Category: Choices
-
Realistic Expectations and WW Link Up!
I’ve just finished a forgiveness series that I’m planning on turning into a free ebook for my current and new subscribers. Yay! 🙂 But in order to do that and to tackle the more-than-I-can-properly-describe-long-list-of-to-do’s, I must take time away from blogging. That doesn’t mean I’m leaving Messy Marriage without a weekly post—actually “repost.” During my…
-
Redeeming the Year of the Broken-Down
I keep promising things I can’t really deliver. That is SOOOO not like me! I’ve always prided myself in my follow-through, but my life continues to be just.too.crowded. I keep thinking of the iconic scene in “I Love Lucy” where Lucy and Ethel were working in a chocolate factory and the speed is just too…
-
When You Don’t Feel Like Forgiving
If you’ve lived with the day in and day out abuse or hurt from a boundary-busting offender for very long, it’s easy to feel so fed up that you don’t want to forgive him or her. You may have come to believe the half-truth that forgiving someone means “you’ve let them off the hook.” Or…
-
How Comparing Can be Good
Many are choosing “one word” to focus on in the new year and I’ve been prayerfully searching for what God might want mine to be. Oddly enough, I feel Him drawing my focus over and over to the word “compare.” At first glance, compare didn’t seem like a very inspiring choice to me. After all,…
-
What Does God Want to Give You in Your Losses?
As I face breast cancer, I’ve become extremely aware of the battle going on in my mind. When my focus is on the “loss” or “losses” I’m facing, I begin to feel, well, like a “loser.” But God has been so patient and kind with me and has gently reminded me that … He never…
-
What Types of Risks are You Taking?
On my trip to the UK, there were so many “God moments”—moments when I knew that God was busy at work doing things like only He can do! One of those moments was when my husband and I were on the Tube (The underground subway system in London). BTW, we became quite skilled in reading…
-
Desperate Marriage Myth #3 – Only Have 2 Options
The third myth in our Desperate Marriages series is – I have only two options, resigning myself to a life of misery or getting out of the marriage. This myth hangs on the coattails of last week’s post, Desperate Marriage Myth #2, People Cannot Change. Since you’ve determined that you and/or your spouse cannot change,…
-
Desperate Marriage Myth #2 – People Cannot Change
Today we’re continuing on in our series, “Desperate Marriages” with the second common myth … People cannot change. Let’s use the example of a spouse getting caught in an affair. After you’ve threatened to divorce him, he straightens up and promises to cut all ties with the other woman. The false belief that “people cannot…
-
5 Ways Remorse Can Set You Free!
In the U.S. we’re all gearing up to celebrate the 4th of July, our nation’s Independence Day. But there’s another type of freedom you may need to pursue and claim. Do you: Struggle to let go of the regrets you have regarding past “messes” you’ve made? Continually feel responsible for the pain and consequences…
-
4 Signs You’re on the Wrong Track

Have you ever gotten lost? In the pre-GPS days, you might have ended up wandering way off course. Been there, done that! It’s a scary feeling, especially if your wandering leaves you in dangerous territory. Yep! Been there, done that too! In the many years I’ve been a counselor and life coach, or for that…


You must be logged in to post a comment.