Category: Surrender
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How Comparing Can be Good
Many are choosing “one word” to focus on in the new year and I’ve been prayerfully searching for what God might want mine to be. Oddly enough, I feel Him drawing my focus over and over to the word “compare.” At first glance, compare didn’t seem like a very inspiring choice to me. After all,…
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Feeling Broken by Your Offender?
When our hearts are broken by the sins of our offender—especially over and over—we typically want to do two things … 1. Hurt our offender the way they’ve hurt us. We might say this is simply to teach them a lesson—so they won’t hurt us or others again. Maybe there’s a grain of truth in…
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The Pursuit of Perspective
We’re continuing in our forgiveness series today, moving from my last post, “How to Grieve Offenses” to examining our misperceptions and seeking the perspective that only Christ can bring. Bear in mind that we’re still dealing with expressing our hurt to God alone. The need to set boundaries with your offender is certainly necessary, but…
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What ForGIVEness Gives Us

I’m going to be writing on the subject of forgiveness in the days and weeks ahead and today I want to kick this off where God is getting my attention … at the “Paradox Principle.” I’ve been reading through the gospel of Luke and there are SO many powerful passages about forgiveness there. Just today…
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A Pause to Rest and Remember
Ever since we visited that little town in Wales (Tenby), I’ve fallen in love with the sounds of the ocean. The rhythmic waves coming forward and pulling back. It reminds me of how the Holy Spirit constantly pursues me {us} and draws me {us} to Himself. It reminds me of how–if I’ll just let go…
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What Does God Want to Give You in Your Losses?
As I face breast cancer, I’ve become extremely aware of the battle going on in my mind. When my focus is on the “loss” or “losses” I’m facing, I begin to feel, well, like a “loser.” But God has been so patient and kind with me and has gently reminded me that … He never…
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Grace Filled Marriage Book Review & Giveaway!
A while back I was asked to read, review and giveaway one copy of Dr. Tim Kimmel’s book, Grace Filled Marriage. So I packed my copy in my carry-on bag, taking it with me on our trip to England and Wales. It became my constant welcome companion on the British rail, while the beautiful English…
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What Types of Risks are You Taking?
On my trip to the UK, there were so many “God moments”—moments when I knew that God was busy at work doing things like only He can do! One of those moments was when my husband and I were on the Tube (The underground subway system in London). BTW, we became quite skilled in reading…
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Desperate Marriage Myth #4 – Hopeless Situation
Today we’re looking at the last of the myths, Myth #4 – Some situations are hopeless and my situation is one of these. When people are in a desperate situation where positive change seems impossible or at least a distant memory, they tend to take on a victim mentality. With a victim mentality, you begin…
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Desperate Marriage Myth #1
Recently I conducted a survey here at Messy Marriage and I can tell from the responses that many of you are in desperate situations and don’t know what to do about your marriage. It’s important to recognize four myths identified by Gary Chapman in his book, Desperate Marriages that often surface in our thinking when…


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