Category: Withdrawal
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My Failure to Control Myself And WW Linkup
I find it funny (or sad—you pick!) that, not only can I have trouble with being too controlling with my hubby, but I can go to the other extreme and not be controlling enough—of at least myself! [Tweet “My failure with control is contradictory! #whatsupwiththat? #controlfreak #outofcontrol”] I’m continuing the series—“My Failures, God’s Inroads”—with a…
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New Series on Wounds of the Past and Linkup
Lately, it seems like God is dealing with me through all sorts of sources on the need to deal with old wounds that trigger me and my hubby in our marriage. It’s like everywhere I turn the subject turns to old wounds … From my Men and Openness Survey results (see post here on how…
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What Men Fear about Opening Up And Linkup
Today I want to continue to unpack the results of the “Men and Openness” survey by looking at question #5 … What do you feel you need to overcome in order to be better able to identify and share your feelings? (I allowed the men to choose all that applied) 70.49% – My fear of…
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Resisting God because You Feel Pressured?
This week I’m tackling another way we let our spouses control us … “Resisting spiritual pursuits because your spouse is cramming them down your throat.” The spouse who has been pressured by his/her spouse in this way often “reacts” rather than “responds” to this situation. The distinction is an important one. A “reaction” is letting…
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Feeling like a victim in a hopeless marriage? SJT Video
Sometimes a common dynamic or mindset develops when a marriage has been in crisis for a extended period of time. Click on the video below to find out what that mindset is in Beth’s latest “Sloppy Joe Time” – “Why won’t ‘you’ change?” What have been some of the lies you’ve embraced when you’ve…
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The Unplugged Spouse {WW Linkup}
Today I’m so excited to have a guest post from Ugochi who blogs at Teshuva, where she writes on God’s redemption in life and marriage in ways that really resonate with what we are about here at Messy Marriage. She is continuing our discussion on striving for intimacy and oneness in marriage. I hope you’ll…
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12 Ways We Push Our Spouses Away and WW Link Up!
Very often we push our spouses away without even knowing we’re doing it on a conscious level. Sadly, I’m just as guilty of clinging to many of these “12 Ways” as you might be. In fact, I’d be better off telling you which ones I don’t struggle with than to name the long list of those…
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The Problem of Avoiding Conflict with My Spouse and WW Link Up!
Today is another repost of an oldie {October 2010} but a goodie from my series, “The Top Ten Mistakes I Made in Marriage.” Enjoy! I grew up in a family that didn’t really know how to resolve conflicts in a healthy way. Often my parents played opposite positions in times of conflict. But neither position…
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