Category: Negative Self-Talk

• The Day I Walked Out on My Husband And WW Linkup

  

  Today we have Aimee Imbeau who blogs at A Work of Grace with us sharing a guest post and hosting Wedded Wednesday while I am on vacation. I hope you’ll welcome her with oodles of comments and encouragement! 😉 I was devastated by his careless words spoken the night before as I walked out my…

  BethSteffaniak

  October 27, 2015

  Abandonment, Acceptance, Affairs, Alienation, Anger, Betrayal, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Commitment, Conflict, Faith in God, Forgiveness, God’s Redemption, Grace, Negative Self-Talk, Pain, Perseverance, Positive Focus, Reconciliation, Redemption, Resentments, Self-Reflection, Trials, Truth, Wedded Wednesday

  Acceptance, Forgiveness, God’s Redemption, Mercy, Perseverance, Proactive, Rejection, Trust in God

• A Wife’s Perspective on Men and Openness And WW Linkup!

  

  In a couple of weeks I will be diving into a series on “Men and Openness” that’s based upon a survey that I’ve been conducting for several months now. But today I want to approach this sticky subject from my own feminine and often skewed (probably due to Estrogen) perspective. 😉 [Tweet “My husband and…

  BethSteffaniak

  October 20, 2015

  About Me, Acceptance, Authenticity, Avoidance, Bonding, Change, Choices, Comfort, Communication, Conflict, Control, Differences, Emotions, Encouragement, Expectations, False Beliefs, Fear, Gender Differences, Intimacy, Men and Openness Series, Negative Self-Talk, Negotiation, Perspective, Priorities, Proactive, Realistic Expectations, Self-Protection, Togetherness, Truth, Validation, Vulnerability, Wedded Wednesday

  Barriers, Communication, Conflict, Conversation Skills, Emotions, False Beliefs, Gender Differences, Openness, Vulnerability

• Plank Hunt – My Unforgiving Ways And WW Linkup

  

  I’m excited to get back to the “Plank Hunt” series because it’s so important to realize the power we have to impact our marriage for the better by taking responsibility for our “planks” (see Mt. 7:3-5). I’m sharing today about one of mine that I found in doing the “Character Flaw Inventory.” If you didn’t…

  BethSteffaniak

  September 22, 2015

  About Me, Accountability, Anger, Choices, Christ-Centered, Confession, Confessional Culture, Criticism, Emotions, Faith in God, False Beliefs, Forgiveness, God’s Redemption, Love of God, Negative Self-Talk, Plank Hunt Series, Redemption, Resentments, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Practices, Spiritual Warfare, Surrender, Toxic Baggage, Truth, Wounds

  Bitterness, Confession, Forgiveness, Spiritual Warfare, Surrender

• Can I read your mind? SJT Video

  

  Today I’m sharing a “Sloppy Joe Time” video that hits close to home because I put this sloppy expectation into action just a week or so ago. Honestly, I don’t think there will be a day when I won’t have to clean up some mess that I make in my marriage! 😉 I am a…

  BethSteffaniak

  August 16, 2015

  About Me, Blaming, Boundaries, Communication, Confession, Confessional Culture, Criticism, Denial, Discouragement, Emotions, Entitlement, Expectations, False Beliefs, Fear, Humility, Insecurity, Negative Self-Talk, Pride, Realistic Expectations, Respect, Self-Protection, Self-Reflection, Selfishness, Sloppy Joe Time Video, Video, Vulnerability

  Assumptions, Boundaries, Communication, False Beliefs, Insecurity, Lies, Mind-Reading, Respect, Vulnerability

• What shows you respect? SJT Video

  

  It’s never easy to show respect when we don’t see “eye-to-eye” with our mates. I must admit that respecting and submitting to my husband has been especially challenging for me in times of conflict. Thankfully, I’ve discovered three faulty beliefs that I’ve embraced about respect. Now whenever I notice these beliefs cropping up and I…

  BethSteffaniak

  August 1, 2015

  Acceptance, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Faith in God, False Beliefs, Listening Skills, Negative Self-Talk, Patience, Positive Focus, Respect, Self-Protection, Self-sacrifice, Sloppy Joe Time Video, Submission, Trust, Video

