Category: Confrontation
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Never Asked My Spouse to Help and Wedded Wed Link Up!
While I’m taking a four week break from blogging, I’m sharing some older posts from way back in MM’s vault. This was my very first post that kicked-off a series I dubbed the “Top 10 Mistakes I Made in Marriage.” It was published way back on October, 10 of 2010! Whoa, can’t believe it’s been…
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How to Let Bitterness Go
Today I want to look at the difficulty of releasing any hurt or bitterness we feel due to the sins “someone we are trying to reconcile with” may continue to commit against us. I want to stress, this is for the person who has chosen to forgive an offending spouse, has emotionally and spiritually worked…
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When a Boundary Conversation Fails
Last week, I talked about a boundary conversation that was, for the most part, accepted by both parties. But what if you’ve confronted someone and he/she has dismissed or resisted your boundary conversation? What should you do then? First of all, there’s a difference between dismissing and resisting a boundary conversation. Normal Resistance Most people…
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How and When to Apologize
Today we’re continuing in our series on forgiveness and reconciliation by addressing how and when to apologize. Click the link, 6 Steps to Effective Boundary Conversations, to read the previous post in this series. After the first boundary conversation, let’s say it was accepted for the most part. In fact, this is the first of…
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Waiting on Your Offender to Repent?
Oh my! Today I’m tackling a tough one, people! Myth #6 – If I forgive, my offender must recognize his/her wrong against me, or it’s invalid or not “total forgiveness.” There’s a line of thought, especially in some Christian circles, that believes forgiveness is … “A commitment by the offended to pardon graciously the repentant…
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Does Forgiveness Forfeit Protection?
Today we’re addressing another myth of forgiveness … If I forgive, I lay down any right to protect myself. Just like the myth before it, “If I forgive, I’m letting my offender off the hook of responsibility” – there’s both truth and myth in this belief. The myth The idea that if I forgive, I’m…
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What are the Triggers in Your Relationship?
My husband and I had a conflict the other day. Hard to believe, I know, since I’m the queen bee of messy marriage! So I asked his permission to share a generalized version with all of you. Maybe you can learn from our mistakes … It was dinnertime and my son inadvertently interrupted me. So…
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8 Questions – Knowing When to Confront
There are times when we should address a problem and times when we shouldn’t. Often there is confusion about just when or if it’s right to proceed. Here are 8 questions or areas of concern to consider when you’re at that crossroad. My prayer is that they might bring you greater clarity on when to…
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Turning Correction into Motivation
Every messy marriage faces the challenge of correcting messy or wrong behavior in a spouse. We often think it’s our duty to point out where our spouse has gotten off track. And in some situations and when offered in the right spirit, that can be true. The trick is knowing how to communicate our observations…
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Trying to Grasp Grace
My church has been doing a series that deals with God’s redemption in the midst of brokenness. And one of the main focuses has been on forgiveness. I’ve done a lot of study and spent a lot of time trying to understand and exercise forgiveness in my life and marriage over the years. That is,…
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