Category: Self-Reflection
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Am I Your Soft Place to Fall? Video
Today, I’m sharing another video in our series of “sloppy expectations” in marriage. I explore the best way to respond to our spouses when we are confronted by how we’ve hurt them. What thoughts typically run through your head when your spouse shares how you’ve hurt them? What do you think could help you to look…
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How Successful is Your Reconciliation? And Link Up
There’s no easy answer to the question: What are the signs that reconciliation is not going to work? But … I would like to offer you Leslie Vernick’s three essential ingredients to a thriving relationship as a guide for assessing how well your reconciliation {particularly in marriage} is going. The first essential ingredient is ……
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How to Let Bitterness Go
Today I want to look at the difficulty of releasing any hurt or bitterness we feel due to the sins “someone we are trying to reconcile with” may continue to commit against us. I want to stress, this is for the person who has chosen to forgive an offending spouse, has emotionally and spiritually worked…
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The Support Needed to Trust Again
Reconciliation is about rebuilding trust because … [Tweet “Trust cannot be given like love or forgiveness. Trust must be earned. “] And trust is earned and established through respect and compliance with healthy boundaries and new ways of relating. So the first job for the two parties is to … Determine what you should require…
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A Pause to Rest and Remember
Ever since we visited that little town in Wales (Tenby), I’ve fallen in love with the sounds of the ocean. The rhythmic waves coming forward and pulling back. It reminds me of how the Holy Spirit constantly pursues me {us} and draws me {us} to Himself. It reminds me of how–if I’ll just let go…
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How to Deal with Nit-Picky Perfectionism in Marriage
Do you ever feel like you can never satisfy your husband because he expects perfection from you? Are you constantly being challenged by your wife to do something her way, and in her opinion, the only right way? Is your marriage beginning to feel like a competition with only one winner? If you answered “yes”…
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Denial and the Monster Within
Denial very often operates like the typical plotline of a bad horror movie. We watch as the protagonist (often a young, beautiful woman) is sitting in a peaceful corner of her empty and secluded, century-old farmhouse. Suddenly she’s startled by a noise coming from the eerie dark bedroom down the hall. Sensing danger, she gathers…
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Repeating the Past?
Like it or not, humans are creatures of habit … by harminder dhesi photography Especially when we feel our habit is not “complete.” We like to resolve things, fix things, have a “happy ending,” if you will—clinging to them, like a dog to an old bone! That’s why we end up being drawn into marriages…
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What Are You Trying to Redo?
Ever wonder why you do the things you do? As human beings, everything we do is for a reason. Since God created us with such complexity, there may be a variety of reasons at play. But one of the important sources for all that we do is called the “Homing Instinct.” In today’s electronic world,…
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How to Develop Your Identity
Level One – “Bad” … You feel like a “nobody”—unimportant. Level Two – “Worse” … You feel like you don’t know who you are. Level Three – “Worst” … You want to disappear. Very often in messy marriages, one or sometimes both people feel one of these ways. I think I’ve visited all three of…
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