Category: Mess Makers
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Fighting for Your Marriage
Did your holidays bring home more than just irritating in-laws? Sometimes the stress of the holidays can magnify problems in your marriage that were on the backburner until now. Perhaps you feel as if you are in the fight of your life to save your marriage. First off, let’s consider … 3 Common Reactions to…
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Fighting for Your Marriage
Did your holidays bring home more than just irritating in-laws? Sometimes the stress of the holidays can magnify problems in your marriage that were on the backburner until now. Perhaps you feel as if you are in the fight of your life to save your marriage. First off, let’s consider … 3 Common Reactions to…
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Letting a Busy Schedule Come before Your Marriage?
This has been an incredibly busy month for me, and it’s only the 17th of October! What will the rest of the month look like? And with all this busyness, I’m reminded of one very important aspect of my marriage … my husband! Now, I have to say that October has been a really busy…
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Minimizing Messes
In my last post, I talked about how I didn’t take my Poison Ivy seriously at first. I must confess, I have a tendency to do that—to minimize a problem. Unfortunately, I’m an anxious person—always have been. I could spiritually dissect that and tell you that my anxiety means I don’t have enough faith in…
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3 Attitudes that Lead to Trouble
On the last Friday of August, my husband and I decided to clear out some weeds in our yard. Unbeknownst to me, I picked up a batch of weeds “Poison Ivy,” hugging it ever so tenderly on the way to the yard waste bag. In the words of Julia Roberts, “Big mistake! BIG!” Until this…
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A Difference that Divides
Differences can divide us, making our marriages messy and full of pain … especially when those differences are spiritual or faith-based. God clearly reminds us that our faith can be a stumbling block to those who don’t believe (Rom. 9:31-33). And the Apostle Paul warns us against being “yoked together” with unbelievers (2 Cor. 6:14).…
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Unhealthy Alliances – To Leave or Not to Leave?
(I may be stepping into controversial waters with this topic. But I hope that you will allow yourself to look at your marriage in this area without fear or defensiveness.) “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” Genesis 2:24…
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Not What I Expected …
Written by Kimberly Green Messy Marriage Team Member … Or even what I thought I wanted. My parent’s divorce in my adolescence had left scars but had also given me a wonderful gift—the gift of KNOWING their model was broken. My mother playing the perpetual victim and my father continually looking for her to validate…
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Need a Marriage Work-Out?
Recently I had a reader ask me about how to deal with a controlling and critical spouse. I have to say that I’m guilty of playing both positions on this one—offense and defense. And I can say from first-hand experience that I think control and criticism are two of the biggest mess makers out there.…
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Unhealthy Alliances – Making Your Child Your Source of Support/Love
I have to say up front that I don’t think I’ve ever done this—not because I haven’t wanted to—but because I saw my mother do this with my sister and learned how destructive it can be! You might think, Well, what’s wrong with loving your child or turning to them for support from time to…
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