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Feeling Trapped in a Loveless Marriage?
Recently a comment caught my attention. First of all, because of the pain I was sensing in this person’s words, and second, because it got me to thinking about my own messy marriage journey. Here’s the comment to an article I posted about a spouse continually refusing to admit fault … My wife has behaved…
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Ties That Bind
Today’s article is another “Share Your Story,” a contribution from blogger, Kelli of Chronicles of Grace We meet between the sheets on Memorial Day weekend. After the tension drains out of our words and the last of the light drips out of the sky. Peace is sewn on like a fresh patch covers a…
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I’m Having an Affair … With My Cell Phone!
Written by Gary Steffaniak Messy Marriage Team Member … at least, that’s what my wife says. Let me explain. Friday is my day off and usually my wife, Beth, and I spend the day together. When school is going on, our kids are not home, and typically the day is ours—an empty house with no…
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Are You Motivating or Manipulating Your Spouse?
Isn’t it always easier to see what our spouse needs to do than what we need to do? I can easily get caught up in this problem, since I’m also a counselor and life-coach. I can diagnose an unhealthy attitude or action, and step in with my “trusty counselor’s voice” to bring my husband down…
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Consumed with Life = No Margin
There’s this scary idea that what’s most important about our lives will be captured by a “dash” on our tombstone … he/she was born in 1960/70/80 something, followed by the dash before the date of death. The real dilemma is, we all want to make our “dash” count, right? Photo by Jo Naylor But the…
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The Drought of 2012
Written by Stacey Micklevitz Messy Marriage Team Member You’d have to be living under a rock to be unaware of this year’s drought. Add to that the record heat, and you’re walking earth that yearns for water. We’re at a point where an occasional rain won’t even make a dent in the severe deficit that’s…
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How Making My Point Can Be Dangerous
photo by oe2azm Years ago when our kids were small, we had a habit of letting our tempers take us to heights of hostility and summits of stupidity. What made this “argumentative mountain climbing” worse was, we had our “kids strapped to our backs” as we clung to the jagged edges of our egos, anchoring…
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Does Indulging Anger Change Our Brains?
Continuing on in the “Consumed” series with a look at how anger can consume us … Photo by dospaz In the early, messy days of my marriage, I was often frustrated, hurt, offended and ultimately resentful of my husband. Little did I know then that … … every time I indulged my anger toward my…
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Is My "Comfort Zone" Really Safe?
We are continuing on in our series about being “consumed” and today the focus is on being consumed with comfort … Photo by kennymatic As I write this post, I sit in my “Easy Chair” with legs perched atop my pillow-covered ottoman. The A/C is set to a comfortable 77 degrees, but if that’s not…
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Does What I Feel Really Matter?
Today’s article is another “Share Your Story” contribution from blogger, Jennifer of Finding Fruit cristee 12 (Flickr) It started weeks ago, a quick harsh word said to me. The word itself was not harsh, I don’t even remember what it was. But my body jumped up as if burned. I walked away not wanting to…
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