Category: Vulnerability
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Getting Your Spouse to Open Up – Part Two (Video)
Today I’m talking about the second half of the process that will encourage your spouse to open up and engage with you in conversation. I feel like this should be a process that is built brick by brick—keeping each brick in place as the foundation of trust in your marriage is built, perhaps for the…
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Victim Love Style in Marriage And FMTM Linkup
Here at Messy Marriage, I’ve talked about a “Victim Mentality” a lot over the years, but this isn’t necessarily what I’m talking about today. A victim mentality can develop in any person’s life regardless of their love style. A victim mentality is a fixation on a real or supposed victimizer in one’s life, feeling helpless…
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3 Ways I’m Dealing with an Empty-Nest
I’m walking over an incredibly monumental transition or “threshold” in my life—that of being a full-fledged Empty Nester. Since that’s the case, I’ve felt like it might be good to do a series on the many “thresholds” we all go through in marriage and life. I will be alternating these posts with my videos that…
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Discussing Sticky Issues with Your Mate Without Getting Stuck
If you’re like me, you’ve often let your mouth fly wide open to reveal the manipulative and prideful intentions behind an effort “to discuss” a sticky issue. Ugh! You’re thinking that your words will bring clarity and understanding for your mate (cue the sound of angels singing from heaven). But all you really offered your…
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What I Learned from a Fight with My Husband
Toward the end of my month-long reorganizing, repairing, and purging that I was doing in my house in June, my husband and I had a fight. Mind you, it wasn’t related to the hard work that we were doing on the house. But it was a doozy of a misunderstanding on both our parts. I…
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How Grief and Humility Can Set You Free
Early on in my marriage, when we were full-throttle in the messes of our own making, the last thing I wanted to do was admit my part in those messes. And the more I ran from taking responsibility and the more I pointed the finger of blame at my husband for “driving me to make…
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Coming Out as a Christian to Your Unbelieving Spouse
I’m excited to have yet another edition of “Picking Hubby’s Brain” as we endeavor to answer one of the many questions we’ve been given from you our readers/viewers on how to navigate challenges in marriage. This husband’s question deals with “change” and in particular dealing with a drastic change in marriage, moving from atheism to…
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Finding Healing for Your Wounds And Linkup
Today I’m continuing the series on the wounds of our past by focusing on how to bring healing to those wounds through a new spiritual and relational focus. This means delving a bit deeper into what must be done in tandem with any ongoing prayer/processing of wounds (that I’ve shared in past posts). I believe…
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Taming Triggers in Your Marriage and Life Plus WW Linkup
You’d think that after almost 29 years of marriage, my hubby and I would have tamed all of the “beasts” that arise from the moments when our wounds are triggered … but you would be wrong! 😉 I think it’s sort of like the apostle Paul’s “thorn” that God did not remove from his life…
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7-Day Affirmation Guide – Snag Yours!
I’ve been working on a book that I hope to finish by summer called Worthy that will explore three main “worthy” aspects of our relationship with God … “Note Worthy” – where I’ll provide Bible study tools that will make your studies/devotional times rich and meaningful. “Praise Worthy” – where I’ll explore how to develop…
WORTHY Bible Studies 
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