Category: Conflict
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Does Forgiveness Forfeit Protection?
Today we’re addressing another myth of forgiveness … If I forgive, I lay down any right to protect myself. Just like the myth before it, “If I forgive, I’m letting my offender off the hook of responsibility” – there’s both truth and myth in this belief. The myth The idea that if I forgive, I’m…
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Does Forgiving Say It Was Okay?
Today, we’re continuing in our series on forgiveness, tackling another myth of forgiveness: If I forgive, am I saying that what my offender did was okay? Our perspective – This belief is a tough one because, I’ll be the first one to say, it’s scary to make yourself vulnerable to the one who hurt you!…
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How to Grieve Offenses
When someone offends, hurts or victimizes us, we experience loss and pain, and our emotions need God’s “good grief” to heal that wound. The reason it is “good grief” is because God meets us at our point of need. He brings comfort like only He can and begins the process of redeeming any harm done…
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The Stages of a Fight
Have you ever stopped to consider the many stages you go through in an argument with your spouse? If you’ve been married for any length of time, you’ve probably “felt” the stages of an argument creeping steadily toward you. It’s almost like the foreboding music that signals something bad is about to happen on your…
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What to Say When He Is Allergic to Apologizing and Giveaway!
Today we’re privileged to have Jennifer Thomas, co-author with Gary Chapman on When Sorry Isn’t Enough: Making Things Right with Those You Love as our guest and host of this week’s Wedded Wednesday, while my husband and I are on our 25th anniversary trip to England and Wales! Jennifer’s website – drjenthomas.com is full of…
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Desperate Marriage Myth #4 – Hopeless Situation
Today we’re looking at the last of the myths, Myth #4 – Some situations are hopeless and my situation is one of these. When people are in a desperate situation where positive change seems impossible or at least a distant memory, they tend to take on a victim mentality. With a victim mentality, you begin…
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When You Feel like Your Spouse is the Enemy
It’s often so hard to see what’s really going on when we’re in the middle of the struggles in life. Can I get an Amen? It’s like that metaphor for life that the apostle Paul used in 1 Corinthians 13:12, “We see but a poor reflection as in a mirror …” and if we…
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Timing in Communication
Recently my husband and I were driving somewhere and I noticed that, … let me put it this way, his frame of mind wasn’t the best. But I like to take advantage of drive time to connect and talk with him, so I began to share with him an idea I had for a project…
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How to Break-through Marriage Barriers
There’s nothing I love more in the summer than taking in a good movie with my hubby. Recently we went to one that’s worth mentioning for more than one reason. We went to see the movie, 42 that tells the story of how Jackie Robinson broke the race barrier in professional baseball. It’s inspiring—gut wrenchingly…
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Validation Does Not Equal Agreement
Recently I had a comment on my post, How to Validate Your Spouse’s Feelings. It read: “How do I validate my wife’s feelings when I disagree with the facts she is basing those feelings on? I understand the feelings but want to help her recognize the distorted facts so she doesn’t have to feel hurt.”…
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