It’s often so hard to see what’s really going on when we’re in the middle of the struggles in life.
Can I get an Amen?
It’s like that metaphor for life that the apostle Paul used in 1 Corinthians 13:12, “We see but a poor reflection as in a mirror …” and if we could see clearly, we’d know what we’re truly up against when we’re in the moment.
What are we up against?
Who are we in a struggle with?
It’s easy to think it’s with our spouse …
But it’s not really.
“For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.” –Ephesians 6:12 (NIV)
So the next time your spouse …
- Says something that’s critical or offensive, remember that Satan may be convincing your spouse of lies that propel this cascade of hurt out of your spouse’s mouth toward you.
- Ignores your needs in favor of his/her own needs, remember that Satan may have just tempted your spouse to focus on what’s self-centered and your spouse took the bait.
- Acts in a loving way but your interpret it as unloving, you may have just focused on your own feelings—giving in to the chaos that Satan creates as background noise and distraction.
I’m not here to take away the personal responsibility we each have in our own choices and actions, but we must remember there’s a third party in day to day life who constantly tries and often succeeds in deceiving us. And the further we move toward Satan’s deceptions, the more people in our lives get hurt and the deeper our marriage wounds grow. So we must remain alert!
Thankfully, there’s a fourth and preeminent party – Christ, who is able to give us the victory in every spiritual and relationship battle.
One way to know the difference between Satan’s victories in battle and Christ’s is that Christ’s victorious battle won’t be about you, but will point to God in His glorious goodness and love.
What spiritual battles have you been facing lately?
How has knowing who you’re really struggling with helped you in your time of need?
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