Tag: False Beliefs

• The Allure of the Illegitimate in Marriage

  

  Today I’m continuing to unpack another way we can let our spouses control us with – “Choosing to have an affair or to look at pornography because you believe you’ve been deprived of ‘whatever’ in your marriage.” I have a sneaking suspicion that the spouses who need this message the most are not going to…

  BethSteffaniak

  January 9, 2016

  About Me, Abuse, Accountability, Addictions, Affairs, Authenticity, Betrayal, Choices, Christ-Centered, Confession, Control, Counseling, False Beliefs, Infatuation, Magical Thinking, Marriage, Marriage Mistakes, Negative Self-Talk, Self-awareness, Self-deception, Sex & Sexuality, Sex/Porn Addiction

  Accountability, Adultery, Affair, Betrayal, Confession, Control, Counseling, Denial, False Beliefs, Sex, Sex-Drive

• A Wife’s Perspective on Men and Openness And WW Linkup!

  

  In a couple of weeks I will be diving into a series on “Men and Openness” that’s based upon a survey that I’ve been conducting for several months now. But today I want to approach this sticky subject from my own feminine and often skewed (probably due to Estrogen) perspective. 😉 [Tweet “My husband and…

  BethSteffaniak

  October 20, 2015

  About Me, Acceptance, Authenticity, Avoidance, Bonding, Change, Choices, Comfort, Communication, Conflict, Control, Differences, Emotions, Encouragement, Expectations, False Beliefs, Fear, Gender Differences, Intimacy, Men and Openness Series, Negative Self-Talk, Negotiation, Perspective, Priorities, Proactive, Realistic Expectations, Self-Protection, Togetherness, Truth, Validation, Vulnerability, Wedded Wednesday

  Barriers, Communication, Conflict, Conversation Skills, Emotions, False Beliefs, Gender Differences, Openness, Vulnerability

• “9 Thoughts that Can Change Your Marriage” Giveaway and Linkup

  

  I was excited to receive and read Sheila Gregoire’s latest marriage book, 9 Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage. If you don’t know Sheila, then you need to get to know her! She blogs at To Love, Honor and Vacuum and in her characteristic transparent and witty style, she used 9 pat answers as a…

  BethSteffaniak

  September 15, 2015

  Book Review, Boundaries, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Commitment, Encouragement, Faith in God, False Beliefs, Marriage Mistakes, Oneness, Positive Focus, Priorities, Realistic Expectations, Responsibility, Sex & Sexuality, Spiritual Leadership, Submission, Togetherness, Wedded Wednesday, Wise Words

  Choices, Encouragement, False Beliefs, Pat Answers, Proactive

• Can I read your mind? SJT Video

  

  Today I’m sharing a “Sloppy Joe Time” video that hits close to home because I put this sloppy expectation into action just a week or so ago. Honestly, I don’t think there will be a day when I won’t have to clean up some mess that I make in my marriage! 😉 I am a…

  BethSteffaniak

  August 16, 2015

  About Me, Blaming, Boundaries, Communication, Confession, Confessional Culture, Criticism, Denial, Discouragement, Emotions, Entitlement, Expectations, False Beliefs, Fear, Humility, Insecurity, Negative Self-Talk, Pride, Realistic Expectations, Respect, Self-Protection, Self-Reflection, Selfishness, Sloppy Joe Time Video, Video, Vulnerability

  Assumptions, Boundaries, Communication, False Beliefs, Insecurity, Lies, Mind-Reading, Respect, Vulnerability

• Why Confession is Worth the Risk! And WW Linkup!

  

  I’m currently conducting a survey with men {or husbands in particular} that asks, What makes opening up and confessing to a mate or girlfriend so difficult? I only have a small number who’ve responded so far, but the answers to this one question have revealed a glaringly apparent fear of rejection. The sad fact is…

  BethSteffaniak

  May 12, 2015

  Alienation, Anger, Apologies, Attitude, Authenticity, Bonding, Confession, Confessional Culture, Conflict, Denial, Encouragement, False Beliefs, Guilt, Humility, Negative Self-Talk, Responsibility, Self-Protection, Trust, Truth, Unity, Vulnerability, Wedded Wednesday

  Apologies, Authenticity, Bonding, Confession, Denial, False Beliefs, Secrets

• How I was a Right-Fighter And WW Linkup!

  

  I’m continuing to unpack why I didn’t confess my faults and sins to my husband in the early days of my marriage, focusing today on . . . Distortion Two – “If I’m right, I shouldn’t have to apologize!” It goes like this . . . If I’m saying the right things Or If I’m…

  BethSteffaniak

  April 14, 2015

  Alienation, Apologies, Attitude, Boundaries, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Confession, Confessional Culture, Conflict, Denial, Discouragement, Faith in God, False Beliefs, Humility, Negative Self-Talk, Pride, Responsibility, Wedded Wednesday

  Apologies, False Beliefs, Good Intentions, Humility, Judgmental, Pride, Right, Wrong

• 3 Reasons I Did Not Confess to My Mate And WW Linkup!

  

  There are many reasons why I didn’t confess my faults and sins to my husband in the early days of my marriage, but three of them stand out more than some of the others. I thought that confessing “I was wrong” about something to my husband was the equivalent of handing him the keys to…

  BethSteffaniak

  April 7, 2015

  About Me, Apologies, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Confession, Confessional Culture, Conflict, False Beliefs, Grace, Negative Self-Talk, Pride, Responsibility, Self-Protection, Victim Mentality, Vulnerability, Wedded Wednesday, Wounds

  Apologies, Confession, False Beliefs, Faults, Responsibility, Vulnerability

• Can you read my mind? Video

  Today I’m laying out another sloppy expectation that revealed a heaping helping of my “magical thinking” and irrational idealism back in the day! At the time, I simply thought it was an effective way to communicate my frustration and get my husband to “hop to it!” This was something that I had seen my mother do, so…

  BethSteffaniak

  November 9, 2014

  Anger, Blaming, Communication, Conflict, False Beliefs, Guilt, Magical Thinking, Realistic Expectations, Sloppy Joe Time Video, Victim Mentality

  Communication, Conflict, False Beliefs, Guilt, Realistic Expectations, Unrealistic Expectations