Category: Pride

• Being a Bossy-Pants Wife And WW Linkup

  I find it amazing how every good gift that God gives can be taken and ruined—when given time and wrong motives—by us as humans.  After all, a careful and wise use of control is what every good leader needs to wield! [Tweet “The trouble comes when you have two leaders fighting for control! #toomanychiefs”] Now…

  BethSteffaniak

  May 10, 2016

  About Me, Alienation, Attitude, Boundaries, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Conflict, Control, Discouragement, Entitlement, Expectations, Failure, False Beliefs, Messy Mom’s and Dad’s, My Failures Series, Negotiation, Pride, Realistic Expectations, Spiritual Leadership, Submission, Surrender, Wedded Wednesday

  Collaborate, Communication, Conflict, Control, Failure, Surrender, Teamwork, Trust

• My Failures, God’s Inroads And WW Linkup!

  

  I’ve been studying in 1st Samuel and God has been bringing to my attention all the times that people either wrongly let pride overtake them or rightly let humility be their response to circumstances. [Tweet “I honestly think God brings to our attention the very things we need! #Ineedhumility”] In fact, humility is one area…

  BethSteffaniak

  May 3, 2016

  About Me, Acceptance, Anger, Attitude, Blaming, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Confession, Conflict, Criticism, Denial, Discouragement, Emotions, False Beliefs, Fear, God’s Redemption, Grace, Humility, Love of God, Mess Makers, My Failures Series, Negative Self-Talk, Perspective, Pride, Self-awareness, Self-deception, Victim Mentality, Wedded Wednesday

  Competitiveness, Conflict, God’s Redemption, God’s Refinement, Humility, Perspective, Pride, Sober view

• How Grief and Humility Can Set You Free

  

  Early on in my marriage, when we were full-throttle in the messes of our own making, the last thing I wanted to do was admit my part in those messes. And the more I ran from taking responsibility and the more I pointed the finger of blame at my husband for “driving me to make…

  BethSteffaniak

  April 26, 2016

  About Me, Addictions, Anger, Authenticity, Blaming, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Confesional Culture, Confession, Control, Desires, Faith in God, Grace, Grief, Humility, Jesus’ Sacrifice, Marriage, Negative Self-Talk, Pride, Resentments, Responsibility, Resurrect Me Series, Self-awareness, Self-Reflection, Surrender, Truth, Vulnerability, Wedded Wednesday, Workaholic

  Addictions, Bad Habits, Confession, Freedom, Grief, Humility, Pride

• What Men Fear about Opening Up And Linkup

  

  Today I want to continue to unpack the results of the “Men and Openness” survey by looking at question #5 … What do you feel you need to overcome in order to be better able to identify and share your feelings? (I allowed the men to choose all that applied) 70.49% – My fear of…

  BethSteffaniak

  February 2, 2016

  Alienation, Anger, Authenticity, Avoidance, Balance, Blaming, Bonding, Boundaries, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Confession, Confessional Culture, Conflict, Confrontation, Control, Criticism, Discouragement, Emotions, Empathy, Encouragement, Fear, Gender Differences, Humility, Listening Skills, Marriage, Openness, Pain, Perseverance, Positive Focus, Prayer, Pride, Respect, Security, Validation, Vulnerability, Wedded Wednesday, Withdrawal

  Affirmation, Communication, Conflict, Empathy, Fear, Listening Skills. Active Listening, Openness, Prayer, Vulnerability

• How Enabling Your Mate Controls ‘You’

  

  I want to discuss one more way that our mates can sometimes control us … through the ever-tempting avenue of enabling them. The reason I say this is “tempting” is probably because I feel this draw as a woman and mother perhaps a bit more than men generally do. Enabling actually springs up from a…

  BethSteffaniak

  January 30, 2016

  About Me, Acceptance, Anger, Balance, Boundaries, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Codependency, Confrontation, Control, Discouragement, Enabling, Faith in God, False Beliefs, Fear, Forgiveness, Negative Self-Talk, Negotiation, Pride, Realistic Expectations, Resentments, Responsibility, Self-Protection, Self-Reflection, Selfishness, Togetherness, Trust, Worry

  Balance, Confrontation, Control, Enabling, Fear, Negotiation, Responsibility, Worry

• Feel like a Victim in Marriage?

