Category: Emotions
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Despairing of Life?
The holidays are a difficult time for many who’ve lost loved ones at this time of year—whether recently and in years past. It’s hard for some who face the prospect of spending the holidays alone, or who simply feel sadness in contrast to what the holidays represent. The holidays can be a very sad time…
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Raising the Bar in Your Marriage?
Imagine, if you will, coming home from a long days work, expecting to bask in a warm welcome from the one who’s “supposed to have your back,” only to experience a tongue lashing so sharp that you feel like human hash browns—having been diced up and left on the floor to sizzle in the greasy…
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Y2Khaos
Written by Kimberly GreenMessy Marriage Team Member Rob Boudon December of 1999 found me in a local supermarket purchasing a significant amount of canned goods, gallons of water, boxes of powdered milk, and a significant supply of batteries. January 1st, 2000 at midnight, millions of computers all over the world would herald the apocalypse. We…
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Are You a Texticator?
credit For those of you who are a product of “old school Christianity” your mind probably went immediately from my invented word “texticator” to “fornicator”—a word we don’t use so much in our everyday vernacular. If so, then I’m glad, because that’s almost how revolting I want this practice to sound to you from now…
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3 Ways to Deal with a Recurring Conflict
AlicePopkorn Ever had an issue like one of my hubby’s favorite movies, Groundhog Day? If you’re not familiar, Bill Murray plays a weather reporter who keeps waking up to the same frustrating Groundhog Day over and over again. Sometimes a particular issue in marriage is like that. No matter how hard you try to work…
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How Making My Point Can Be Dangerous
photo by oe2azm Years ago when our kids were small, we had a habit of letting our tempers take us to heights of hostility and summits of stupidity. What made this “argumentative mountain climbing” worse was, we had our “kids strapped to our backs” as we clung to the jagged edges of our egos, anchoring…
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Does Indulging Anger Change Our Brains?
Continuing on in the “Consumed” series with a look at how anger can consume us … Photo by dospaz In the early, messy days of my marriage, I was often frustrated, hurt, offended and ultimately resentful of my husband. Little did I know then that … … every time I indulged my anger toward my…
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Does What I Feel Really Matter?
Today’s article is another “Share Your Story” contribution from blogger, Jennifer of Finding Fruit cristee 12 (Flickr) It started weeks ago, a quick harsh word said to me. The word itself was not harsh, I don’t even remember what it was. But my body jumped up as if burned. I walked away not wanting to…
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In-Laws with "Depression" Stereotypes
Written by Scott and Heather CoppleMessy Marriage Team Members In-laws can cause all sorts of trouble in a marriage, especially when the married couple allows the intrusion of family. Our family of origin wreaks havoc on our marriage because of the baggage we bring along with us. Now, let the in-laws, themselves, enter the relationship…
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The Anatomy of Bitterness
I took an anatomy class in college. In the words made famous by “Pretty Woman,” Julia Roberts, “BIG MISTAKE. BIG. HUGE!” What made this a mistake? Well, it began when my lab partner and I had to skin a dead cat for dissection. Gross! We then had to familiarize ourselves so thoroughly with every in…
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