Category: Negative Self-Talk
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Feeling Broken by Your Offender?
When our hearts are broken by the sins of our offender—especially over and over—we typically want to do two things … 1. Hurt our offender the way they’ve hurt us. We might say this is simply to teach them a lesson—so they won’t hurt us or others again. Maybe there’s a grain of truth in…
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The Pursuit of Perspective
We’re continuing in our forgiveness series today, moving from my last post, “How to Grieve Offenses” to examining our misperceptions and seeking the perspective that only Christ can bring. Bear in mind that we’re still dealing with expressing our hurt to God alone. The need to set boundaries with your offender is certainly necessary, but…
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Desperate Marriage Myth #1
Recently I conducted a survey here at Messy Marriage and I can tell from the responses that many of you are in desperate situations and don’t know what to do about your marriage. It’s important to recognize four myths identified by Gary Chapman in his book, Desperate Marriages that often surface in our thinking when…
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How to Love Yourself
I’ve heard a lot of talk lately in the blogosphere about “loving self.” Some say we need to do that because many of us are failing to truly love ourselves. Some say it’s a given that we love ourselves and that loving ourselves should not be our focus. I think both “camps” have something…
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A Way to Measure Your Progress
The other day I was at Walmart. (Imagine a big, lumbersome sigh after that sentence!) I must confess it’s not my favorite place to shop—especially since our small town store is being turned into a supercenter. Yay, us! I won’t go into all that ticks me off when I’m inside the doors of the world’s…
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5 Ways Remorse Can Set You Free!
In the U.S. we’re all gearing up to celebrate the 4th of July, our nation’s Independence Day. But there’s another type of freedom you may need to pursue and claim. Do you: Struggle to let go of the regrets you have regarding past “messes” you’ve made? Continually feel responsible for the pain and consequences…
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Trophy Wife
Written by Stacey Micklevitz Messy Marriage Team Writer I was recently pondering the concept of a Trophy Wife. Naturally, Donald Trump came to mind (though, let me be clear that I don’t see him as a “trophy husband”—he’s fooling NO one with that hair!). I am convinced that he is the poster child for all…
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4 Signs You’re on the Wrong Track
Have you ever gotten lost? In the pre-GPS days, you might have ended up wandering way off course. Been there, done that! It’s a scary feeling, especially if your wandering leaves you in dangerous territory. Yep! Been there, done that too! In the many years I’ve been a counselor and life coach, or for that…
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10 Not-So-Helpful Things to Do for My Spouse
Recently I wrote a post about the subject of helping my husband. You can refer to it here, if you’d like. But the idea got me to thinking … there are lots of ways I can help my husband but … There are also a lot of ways that I think I’m helping my…
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Is it Always Your Fault?
Do you feel like “the problem” spouse? I know about this troubling dynamic, because I was the one blaming my spouse for the fault in our marriage—both verbally and in my head. I couldn’t escape the belief that my husband, Gary, was the problem! And if I could just “fix” him or worse … get…
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