Tag: Apologies

• Can ‘Not Apologizing’ Motivate My Mate? and WW Linkup!

  

  Today I’m continuing my series on why I didn’t apologize to my mate, by tackling the third justification I mentioned two weeks ago. {To see that post click here.} “I believed that because his sins seemed so much worse and more glaring than mine, that by confessing, I would only be pacifying him. In doing…

  BethSteffaniak

  April 21, 2015

  Anger, Apologies, Attitude, Boundaries, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Confession, Confessional Culture, Conflict, Control, Faith in God, False Beliefs, Humility, Negative Self-Talk, Pride, Respect, Responsibility, Submission, Surrender, Wedded Wednesday

  Anger, Apologies, Boundaries, Conflict, Control, Humility, Pride, Submission, Wedded Wednesday

• How I was a Right-Fighter And WW Linkup!

  

  I’m continuing to unpack why I didn’t confess my faults and sins to my husband in the early days of my marriage, focusing today on . . . Distortion Two – “If I’m right, I shouldn’t have to apologize!” It goes like this . . . If I’m saying the right things Or If I’m…

  BethSteffaniak

  April 14, 2015

  Alienation, Apologies, Attitude, Boundaries, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Confession, Confessional Culture, Conflict, Denial, Discouragement, Faith in God, False Beliefs, Humility, Negative Self-Talk, Pride, Responsibility, Wedded Wednesday

  Apologies, False Beliefs, Good Intentions, Humility, Judgmental, Pride, Right, Wrong

• 3 Reasons I Did Not Confess to My Mate And WW Linkup!

  

  There are many reasons why I didn’t confess my faults and sins to my husband in the early days of my marriage, but three of them stand out more than some of the others. I thought that confessing “I was wrong” about something to my husband was the equivalent of handing him the keys to…

  BethSteffaniak

  April 7, 2015

  About Me, Apologies, Change, Choices, Christ-Centered, Communication, Confession, Confessional Culture, Conflict, False Beliefs, Grace, Negative Self-Talk, Pride, Responsibility, Self-Protection, Victim Mentality, Vulnerability, Wedded Wednesday, Wounds

  Apologies, Confession, False Beliefs, Faults, Responsibility, Vulnerability

• Are You Too Familiar with Your Spouse? And WW Linkup!

  

  There’s something that’s sadly accurate about the old saying, “familiarity breeds contempt”—especially in marriage! When you live in close proximity to another human being for any length of time, you will inevitably feel friction and irritation at some point . . . especially if your spouse is abusive or insensitive in any way. But even…

  BethSteffaniak

  March 31, 2015

  Acceptance, Accountability, Anger, Apologies, Authenticity, Bonding, Change, Choices, Communication, Confession, Humility, Intimacy, Positive Focus, Responsibility, Self-Reflection, Vulnerability

  Acceptance, Apologies, Apology, Confession, Contempt, Humility

• The Unplugged Spouse {WW Linkup}

  

  Today I’m so excited to have a guest post from Ugochi who blogs at Teshuva, where she writes on God’s redemption in life and marriage in ways that really resonate with what we are about here at Messy Marriage. She is continuing our discussion on striving for intimacy and oneness in marriage. I hope you’ll…

  BethSteffaniak

  February 24, 2015

  Affirmation, Avoidance, Blaming, Bonding, Choices, Christ-Centered, Commitment, Communication, Conflict, Criticism, Discouragement, Intimacy, Listening Skills, Love of God, Oneness, Positive Focus, Self-Reflection, Self-sacrifice, Truth, Vulnerability, Wedded Wednesday, Withdrawal

  Apologies, Bonding, Cleaving, Communication, Conflict, Connection, Intimacy, Love of God, Oneness, Persevering, Unity, Withdrawal

• Who Should Apologize First?

  

  I hope you’ll take two and a half minutes to watch this first of many videocast installments here at MM on “Sloppy Expectations in Marriage.” Part of the reason I’ve decided to add videos is:  I’m still having arm/hand/tendonitis issues and typing adds to that problem. Creating a video is less “typing-intensive.” I’ve always wanted…

  BethSteffaniak

  September 7, 2014

  Apologies, Codependency, Conflict, Expectations, False Beliefs, Marriage Mistakes, Realistic Expectations, Video

  Apologies, Expectations

• How and When to Apologize

  Today we’re continuing in our series on forgiveness and reconciliation by addressing how and when to apologize. Click the link, 6 Steps to Effective Boundary Conversations, to read the previous post in this series. After the first boundary conversation, let’s say it was accepted for the most part. In fact, this is the first of…

  BethSteffaniak

  April 23, 2014

  Apologies, Boundaries, Change, Communication, Confrontation, Forgiveness, Realistic Expectations, Reconciliation, Wedded Wednesday

  Apologies, Forgiveness, Forgiveness Series, Reconciliation