Category: Counseling
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The Allure of the Illegitimate in Marriage
Today I’m continuing to unpack another way we can let our spouses control us with – “Choosing to have an affair or to look at pornography because you believe you’ve been deprived of ‘whatever’ in your marriage.” I have a sneaking suspicion that the spouses who need this message the most are not going to…
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What Men Say Motivates in Marriage And WW Linkup!
I’m back from Christmas vacation and I have to tell you, it’s been hard to get back into the swing of blogging again. Not that I don’t enjoy it, but currently I feel a bit burned out by it all, since my life at the moment has less margin than I would like for it…
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5 Important Ways to Identify Your Emotions And WW Linkup!
We’re continuing to unpack the “Men and Openness” survey responses, focusing today upon the second most popular response (53.45%) from the men: “I don’t know how to articulate my feelings.” However, I would like to focus today on one key aspect of articulating feelings—becoming more self-aware about our feelings. (Wives listen up, because this is…
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5 Tips for Finding a Good Counselor
Recently I wrote a post about the unfortunate reality that counseling does not always work or improve a couple’s marriage. I believe there are reasons for this failure and I talk about them at – 7 Reasons Marriage Counseling May Fail. But today I want to give you some insight into how to choose a…
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7 Reasons Marriage Counseling May Fail
Last week we had the privilege of having Robi Smith of Hopeful Wife Today share a piece of her very brave testimony about her husband’s pornography addiction and how they are working toward putting their marriage together with God’s help. However, I noticed that Robi responded to a comment in the comment section, saying that…
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Peacemaker or Peacekeeper? And WW Linkup
Since my post last week encouraged the extending of grace to our mates, I felt it was important to explain the difference between giving grace (peacemaking) and enabling unhealthy behavior (peacekeeping). After all … [Tweet ” Enabling and extending grace are two very different things that often get mistaken for each other.”] I’ve provided a…
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10 Things Going to Counseling Says about You
Back in September I asked you, our MM readers, to complete a survey that would tell me a bit more about you. One of the things the survey seemed to indicate was that the majority (89.4%) of you are currently not seeing a counselor for marriage or personal issues (which could be a good or…
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Desperate Marriage Myth #4 – Hopeless Situation
Today we’re looking at the last of the myths, Myth #4 – Some situations are hopeless and my situation is one of these. When people are in a desperate situation where positive change seems impossible or at least a distant memory, they tend to take on a victim mentality. With a victim mentality, you begin…
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Desperate Marriage Myth #3 – Only Have 2 Options
The third myth in our Desperate Marriages series is – I have only two options, resigning myself to a life of misery or getting out of the marriage. This myth hangs on the coattails of last week’s post, Desperate Marriage Myth #2, People Cannot Change. Since you’ve determined that you and/or your spouse cannot change,…
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Denial and the Monster Within
Denial very often operates like the typical plotline of a bad horror movie. We watch as the protagonist (often a young, beautiful woman) is sitting in a peaceful corner of her empty and secluded, century-old farmhouse. Suddenly she’s startled by a noise coming from the eerie dark bedroom down the hall. Sensing danger, she gathers…
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