Category: Responsibility
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Unfair Task of Forgiving an Unapologetic Spouse
Back in the early days of my marriage, I would shut down emotionally whenever my husband did or said something to hurt my feelings. And I wouldn’t open up to him or forgive him until he apologized. This was one of the stupidest moves I made back in the day! It fueled even greater conflict…
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2 Important Ways to Love the ‘Turkey’ at Your Table
I don’t know about you, but I’ve both loved and hated the family gatherings that come with Thanksgiving or other holiday celebrations. Typically, this is because of the work that leaves me and so many others I love stressed. But sometimes the stress come from awkward and friction-filled, even resentment-laden, relationships that we have with…
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3 Important Questions to Ask when Holiday Stress Looms
Nearly twenty years ago, I journaled about a holiday moment in my life that was filled with more stress than love. On this particular occasion, I was worn-down by trying to do too much decorating, shopping, cleaning, cooking and entertaining. At that time, my husband wasn’t as involved in helping me with those kinds of…
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Three Ways to Fight Spiritual Attacks on Your Marriage (Plus Linkup)
I’d like you to welcome blogger, Leslie Newman, who is my guest today while I’m away, and is sharing her wise perspective on how to fight for our marriages when we come under a spiritual attack by Satan. I hope you’ll make her feel right at home by commenting, as well as sharing her guest…
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How to Change Your Behavior so Your Marriage Can Improve (And Linkup)
Even though as a counselor I had to slog my way through lots of classes on Behavioral Psychology or Behavior Modification back in my old school days, I never really felt like behavior alone could create lasting or powerful change in marriage or relationships. However, that’s viewing things from the inside out, like Matthew 15:18…
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Increase Good Chemistry of Love in Marriage (And Linkup)
I’m continuing to unpack another lesson in my “Back to School” series by discussing today how I gained back the “chemistry” or feelings of love that had cooled when my marriage was at its messiest. I learned the hard way that what I do drastically impacts the way I feel in my marriage. Let me…
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One Key Way Prayer Journaling Uncovers Denial And Linkup
I never dreamed many years ago that prayer journaling could or would open up a whole new world of insight for me. A world like I’d never experienced before in my prayer life. I must preface that by saying God opened up new insights as I combined my prayer journaling with my Bible studies and…
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Discussing Sticky Issues with Your Mate Without Getting Stuck
If you’re like me, you’ve often let your mouth fly wide open to reveal the manipulative and prideful intentions behind an effort “to discuss” a sticky issue. Ugh! You’re thinking that your words will bring clarity and understanding for your mate (cue the sound of angels singing from heaven). But all you really offered your…
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What I Learned from a Fight with My Husband
Toward the end of my month-long reorganizing, repairing, and purging that I was doing in my house in June, my husband and I had a fight. Mind you, it wasn’t related to the hard work that we were doing on the house. But it was a doozy of a misunderstanding on both our parts. I…
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Giving Up on Your Marriage?
I started blogging (another blog) back in Feb. 2009, and have been blogging at Messy Marriage since October 2010, so it feels like quite a long journey in many ways. For the record . . . I’ve wanted to give up on this blogging endeavor many times! I’ve felt like it’s not worth it more…
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