Category: Discouragement

• 4 Ways to Get a Clean Slate in Life and Marriage

  

  I don’t know about you, but I’m a workaholic. And that applies to my marriage as well—always finding some way to clean up or spruce up what needs attention. That can be good. But today I want to talk about how doing too much in our own strength can derail us. After all, spring-cleaning our…

  BethSteffaniak

  June 9, 2019

  Bible Study, Bible Study Tools, Christ-Centered, Connection, Discouragement, Encouragement, Faith in God, Forgiveness, God’s Redemption, Grace, Jesus’ Sacrifice, Love of God, Marriage, Positive Focus, Prayer, Redemption, Salvation, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Practices, Spring Clean Your Marriage, Workaholic

  Christ-centered, Clean Slate, Faith in God, Gospel, Gospel-centered Marriage, Marriage Prayer, Prayer, Salvation

• How to Forgive the Past and Move Forward in Your Marriage

  

  Today, I’m excited to introduce to you my next guest blogger in the “Spring Clean Your Marriage” series—Julie Loos. She’s sharing about how subtle and destructive ruminating on our mates’ failures and limitations can be to our marriages. Be sure to check out her bio below, as well as making her feel welcome by commenting…

  BethSteffaniak

  June 2, 2019

  Acceptance, Alienation, Amends, Anger, Attitude, Bad Habits, Blaming, Boundaries, Christ-Centered, Communication, Counseling, Discouragement, Emotions, Encouragement, Expectations, Forgiveness, Humility, Marriage, Nagging, Negative Self-Talk, Pain, Positive Focus, Pride, Resentments, Self-awareness, Spiritual Growth, Spring Clean Your Marriage, Victim Mentality, Wounds

  Anger, Bitterness, Conflict, Counseling, Faith in God, Forgive, Forgiveness, Humble, Pouting, Pride, Prideful, Ruminating

• How to Clean Up Nitpicking Imperfections in Your Spouse

  

  Today, I’m excited to be joined by my next guest blogger in the “Spring Clean Your Marriage” series, Carmen Brown. Her story will move you in powerful ways to see the destructiveness of nitpicking your spouse’s imperfections! See her bio below to find out more about her and her ministry. I was alone in my…

  BethSteffaniak

  May 26, 2019

  Acceptance, Affairs, Alienation, Anger, Apologies, Blaming, Boundaries, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Conflict, Criticism, Discouragement, Divorce, Expectations, Faith in God, Forgiveness, Grace, Humility, Love, Love of God, Marriage, Nagging, Perfectionism, Positive Focus, Prayer, Proactive, Realistic Expectations, Remarriage, Resentments, Responsibility, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Practices, Spring Clean Your Marriage, Wounds

  Acceptance, Apologies, Baggage, Confession, Emotional Wounds, Faith in God, Forgiveness, God’s Love, Imperfections, Perfectionism

• 5 Ways to C.L.E.A.N. Up Manipulating Your Spouse with Guilt

  

  Today, I’m excited to continue in the “Spring Clean Your Marriage” series with my next guest blogger, Karen Friday. I feel a special kinship with her because she’s a pastor’s wife like me! I hope you’ll check out her bio below and make her feel welcome by commenting and sharing her wise words all around…

  BethSteffaniak

  May 19, 2019

  Acceptance, Anger, Avoidance, Bad Habits, Blaming, Boundaries, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Conflict, Criticism, Discouragement, Encouragement, Expectations, Faith in God, False Beliefs, Forgiveness, Grace, Guilt, Insecurity, Marriage, Nagging, Negative Self-Talk, Realistic Expectations, Resentments, Self-Reflection, Spiritual Practices, Spring Clean Your Marriage, Toxic Baggage, Withdrawal

  Acceptance, Boundaries, Communication, Conflict Resolution, Disrespect, Faith in God, Guilt, Guilt Messages, Insecurity, Jealousy, Manipulation, Marriage Boundaries, Respect, Trust, Trust Spouse

• 7 Tips for Cleaning Up a Boring Sex Life in Marriage

  

  Today I’m thrilled to have author and marriage blogger Sheila Gregoire as my guest in the “Spring Clean Your Marriage” series. See her bio below to find out more about her, as well as where to connect with her on social media.  We’ve all been there. Whether you are in a hectic season of life,…

  BethSteffaniak

  May 5, 2019

  Acceptance, Affection, Alienation, Anger, Attraction, Bonding, Change, Choices, Communication, Connection, Discouragement, Encouragement, Expectations, False Beliefs, Friendship, Intimacy, Marriage, Marriage Spark, Negative Self-Talk, Passion, Positive Focus, Priorities, Realistic Expectations, Self-awareness, Self-Reflection, Sex & Sexuality, Sex-Drive, Spring Clean Your Marriage, Truth

  Boring Sex, Expectations, Friendship in Marriage, Sex, Sex in Marriage, Sex-Drive, Sexual Attraction, Sexual Connection, Sexual Intimacy, Truth

