of the “Men and Openness” survey by looking at question #5 … What do you feel you need to overcome in order to be better able to identify and share your feelings? (I allowed the men to choose all that applied) 70.49% – My fear of…

  BethSteffaniak

  February 2, 2016

  Alienation, Anger, Authenticity, Avoidance, Balance, Blaming, Bonding, Boundaries, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Confession, Confessional Culture, Conflict, Confrontation, Control, Criticism, Discouragement, Emotions, Empathy, Encouragement, Fear, Gender Differences, Humility, Listening Skills, Marriage, Openness, Pain, Perseverance, Positive Focus, Prayer, Pride, Respect, Security, Validation, Vulnerability, Wedded Wednesday, Withdrawal

  Affirmation, Communication, Conflict, Empathy, Fear, Listening Skills. Active Listening, Openness, Prayer, Vulnerability

• ‘Fix’-ated on Changing Your Mate?

  

  Today we continue to unpack the many subtle ways our spouses can control us by talking today about the temptation to try to “fix” or change our spouse because he/she doesn’t do his/her part or do it correctly. This is very similar to the victim-mentality post I wrote about recently, but the emphasis is on…

  BethSteffaniak

  January 16, 2016

  About Me, Acceptance, Alienation, Anger, Blaming, Boundaries, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Conflict, Confrontation, Control, Criticism, Denial, Discouragement, False Beliefs, Magical Thinking, Nagging, Resentments, Responsibility, Self-awareness, Self-deception, Unity, Victim Mentality

  Anger, Blaming, Conflict, Denial, Fixer, Judgmental, Perspective, Responsibility, Self-examination

• What Men Say About Opening Up And WW Linkup!

  

  Today we are diving into the first of the responses from the “Men and Openness” survey. The first question I posed to men was: What makes opening up and disclosing your feelings to your wife difficult? Here are the results … 65.52% – I am afraid my wife will become upset by my disclosures. 53.45%…

  BethSteffaniak

  November 10, 2015

  Acceptance, Alienation, Anger, Attitude, Authenticity, Avoidance, Blaming, Choices, Communication, Confessional Culture, Conflict, Criticism, Discouragement, Encouragement, Fear, Listening Skills, Marriage, Men and Openness Series, Positive Focus, Prayer, Respect, Safety, Support, Trust, Validation, Vulnerability, Wedded Wednesday

  Communication, Confession, Conflict, Emotional Safety, Emotions, Openness, Safety, Vulnerability

• Can I point out your flaws? SJT Video

  

  Today I’m back with another “Sloppy Joe Time” that addresses our tendency as faulty and defensive human beings to point the finger at our spouse’s flaws and “specks” rather than going on a “Plank Hunt” in our own lives. I’ve been there and done that and am here to say there’s a better way to…

  BethSteffaniak

  September 27, 2015

  Attitude, Authenticity, Blaming, Boundaries, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Comfort, Confessional Culture, Criticism, Encouragement, Expectations, Got Truth?, Pain, Plank Hunt Series, Proactive, Responsibility, Self-Reflection, Sloppy Joe Time Video, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Practices, Surrender, Truth, Video, Vulnerability

  Blaming, God’s Truth, Pain, Proactive, Responsibility, Self-examination

• Plank Hunt – My Unforgiving Ways And WW Linkup

  

  I’m excited to get back to the “Plank Hunt” series because it’s so important to realize the power we have to impact our marriage for the better by taking responsibility for our “planks” (see Mt. 7:3-5). I’m sharing today about one of mine that I found in doing the “Character Flaw Inventory.” If you didn’t…

  BethSteffaniak

  September 22, 2015

  About Me, Accountability, Anger, Choices, Christ-Centered, Confession, Confessional Culture, Criticism, Emotions, Faith in God, False Beliefs, Forgiveness, God’s Redemption, Love of God, Negative Self-Talk, Plank Hunt Series, Redemption, Resentments, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Practices, Spiritual Warfare, Surrender, Toxic Baggage, Truth, Wounds

  Bitterness, Confession, Forgiveness, Spiritual Warfare, Surrender

• Can I read your mind? SJT Video

  

  Today I’m sharing a “Sloppy Joe Time” video that hits close to home because I put this sloppy expectation into action just a week or so ago. Honestly, I don’t think there will be a day when I won’t have to clean up some mess that I make in my marriage! 😉 I am a…

  BethSteffaniak

  August 16, 2015

  About Me, Blaming, Boundaries, Communication, Confession, Confessional Culture, Criticism, Denial, Discouragement, Emotions, Entitlement, Expectations, False Beliefs, Fear, Humility, Insecurity, Negative Self-Talk, Pride, Realistic Expectations, Respect, Self-Protection, Self-Reflection, Selfishness, Sloppy Joe Time Video, Video, Vulnerability

  Assumptions, Boundaries, Communication, False Beliefs, Insecurity, Lies, Mind-Reading, Respect, Vulnerability

• Battling to Spiritually Lead? Sloppy Joe Time Video

  

  Sometimes the “best laid plans” of wives and husband’s go awry! Especially when wives, like me, try to encourage their husbands to lead spiritually. In this video, I share about how I struggle with this in my own marriage and describe how my over-zealousness, eh-hem, “pride” really hurt my husband and children. Maybe you can…

  BethSteffaniak

  June 7, 2015

  About Me, Acceptance, Boundaries, Christ-Centered, Control, Criticism, Discouragement, Pride, Respect, Sloppy Joe Time Video, Spiritual Leadership, Spiritual Practices, Submission, Support, Video

  Authority, Control, Criticism, Respect, Spiritual Leadership, Submission, Trust God, Usurping Authority

• Why won’t you give as much as me? Sloppy Joe Time Video

  

  For this “Sloppy Joe Time” I’m talking about the common human temptation to keep a record of all the wrongs my mate does against me. Since I know that God’s word tells me not to keep a record of wrongs, then what’s a girl to do? Well, I’ll tell ya what this girl is trying…

  BethSteffaniak

  May 17, 2015

  Acceptance, Anger, Blaming, Christ-Centered, Confrontation, Criticism, Expectations, Faith in God, False Beliefs, Forgiveness, Grace, Love, Nagging, Negative Self-Talk, Positive Focus, Realistic Expectations, Sloppy Joe Time Video, Video

  Anger, Blaming, Confrontation, Criticism, Grace, Record of Wrongs