  

  I’m back from a much-needed vacation to continue the series on how our spouses can control us. Today’s focus is about feeling like a victim in a hopeless marriage. Sometimes people who are in a hurtful marriage for a very long time and have tried to combat the issues for as long as they’ve been…

  BethSteffaniak

  January 2, 2016

  About Me, Alienation, Attitude, Blaming, Boundaries, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Codependency, Control, Discouragement, Expectations, Faith in God, False Beliefs, Forgiveness, Love of God, Marriage, Negative Self-Talk, Perseverance, Positive Focus, Prayer, Pride, Proactive, Realistic Expectations, Respect, Responsibility, Safety, Victim Mentality

  Change, God’s Love, Learned Helplessness, Proactive, Responsibility, Safe People, Victim Mentality

• Can I out-shout you? SJT Video

  

  In today’s “Sloppy Joe Time” video, I’m pulling back the curtains on a rather unflattering time when I made my messy marriage that much messier by trying to “out-shout” my husband in times of conflict! I hope you’ll check it out by clicking on the less than 3 minute video below!     One more…

  BethSteffaniak

  September 13, 2015

  About Me, Anger, Codependency, Communication, Conflict, Control, Emotions, Expectations, False Beliefs, Grace, Pride, Realistic Expectations, Resentments, Sloppy Joe Time Video, Toxic Baggage

  Anger, Arguing, Conflict, Hard Heart, Unrealistic Expectations

• Can I read your mind? SJT Video

  

  Today I’m sharing a “Sloppy Joe Time” video that hits close to home because I put this sloppy expectation into action just a week or so ago. Honestly, I don’t think there will be a day when I won’t have to clean up some mess that I make in my marriage! 😉 I am a…

  BethSteffaniak

  August 16, 2015

  About Me, Blaming, Boundaries, Communication, Confession, Confessional Culture, Criticism, Denial, Discouragement, Emotions, Entitlement, Expectations, False Beliefs, Fear, Humility, Insecurity, Negative Self-Talk, Pride, Realistic Expectations, Respect, Self-Protection, Self-Reflection, Selfishness, Sloppy Joe Time Video, Video, Vulnerability

  Assumptions, Boundaries, Communication, False Beliefs, Insecurity, Lies, Mind-Reading, Respect, Vulnerability

• ‘Everybody Loves Vulnerability’ And WW Linkup!

  

  I am still unpacking what I feel are the important aspects of creating a confessional culture today, which leads me to share about a vulnerable and unflattering moment of mine in my own marriage. Sometimes the best way to communicate a reality is to learn from a real-life and raw human encounter in marriage. It…

  BethSteffaniak

  June 16, 2015

  About Me, Anger, Apologies, Attitude, Authenticity, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Confession, Confessional Culture, Conflict, Emotions, Expectations, False Beliefs, Fear, Grace, Humility, Insecurity, Negative Self-Talk, Pride, Self-Image, Self-Protection, Vulnerability, Wedded Wednesday

  Apologies, Confession, Humility, Pride, Vulnerable, Wedded Wednesday

• Battling to Spiritually Lead? Sloppy Joe Time Video

  

  Sometimes the “best laid plans” of wives and husband’s go awry! Especially when wives, like me, try to encourage their husbands to lead spiritually. In this video, I share about how I struggle with this in my own marriage and describe how my over-zealousness, eh-hem, “pride” really hurt my husband and children. Maybe you can…

  BethSteffaniak

  June 7, 2015

  About Me, Acceptance, Boundaries, Christ-Centered, Control, Criticism, Discouragement, Pride, Respect, Sloppy Joe Time Video, Spiritual Leadership, Spiritual Practices, Submission, Support, Video

  Authority, Control, Criticism, Respect, Spiritual Leadership, Submission, Trust God, Usurping Authority