Category: Confession

• Taming Triggers in Your Marriage and Life Plus WW Linkup

  

  You’d think that after almost 29 years of marriage, my hubby and I would have tamed all of the “beasts” that arise from the moments when our wounds are triggered … but you would be wrong! 😉 I think it’s sort of like the apostle Paul’s “thorn” that God did not remove from his life…

  BethSteffaniak

  March 1, 2016

  Anger, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Confession, Conflict, Emotions, Fear, Humility, Pain, Perspective, Prayer, Respect, Responsibility, Self-awareness, Self-Reflection, Spiritual Practices, Toxic Baggage, Triggers in Marriage Series, Vulnerability, Wounds

  Anger, Communication, Conflict, Emotions, Fear, Healing, Prayer, Processing Emotions, Triggers, Wounds

• What Men Fear about Opening Up And Linkup

  

  Today I want to continue to unpack the results of the “Men and Openness” survey by looking at question #5 … What do you feel you need to overcome in order to be better able to identify and share your feelings? (I allowed the men to choose all that applied) 70.49% – My fear of…

  BethSteffaniak

  February 2, 2016

  Alienation, Anger, Authenticity, Avoidance, Balance, Blaming, Bonding, Boundaries, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Confession, Confessional Culture, Conflict, Confrontation, Control, Criticism, Discouragement, Emotions, Empathy, Encouragement, Fear, Gender Differences, Humility, Listening Skills, Marriage, Openness, Pain, Perseverance, Positive Focus, Prayer, Pride, Respect, Security, Validation, Vulnerability, Wedded Wednesday, Withdrawal

  Affirmation, Communication, Conflict, Empathy, Fear, Listening Skills. Active Listening, Openness, Prayer, Vulnerability

• The Allure of the Illegitimate in Marriage

  

  Today I’m continuing to unpack another way we can let our spouses control us with – “Choosing to have an affair or to look at pornography because you believe you’ve been deprived of ‘whatever’ in your marriage.” I have a sneaking suspicion that the spouses who need this message the most are not going to…

  BethSteffaniak

  January 9, 2016

  About Me, Abuse, Accountability, Addictions, Affairs, Authenticity, Betrayal, Choices, Christ-Centered, Confession, Control, Counseling, False Beliefs, Infatuation, Magical Thinking, Marriage, Marriage Mistakes, Negative Self-Talk, Self-awareness, Self-deception, Sex & Sexuality, Sex/Porn Addiction

  Accountability, Adultery, Affair, Betrayal, Confession, Control, Counseling, Denial, False Beliefs, Sex, Sex-Drive

• 5 Steps for a Successful Heart-to-Heart with Your Wife And Linkup

  

  Today, we’re going one step further in our discussion on “Men and Openness” by talking about … “talking about our feelings.” Based upon the Men and Openness survey I conducted recently, 53.45% of the men chose – “I don’t know how to articulate my feelings” as their second highest response to why opening up with…

  BethSteffaniak

  November 24, 2015

  Authenticity, Bonding, Boundaries, Change, Choices, Communication, Confession, Confessional Culture, Conflict, Confrontation, Emotions, Listening Skills, Marriage, Oneness, Perseverance, Perspective, Positive Focus, Prayer, Vulnerability, Wedded Wednesday

  Communication, Confrontation, Emotions, Openness, Processing, Reflective Listening, Respect, Vulnerability

• New Mind, New Marriage And WW Linkup

  

  I’ve discovered over the years that one of the most potent ways to affect change in my heart, mind and marriage is through the process of “renewing my mind.” This is the ongoing work that the Holy Spirit does as I surrender my sinful ways to the Lord. Don’t be confused … This doesn’t happen…

  BethSteffaniak

  September 29, 2015

  Accountability, Attitude, Authenticity, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Confession, Confessional Culture, Encouragement, Faith in God, Forgiveness, Plank Hunt Series, Positive Focus, Prayer, Self-Reflection, Shame, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Practices, Surrender, Wedded Wednesday

  Abundant Life, Accountability, Confession, Confessional Culture, Faith in God, Friendship, God’s Word, Prayer, Renew Mind