  Acceptance, Active Listening, Communication, Faith in God, Patience, Respect, Submission, Trust

• Covering for My Spouse and WW Linkup

  

  I think there’s just something in the DNA of every human being that tries to cover up vulnerabilities and weaknesses that we see in ourselves. Believe me, I know what I’m talking about, because that describes me much more than I’d like to admit! However, I think this pattern started way back in the Garden…

  BethSteffaniak

  June 30, 2015

  Acceptance, Anger, Attitude, Blaming, Choices, Christ-Centered, Confession, Confessional Culture, Confrontation, Faith in God, Forgiveness, Grace, Jesus’ Sacrifice, Love of God, Negative Self-Talk, Perseverance, Perspective, Positive Focus, Self-Protection, Self-sacrifice, Shame, Vulnerability, Wedded Wednesday, Wounds

  Blame, Forgiveness, Positive Focus, Shame, Vulnerability

• ‘Everybody Loves Vulnerability’ And WW Linkup!

  

  I am still unpacking what I feel are the important aspects of creating a confessional culture today, which leads me to share about a vulnerable and unflattering moment of mine in my own marriage. Sometimes the best way to communicate a reality is to learn from a real-life and raw human encounter in marriage. It…

  BethSteffaniak

  June 16, 2015

  About Me, Anger, Apologies, Attitude, Authenticity, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Confession, Confessional Culture, Conflict, Emotions, Expectations, False Beliefs, Fear, Grace, Humility, Insecurity, Negative Self-Talk, Pride, Self-Image, Self-Protection, Vulnerability, Wedded Wednesday

  Apologies, Confession, Humility, Pride, Vulnerable, Wedded Wednesday

• Why won’t you give as much as me? Sloppy Joe Time Video

  

  For this “Sloppy Joe Time” I’m talking about the common human temptation to keep a record of all the wrongs my mate does against me. Since I know that God’s word tells me not to keep a record of wrongs, then what’s a girl to do? Well, I’ll tell ya what this girl is trying…

  BethSteffaniak

  May 17, 2015

  Acceptance, Anger, Blaming, Christ-Centered, Confrontation, Criticism, Expectations, Faith in God, False Beliefs, Forgiveness, Grace, Love, Nagging, Negative Self-Talk, Positive Focus, Realistic Expectations, Sloppy Joe Time Video, Video

  Anger, Blaming, Confrontation, Criticism, Grace, Record of Wrongs

• Why Confession is Worth the Risk! And WW Linkup!

  

  I’m currently conducting a survey with men {or husbands in particular} that asks, What makes opening up and confessing to a mate or girlfriend so difficult? I only have a small number who’ve responded so far, but the answers to this one question have revealed a glaringly apparent fear of rejection. The sad fact is…

  BethSteffaniak

  May 12, 2015

  Alienation, Anger, Apologies, Attitude, Authenticity, Bonding, Confession, Confessional Culture, Conflict, Denial, Encouragement, False Beliefs, Guilt, Humility, Negative Self-Talk, Responsibility, Self-Protection, Trust, Truth, Unity, Vulnerability, Wedded Wednesday

  Apologies, Authenticity, Bonding, Confession, Denial, False Beliefs, Secrets

• Will you soothe my mood? SJT Video

  

  Ever give yourself permission to vent with your spouse? Well, I certainly do and have! In my latest “Sloppy Joe Time” video, I share what I’m trying to get my spouse to do when I vent (yes, that means “messy manipulation” is present!). And I share the three positive strategies I’m using to turn that…

  BethSteffaniak

  May 3, 2015

  About Me, Anger, Apologies, Attitude, Blaming, Boundaries, Choices, Christ-Centered, Comfort, Communication, Confession, Criticism, Emotions, Empathy, Expectations, False Beliefs, Humility, Negative Self-Talk, Prayer, Realistic Expectations, Self-Reflection, Sloppy Joe Time Video, Stress

  Apologies, Blame, Communication, Confession, Expectations, Prayer, Sloppy Joe Time, Venting