Category: Blaming
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Are You a Speck Inspector? And Linkup!

Hi, I’m Beth Steffaniak and I’m a recovering “Speck Inspector.” Yessiree, I’m guilty as charged! And if you asked my hubby, he would definitely nod in agreement. This concept is revealed to us in Matthew 7:1-5, where Jesus provides a very “eye-opening” truth about humanity’s habit of judging others. He says that we cannot be…
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Did I Marry Mr. Wrong? Video
Hey there! I hope you’ll take a few minutes to watch my latest edition of “Sloppy Joe Time.” I’m exploring the sloppy expectation that marriage should be easy, and if it’s not, then we married the wrong person. The success of marriage comes not in finding the “right” person, but in the…
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Never Asked My Spouse to Help and Wedded Wed Link Up!
While I’m taking a four week break from blogging, I’m sharing some older posts from way back in MM’s vault. This was my very first post that kicked-off a series I dubbed the “Top 10 Mistakes I Made in Marriage.” It was published way back on October, 10 of 2010! Whoa, can’t believe it’s been…
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Assuming Too Much & WW Link Up!
Part of what I do as a counselor and life coach is to “speculate.” It’s easy to let this “skill” that’s often appropriate in one setting, carry over to my personal relationships where it is far from appropriate! In fact, whenever I’m around my hubby and speculate about what someone might think or feel, he very matter-of-factly…
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How to Let Bitterness Go
Today I want to look at the difficulty of releasing any hurt or bitterness we feel due to the sins “someone we are trying to reconcile with” may continue to commit against us. I want to stress, this is for the person who has chosen to forgive an offending spouse, has emotionally and spiritually worked…
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What ForGIVEness Gives Us

I’m going to be writing on the subject of forgiveness in the days and weeks ahead and today I want to kick this off where God is getting my attention … at the “Paradox Principle.” I’ve been reading through the gospel of Luke and there are SO many powerful passages about forgiveness there. Just today…
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Desperate Marriage Myth #2 – People Cannot Change
Today we’re continuing on in our series, “Desperate Marriages” with the second common myth … People cannot change. Let’s use the example of a spouse getting caught in an affair. After you’ve threatened to divorce him, he straightens up and promises to cut all ties with the other woman. The false belief that “people cannot…
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When You Feel like Your Spouse is the Enemy
It’s often so hard to see what’s really going on when we’re in the middle of the struggles in life. Can I get an Amen? It’s like that metaphor for life that the apostle Paul used in 1 Corinthians 13:12, “We see but a poor reflection as in a mirror …” and if we…
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How to Deal with Nit-Picky Perfectionism in Marriage

Do you ever feel like you can never satisfy your husband because he expects perfection from you? Are you constantly being challenged by your wife to do something her way, and in her opinion, the only right way? Is your marriage beginning to feel like a competition with only one winner? If you answered “yes”…



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