• Plank Hunt – My Unforgiving Ways And WW Linkup

  

  I’m excited to get back to the “Plank Hunt” series because it’s so important to realize the power we have to impact our marriage for the better by taking responsibility for our “planks” (see Mt. 7:3-5). I’m sharing today about one of mine that I found in doing the “Character Flaw Inventory.” If you didn’t…

  BethSteffaniak

  September 22, 2015

  About Me, Accountability, Anger, Choices, Christ-Centered, Confession, Confessional Culture, Criticism, Emotions, Faith in God, False Beliefs, Forgiveness, God’s Redemption, Love of God, Negative Self-Talk, Plank Hunt Series, Redemption, Resentments, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Practices, Spiritual Warfare, Surrender, Toxic Baggage, Truth, Wounds

  Bitterness, Confession, Forgiveness, Spiritual Warfare, Surrender

• Trusting God with My Marriage And WW Linkup

  

  Guest post by blogger – Robi Smith of Hopefulwifetoday.com It was three and a half years ago that I discovered my husband was addicted to pornography. I had been looking through his phone when I stumbled upon deleted still screens of images from porn websites. It came to me as a total shock. My husband…

  BethSteffaniak

  August 18, 2015

  Accountability, Addictions, Affairs, Alienation, Anger, Betrayal, Boundaries, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Confession, Confessional Culture, Conflict, Confrontation, Emotions, Faith in God, God’s Redemption, Lust, Prayer, Redemption, Sex & Sexuality, Sex/Porn Addiction, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Practices, Spiritual Warfare, Trust, Truth, Wedded Wednesday

  Accountability, Boundaries, Communication, Confession, Faith in God, Porn Addiction, Pornography, Prayer

• Can I read your mind? SJT Video

  

  Today I’m sharing a “Sloppy Joe Time” video that hits close to home because I put this sloppy expectation into action just a week or so ago. Honestly, I don’t think there will be a day when I won’t have to clean up some mess that I make in my marriage! 😉 I am a…

  BethSteffaniak

  August 16, 2015

  About Me, Blaming, Boundaries, Communication, Confession, Confessional Culture, Criticism, Denial, Discouragement, Emotions, Entitlement, Expectations, False Beliefs, Fear, Humility, Insecurity, Negative Self-Talk, Pride, Realistic Expectations, Respect, Self-Protection, Self-Reflection, Selfishness, Sloppy Joe Time Video, Video, Vulnerability

  Assumptions, Boundaries, Communication, False Beliefs, Insecurity, Lies, Mind-Reading, Respect, Vulnerability

• Covering for My Spouse and WW Linkup

  

  I think there’s just something in the DNA of every human being that tries to cover up vulnerabilities and weaknesses that we see in ourselves. Believe me, I know what I’m talking about, because that describes me much more than I’d like to admit! However, I think this pattern started way back in the Garden…

  BethSteffaniak

  June 30, 2015

  Acceptance, Anger, Attitude, Blaming, Choices, Christ-Centered, Confession, Confessional Culture, Confrontation, Faith in God, Forgiveness, Grace, Jesus’ Sacrifice, Love of God, Negative Self-Talk, Perseverance, Perspective, Positive Focus, Self-Protection, Self-sacrifice, Shame, Vulnerability, Wedded Wednesday, Wounds

  Blame, Forgiveness, Positive Focus, Shame, Vulnerability

• ‘Everybody Loves Vulnerability’ And WW Linkup!

  

  I am still unpacking what I feel are the important aspects of creating a confessional culture today, which leads me to share about a vulnerable and unflattering moment of mine in my own marriage. Sometimes the best way to communicate a reality is to learn from a real-life and raw human encounter in marriage. It…

  BethSteffaniak

  June 16, 2015

  About Me, Anger, Apologies, Attitude, Authenticity, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Confession, Confessional Culture, Conflict, Emotions, Expectations, False Beliefs, Fear, Grace, Humility, Insecurity, Negative Self-Talk, Pride, Self-Image, Self-Protection, Vulnerability, Wedded Wednesday

  Apologies, Confession, Humility, Pride, Vulnerable, Wedded Wednesday