Category: Boundaries

• Are You a More Perfectionistic or Realistic Spouse? Take the Quiz!

  

  My husband and I are both perfectionists—meaning we have double trouble when it comes to being realistic in our marriage. No wonder we had a very messy start and still dip into messy moments more often than I’d like to admit! 😉 And maybe, if you’re a perfectionist like us, you chant these words to…

  BethSteffaniak

  March 17, 2019

  Acceptance, Alienation, Anger, Apologies, Attitude, Boundaries, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Confession, Conflict, Connection, Criticism, Desires, Discouragement, Encouragement, Expectations, Failure, Faith in God, Forgiveness, Grace, Jesus’ Sacrifice, Love of God, Marriage, Nagging, Patience, Perfectionism, Personality, Positive Focus, Prayer, Realistic Expectations, Resentments, Self-awareness, Self-Reflection, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Practices, Spouse I Want to Be Series, Support, Surrender, Unity, Wounds

  Acceptance, Limitations, Love of God, Perfectionism, Perfectionistic Spouse, Realistic Expectations, Realistic Spouse, Trust in God

• Check out My Book Review and Giveaway of The Marriage Knot!

  

  I’ll be honest. Most marriage books do not hold my interest, unless they point me back to Christ in some form or fashion. So, I’m happy to say that the book I want to review and giveaway today does exactly that! It anchors the reader in the truths of Scripture—challenging us to live out the…

  BethSteffaniak

  March 3, 2019

  Acceptance, Affairs, Affection, Betrayal, Bonding, Book Review, Boundaries, Brokenness, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Conflict, Confrontation, Counseling, Discouragement, Divorce, Encouragement, Expectations, Faith in God, Forgiveness, Give-Away, God’s Redemption, Intimacy, Love of God, Marriage, Marriage Mistakes, Marriage Spark, Perseverance, Positive Focus, Prayer, Redemption, Self-Reflection, Spiritual Growth, Trauma, Trials

  Affair, Book Review, Faithfulness, God’s Redemption, Gospel-driven Marriage, Infidelity, Love of God, Marriage Mistakes, The Marriage Knot

• 6 Ways to Be a More Compassionate and Forgiving Spouse

  

  Have you ever noticed how hard it is to be compassionate toward your spouse when you’re angry with him or her? It gets even harder when we let our anger turn into bitterness because we’ve chosen not to forgive them. Ironically, keeping this same mindset and practice in place inevitably creates a hard heart as…

  BethSteffaniak

  February 17, 2019

  About Me, Acceptance, Alienation, Anger, Blaming, Bonding, Boundaries, Brokenness, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Conflict, Connection, Discouragement, Emotions, Empathy, Encouragement, Faith in God, Forgiveness, Grace, Humility, Jesus’ Sacrifice, Love for God, Love of God, Marriage, Pain, Perfectionism, Perspective, Positive Focus, Prayer, Pride, Realistic Expectations, Resentments, Self-Protection, Self-Reflection, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Practices, Spouse I Want to Be Series, Vulnerability, Wounds

  Christ’s Forgiveness, Christlike, Compassion, Empathy, Forgiveness, God’s Love, Perspective

• When Your Connection to Your Parent Creates a Wedge in Your Marriage

  

  Years ago, when my marriage was at its messiest, I was not a cleaver. I’m not talking about being like June Cleaver, but rather about the need to unite with my husband. One of the most important ways that I did not unite with him was in how I chose to align myself with my…

  BethSteffaniak

  February 13, 2019

  Alienation, Anger, Bad Habits, Betrayal, Bonding, Boundaries, Communication, Conflict, Connection, Immaturity, In-Laws, Marriage, Marriage Mistakes, Oneness, Priorities, Support, Unity

  Betrayal, Boundaries in Marriage, Connection, Oneness, United Front, Unity

• 6 Ways to Apply God’s Word When Your Spouse Hurts You

  

  God’s word is like a salve that, when applied to the wounds and tension-filled moments we experience in marriage, soothes and heals. But just how do we apply God’s word when hurts come in life and marriage? Consider this day in the life of my marriage … I woke up to my husband’s cheerful greeting…

  BethSteffaniak

  January 19, 2019

  21 Days of Love Series, Acceptance, Affirmation, Anger, Attitude, Bible Study, Bible Study Tools, Blaming, Boundaries, Choices, Christ-Centered, Comfort, Communication, Conflict, Connection, Discouragement, Emotions, Enabling, Encouragement, Expectations, Faith in God, Grace, Love of God, Marriage, Pain, Perspective, Positive Focus, Prayer, Proactive, Realistic Expectations, Relief, Resentments, Respect, Responsibility, Self-sacrifice, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Practices, Support, Trials, Vulnerability, Wounds

  Acceptance, Affirmation, Apply God’s Word, Bible Verses, Boundaries, God’s Truth, Grace, Marriage Conflicts, Marriage Hurts, Neglect, Spiritual Practices

• How Can I Honor My Spouse When He Asks Me to Sin?

