Category: Communication
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Will you soothe my mood? SJT Video

Ever give yourself permission to vent with your spouse? Well, I certainly do and have! In my latest “Sloppy Joe Time” video, I share what I’m trying to get my spouse to do when I vent (yes, that means “messy manipulation” is present!). And I share the three positive strategies I’m using to turn that…
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Can ‘Not Apologizing’ Motivate My Mate? and WW Linkup!

Today I’m continuing my series on why I didn’t apologize to my mate, by tackling the third justification I mentioned two weeks ago. {To see that post click here.} “I believed that because his sins seemed so much worse and more glaring than mine, that by confessing, I would only be pacifying him. In doing…
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How I was a Right-Fighter And WW Linkup!

I’m continuing to unpack why I didn’t confess my faults and sins to my husband in the early days of my marriage, focusing today on . . . Distortion Two – “If I’m right, I shouldn’t have to apologize!” It goes like this . . . If I’m saying the right things Or If I’m…
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3 Reasons I Did Not Confess to My Mate And WW Linkup!

There are many reasons why I didn’t confess my faults and sins to my husband in the early days of my marriage, but three of them stand out more than some of the others. I thought that confessing “I was wrong” about something to my husband was the equivalent of handing him the keys to…
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Why Can’t I Run to My Mom? SJT Video

In today’s “Sloppy Joe Time” video, I’m talking about an unhealthy practice I had early in my marriage. I was still running to my mother’s arms, when I should’ve been running to God’s and never leaving my husband’s! Can you relate? I hope you’ll click on the video below to see what I discovered and…
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Are You Too Familiar with Your Spouse? And WW Linkup!

There’s something that’s sadly accurate about the old saying, “familiarity breeds contempt”—especially in marriage! When you live in close proximity to another human being for any length of time, you will inevitably feel friction and irritation at some point . . . especially if your spouse is abusive or insensitive in any way. But even…
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The Unplugged Spouse {WW Linkup}

Today I’m so excited to have a guest post from Ugochi who blogs at Teshuva, where she writes on God’s redemption in life and marriage in ways that really resonate with what we are about here at Messy Marriage. She is continuing our discussion on striving for intimacy and oneness in marriage. I hope you’ll…
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Why are you so upset? SJT Video

Today I am continuing where I left off from my last Sloppy Joe Time video by dealing with the wounds that are often present in the conflicts of our marriages and lives. We may not see them, but in this video I give some tips for identifying them as well as what to do and…
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Does Your Spouse Need Perspective? SJT Video

Ever find yourself in the middle of a painful conversation about a past hurt with your spouse, and you don’t know why your spouse isn’t resonating with or able to receive in a gracious way how s/he has hurt you? Well, in my latest Sloppy Joe Time video, I talk about what you both need…
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Messy Management – SJT Video

It’s good to be back to my weekly “Sloppy Joe Time” video spots. Today I’m sharing a candid moment where I blew it with my husband. And I’m asking for your help! If you have any suggestions for how to solve an impasse that you might have with your spouse, please let me know! [Tweet…


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