• 7 Ways to Clean Up Being Disrespectful to Your Spouse

  

  Recently, I was disrespectful to my husband while we were at our small group Bible study, of all places! It was just that the direction my husband was taking during our discussion just got under my skin. So I sat there stewing—thinking of what I would say to him later in a private moment. Apparently,…

  BethSteffaniak

  April 28, 2019

  About Me, Acceptance, Alienation, Amends, Anger, Attitude, Blaming, Boundaries, Christ-Centered, Communication, Confession, Conflict, Criticism, Discouragement, Encouragement, Forgiveness, Humility, Listening Skills, Love of God, Marriage, Positive Focus, Prayer, Resentments, Respect, Self-Reflection, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Practices, Spring Clean Your Marriage, Surrender, Vulnerability

  Communication, Conflict, Cover with Love, Criticism, Disrespect, Forgiveness, God’s Love, Listening Skills, Respect, Surender to God

• Book Review and Giveaway – Doing Life with Your Adult Children

  

  My husband and I now have an empty-nest and are no longer expected to parent our adult children. Correction: we’re no longer “welcome” to parent them! 😉 So what’s an older mom to do? Sign up for senior aerobics? Spend her time at the mall, grieving away her sorrows with purchases-a-plenty? Being a mom is…

  BethSteffaniak

  March 24, 2019

  About Me, Acceptance, Alienation, Boundaries, Change, Choices, Communication, Conflict, Connection, Discouragement, Empty-nest, Encouragement, Expectations, Identity, In-Laws, Marriage, Messy Mom’s and Dad’s, Motherhood, Parenthood, Perseverance, Positive Focus, Realistic Expectations, Respect

  Adult Child, Adult Children, Boundaries, Communication, Empty-nest, Parenting, Respect

• Are You a More Perfectionistic or Realistic Spouse? Take the Quiz!

  

  My husband and I are both perfectionists—meaning we have double trouble when it comes to being realistic in our marriage. No wonder we had a very messy start and still dip into messy moments more often than I’d like to admit! 😉 And maybe, if you’re a perfectionist like us, you chant these words to…

  BethSteffaniak

  March 17, 2019

  Acceptance, Alienation, Anger, Apologies, Attitude, Boundaries, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Confession, Conflict, Connection, Criticism, Desires, Discouragement, Encouragement, Expectations, Failure, Faith in God, Forgiveness, Grace, Jesus’ Sacrifice, Love of God, Marriage, Nagging, Patience, Perfectionism, Personality, Positive Focus, Prayer, Realistic Expectations, Resentments, Self-awareness, Self-Reflection, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Practices, Spouse I Want to Be Series, Support, Surrender, Unity, Wounds

  Acceptance, Limitations, Love of God, Perfectionism, Perfectionistic Spouse, Realistic Expectations, Realistic Spouse, Trust in God

• Check out My Book Review and Giveaway of The Marriage Knot!

  

  I’ll be honest. Most marriage books do not hold my interest, unless they point me back to Christ in some form or fashion. So, I’m happy to say that the book I want to review and giveaway today does exactly that! It anchors the reader in the truths of Scripture—challenging us to live out the…

  BethSteffaniak

  March 3, 2019

  Acceptance, Affairs, Affection, Betrayal, Bonding, Book Review, Boundaries, Brokenness, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Conflict, Confrontation, Counseling, Discouragement, Divorce, Encouragement, Expectations, Faith in God, Forgiveness, Give-Away, God’s Redemption, Intimacy, Love of God, Marriage, Marriage Mistakes, Marriage Spark, Perseverance, Positive Focus, Prayer, Redemption, Self-Reflection, Spiritual Growth, Trauma, Trials

  Affair, Book Review, Faithfulness, God’s Redemption, Gospel-driven Marriage, Infidelity, Love of God, Marriage Mistakes, The Marriage Knot

• 6 Ways to Be a More Compassionate and Forgiving Spouse

  

  Have you ever noticed how hard it is to be compassionate toward your spouse when you’re angry with him or her? It gets even harder when we let our anger turn into bitterness because we’ve chosen not to forgive them. Ironically, keeping this same mindset and practice in place inevitably creates a hard heart as…

  BethSteffaniak

  February 17, 2019

  About Me, Acceptance, Alienation, Anger, Blaming, Bonding, Boundaries, Brokenness, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Conflict, Connection, Discouragement, Emotions, Empathy, Encouragement, Faith in God, Forgiveness, Grace, Humility, Jesus’ Sacrifice, Love for God, Love of God, Marriage, Pain, Perfectionism, Perspective, Positive Focus, Prayer, Pride, Realistic Expectations, Resentments, Self-Protection, Self-Reflection, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Practices, Spouse I Want to Be Series, Vulnerability, Wounds

  Christ’s Forgiveness, Christlike, Compassion, Empathy, Forgiveness, God’s Love, Perspective