Category: Anger

• How Can I Improve My Marriage? SJT Video

  

  Today I’m continuing the discussion on “wounds in marriage” by sharing how I dealt with my own wounded heart. Thankfully God revealed to me two problems that stemmed from my toxic baggage, and this proved to be a game-changer in my marriage. See how I approached this important journey that vastly improved my marriage by…

  BethSteffaniak

  February 22, 2015

  About Me, Anger, Choices, Christ-Centered, Confession, Emotions, Expectations, Forgiveness, Humility, Positive Focus, Prayer, Pride, Resentments, Sloppy Joe Time Video, Toxic Baggage, Truth, Victim Mentality, Vulnerability

  Confession, Healing, Humility, Pride, Toxic Baggage, Wounds

• Why are you so upset? SJT Video

  

  Today I am continuing where I left off from my last Sloppy Joe Time video by dealing with the wounds that are often present in the conflicts of our marriages and lives. We may not see them, but in this video I give some tips for identifying them as well as what to do and…

  BethSteffaniak

  January 25, 2015

  Anger, Avoidance, Communication, Conflict, Emotions, Faith in God, God’s Redemption, Pain, Prayer, Realistic Expectations, Redemption, Self-Protection, Self-Reflection, Sloppy Joe Time Video, Surrender, Toxic Baggage, Trauma, Video

  Conflict, Faith in God, Minimizing, Surrender, Toxic Baggage, Wounds

• Does Your Spouse Need Perspective? SJT Video

  

  Ever find yourself in the middle of a painful conversation about a past hurt with your spouse, and you don’t know why your spouse isn’t resonating with or able to receive in a gracious way how s/he has hurt you? Well, in my latest Sloppy Joe Time video, I talk about what you both need…

  BethSteffaniak

  January 18, 2015

  Acceptance, Anger, Apologies, Communication, Conflict, Confrontation, Emotions, Empathy, False Beliefs, Grace, Patience, Prayer, Realistic Expectations, Self-Reflection, Sloppy Joe Time Video

  communciation, Conflict Resolution, Deescalation, Emotions, Patience, Perspective

• Can a perfect God “fill my cup”? Video

  

  Here in the U.S., Thanksgiving is fast approaching! And before we know it, the Christmas season will push Thanksgiving right on out of the way! With all that “pushing, shoving, and stuffing” heading your way, you’ll need to listen as Beth turns her attention from sloppy marriage expectations to sloppy “family” expectations and frustrations. Even with…

  BethSteffaniak

  November 23, 2014

  Acceptance, Anger, Attitude, Choices, Christ-Centered, Emotions, Faith in God, Love of God, Positive Focus, Prayer, Realistic Expectations, Sloppy Joe Time Video, Thankfulness, Video

  Acceptance, Emptiness, Empty Cup, Faith in God, Imperfect People, Perfect God, Sloppy Joe Time

• Is my secret ‘safe’? Video

  

  Yes, it’s that time of the week to grab your “cup of joe” and join me for another “sloppy joe time!” In this video, I talk about the way I allowed my angry thoughts about my spouse to go from a minor messy meditation to a festering monstrosity in no time!  I’d love it if you’d take less than 3 minute to watch!…

  BethSteffaniak

  November 16, 2014

  Acceptance, Alienation, Anger, Attitude, Blaming, Choices, Christ-Centered, Contentment, Control, Criticism, Discouragement, Emotions, Encouragement, False Beliefs, Negative Self-Talk, Positive Focus, Resentments, Sloppy Joe Time Video, Thankfulness

  Anger, Negative Focus, Positive Focus, Resentments, Ruminations, Sloppy Joe Time Video

• Can you read my mind? Video

  Today I’m laying out another sloppy expectation that revealed a heaping helping of my “magical thinking” and irrational idealism back in the day! At the time, I simply thought it was an effective way to communicate my frustration and get my husband to “hop to it!” This was something that I had seen my mother do, so…

  BethSteffaniak

  November 9, 2014

  Anger, Blaming, Communication, Conflict, False Beliefs, Guilt, Magical Thinking, Realistic Expectations, Sloppy Joe Time Video, Victim Mentality

  Communication, Conflict, False Beliefs, Guilt, Realistic Expectations, Unrealistic Expectations

• The Communication Tool that Opens Hearts … and Linkup!

  

  If you’ve been viewing over the past month or so my video podcasts, then you’re aware that I promised to tell you about a communication “tool” that my husband and I use to handle conflicts effectively. That tool is “reflective listening.” I’m going to provide detailed instructions on how to practice reflective listening in its…

  BethSteffaniak

  November 4, 2014

  Acceptance, Anger, Apologies, Bonding, Communication, Conflict, Confrontation, Empathy, Encouragement, Listening Skills, Self-sacrifice, Wedded Wednesday

  Active Listening, Communication, Conflict Resolution, Listening Skills, Reflective Listening

• Will you validate how I feel? Video

  Today I’m continuing the conversation on the difficulty of receiving your spouse’s hurt. For me, I’ve discovered that I have a faulty belief that interferes and hinders my ability to validate my spouse in those moments. I’d love it if you’d take 3+ minutes out of your day to check it out!     Are there…

  BethSteffaniak

  November 2, 2014

  Acceptance, Anger, Avoidance, Bonding, Confrontation, False Beliefs, Listening Skills, Respect, Sloppy Joe Time Video, Validation, Vulnerability

  Communication, Conflict, Faulty Beliefs, Listening Skills, Validation

• How to Receive Your Spouse’s Hurt – Video

  

  I’m back with another installation of  “Sloppy Joe Time” that unpacks the many sloppy expectations we have in life and marriage. Today’s video tackles how to receive the hard truth of how you’ve hurt your spouse. After all, if we are breathing and have a pulse, we will hurt our spouse! We may not always do it…

  BethSteffaniak

  October 26, 2014

  Acceptance, Anger, Attitude, Blaming, Communication, Conflict, Confrontation, Empathy, Listening Skills, Sloppy Joe Time Video, Validation, Video

  Communication, Conflict, Conflict Resolution, Defensiveness, Empathy, Listening Skills, Responsibility

• Am I Your Soft Place to Fall? Video

  

  Today, I’m sharing another video in our series of “sloppy expectations” in marriage. I explore the best way to respond to our spouses when we are confronted by how we’ve hurt them.     What thoughts typically run through your head when your spouse shares how you’ve hurt them?    What do you think could help you to look…

  BethSteffaniak

  October 19, 2014

  Acceptance, Anger, Apologies, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Conflict, Confrontation, Humility, Positive Focus, Realistic Expectations, Responsibility, Self-Protection, Self-Reflection, Validation, Vulnerability

  Apology, Communication, Conflict Resolution, Humility, Responsibility