Category: Communication
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Trusting God with My Marriage And WW Linkup

Guest post by blogger – Robi Smith of Hopefulwifetoday.com It was three and a half years ago that I discovered my husband was addicted to pornography. I had been looking through his phone when I stumbled upon deleted still screens of images from porn websites. It came to me as a total shock. My husband…
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Can I read your mind? SJT Video

Today I’m sharing a “Sloppy Joe Time” video that hits close to home because I put this sloppy expectation into action just a week or so ago. Honestly, I don’t think there will be a day when I won’t have to clean up some mess that I make in my marriage! 😉 I am a…
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What shows you respect? SJT Video

It’s never easy to show respect when we don’t see “eye-to-eye” with our mates. I must admit that respecting and submitting to my husband has been especially challenging for me in times of conflict. Thankfully, I’ve discovered three faulty beliefs that I’ve embraced about respect. Now whenever I notice these beliefs cropping up and I…
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10 of My Favorite Posts

I’d like to share ten of my favorite posts (in no particular order) that I’ve done here at Messy Marriage. Most are recent, but there are a few that go a bit further back in the vault. I hope you find them to be encouraging, thought-provoking and marriage-challenging! Validating Your Spouse’s Feelings Find God’s Redemptive…
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Peacemaker or Peacekeeper? And WW Linkup

Since my post last week encouraged the extending of grace to our mates, I felt it was important to explain the difference between giving grace (peacemaking) and enabling unhealthy behavior (peacekeeping). After all … [Tweet ” Enabling and extending grace are two very different things that often get mistaken for each other.”] I’ve provided a…
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How to Affirm Your Mate Printable

It’s been quite a challenge to get back on track with the blog since vacationing and celebrating my son’s wedding. Add to that, my laptop has a major issue that has left several computer geeks stumped and you might understand why I’m taking yet another break from my Sloppy Joe Times. I will be back,…
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‘Everybody Loves Vulnerability’ And WW Linkup!

I am still unpacking what I feel are the important aspects of creating a confessional culture today, which leads me to share about a vulnerable and unflattering moment of mine in my own marriage. Sometimes the best way to communicate a reality is to learn from a real-life and raw human encounter in marriage. It…
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When Your Apology is Used Against You – And WW Linkup!

It’s never easy to make yourself vulnerable nor to lay your heart out on the table in a sincere and humble apology before the one person on earth who matters most—your spouse. But what’s worse is when your spouse uses your apology against you. Typically, a spouse won’t do this unless: Your spouse simply got…
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When and When NOT To Apologize – Plus WW Linkup!

Creating a confessional culture in your marriage should be developed with both discernment and timing in mind. Like most changes you want to make in life or marriage, you must go slowly and strategically, unless you are prepared for the entire effort to backfire on you! This is especially true if your spouse is not…
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How to Apologize Effectively and WW Linkup!

I grew up in a home where apologies were rarely extended or witnessed. We were a loving bunch, but somehow this important practice of acknowledging our sins and apologizing to each other was never clearly present, at least not in my view. Unfortunately, that also became true for my marriage in the early days. Gary…


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