  

  Recently, I shared a post on how I choose to submit to my husband. My article prompted one reader to ask me to write on how to honor our husband’s, even when they ask us to sin. That’s quite the challenging maze to successfully navigate through to the other side! But it’s so very important…

  BethSteffaniak

  December 2, 2018

  Abuse, Accountability, Anger, Attitude, Authenticity, Blaming, Boundaries, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Conflict, Confrontation, Deception, Expectations, Faith in God, Grace, Marriage, Negotiation, Openness, Patience, Perspective, Positive Focus, Prayer, Respect, Responsibility, Self-awareness, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Practices, Submission, Surrender, Truth

  Accountability, Bible, Guard Heart, Guard Marriage, Honor Spouse, Prayer, Respect Spouse, Sin of Spouse, Spiritual Encouragement, Spiritual Practices, Submit to Spouse

• 3 Ways to Fix Broken Communication in Marriage

  

  Today, I’m honored to offer one more post in my “Lessons Learned in Marriage Series”—this time on communication by guest blogger Crystal Twaddell. I hope you’ll read Crystal’s insights to find out how to navigate this challenge in marriage better. And be sure to check out her bio below, as well as supporting her with your…

  BethSteffaniak

  November 25, 2018

  Acceptance, Alienation, Anger, Attitude, Avoidance, Boundaries, Christ-Centered, Communication, Confession, Conflict, Connection, Conversation, Counseling, Differences, Discouragement, Emotions, Empathy, Encouragement, Forgiveness, Grace, Lessons Learned in Marriage, Listening Skills, Marriage, Negative Self-Talk, Openness, Pain, Perspective, Positive Focus, Proactive, Resentments, Self-awareness, Self-Reflection, Toxic Baggage, Unity, Validation

  Communication, Counseling, Emotions, Filters, Grace in Marriage, Listening Skills, Openness, Processing Pain

• What Is The MOST Costly Financial Mistake You Can Make?

  

  I’m excited and honored to have The Money Couple, Scott and Bethany Palmer, as my guests—bringing their financial expertise to my most recent blog series. I hope you’ll make them feel welcome by commenting, sharing and pinning all over the place! Check out their bio below!  Do you and your spouse ever disagree about money?…

  BethSteffaniak

  November 4, 2018

  Acceptance, Accountability, Bible Study, Bible Study Tools, Boundaries, Communication, Confession, Conflict, Differences, Discouragement, Encouragement, Expectations, Marriage Mistakes, Money Matters, Negotiation, Personality, Positive Focus, Priorities, Realistic Expectations, Respect, Self-awareness

  Communication, Confession, Financial Mistakes, Honesty in Marriage, Money Matters, Personality Differences, Priorities, Realistic Expectations

• Blended Families – Biblical Love in Action

  

  Today I’m excited to introduce you to blogger Donna Reidland, who is my guest today and is sharing about how to biblically navigate a blended family. Read her bio below to find more about her and be sure to make her feel welcome by sharing, commenting and pinning her post to all your favorite spots!…

  BethSteffaniak

  October 21, 2018

  Acceptance, Alienation, Anger, Blended Family, Boundaries, Change, Christ-Centered, Commitment, Differences, Discouragement, Empathy, Encouragement, Expectations, Faith in God, Grief, Lessons Learned in Marriage, Love, Love of God, Marriage, Parenthood, Positive Focus, Prayer, Realistic Expectations, Remarriage, Self-sacrifice, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Practices

  Blended Family, Commitment, Love of God, Parenting, Remarriage, Trust God, Wisdom

• 3 Ways to Weather Seasons of Transition in Marriage

  

  I’m excited to have as my guest this week blogger Liz Giertz, who is sharing personal insights on how to navigate a season of transition in marriage. She knows quite a bit about this as a military wife! You’ll find her bio and a link to her blog below. Please make her feel welcome by…

  BethSteffaniak

  October 7, 2018

  Acceptance, Alienation, Attitude, Boundaries, Choices, Christ-Centered, Commitment, Communication, Connection, Differences, Discouragement, Encouragement, Expectations, Faith in God, Lessons Learned in Marriage, Marriage, Negotiation, Perseverance, PTSD, Realistic Expectations, Spiritual Growth, Stress, Support, Transitions

  #marriagetransitions, #militarymarriage, Commitment, Communication, Expectations, Faith in God, God’s Love, Military Wife, Realistic Expectations, Transitions