Category: Communication
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10 Not-So-Helpful Things to Do for My Spouse
Recently I wrote a post about the subject of helping my husband. You can refer to it here, if you’d like. But the idea got me to thinking … there are lots of ways I can help my husband but … There are also a lot of ways that I think I’m helping my…
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He Won’t Talk to Me
Photo by Ed Passi One of the challenging areas in my marriage is conversation. Part of the problem is that we already know so much about each other that there’s little mystery. What’s new to talk about that hasn’t already been covered in countless conversations in the past? Another issue is that I am…
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Raising the Bar in Your Marriage?
Imagine, if you will, coming home from a long days work, expecting to bask in a warm welcome from the one who’s “supposed to have your back,” only to experience a tongue lashing so sharp that you feel like human hash browns—having been diced up and left on the floor to sizzle in the greasy…
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Are You a Texticator?
credit For those of you who are a product of “old school Christianity” your mind probably went immediately from my invented word “texticator” to “fornicator”—a word we don’t use so much in our everyday vernacular. If so, then I’m glad, because that’s almost how revolting I want this practice to sound to you from now…
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3 Ways to Deal with a Recurring Conflict
AlicePopkorn Ever had an issue like one of my hubby’s favorite movies, Groundhog Day? If you’re not familiar, Bill Murray plays a weather reporter who keeps waking up to the same frustrating Groundhog Day over and over again. Sometimes a particular issue in marriage is like that. No matter how hard you try to work…
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I’m Having an Affair … With My Cell Phone!
Written by Gary Steffaniak Messy Marriage Team Member … at least, that’s what my wife says. Let me explain. Friday is my day off and usually my wife, Beth, and I spend the day together. When school is going on, our kids are not home, and typically the day is ours—an empty house with no…
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How Making My Point Can Be Dangerous
photo by oe2azm Years ago when our kids were small, we had a habit of letting our tempers take us to heights of hostility and summits of stupidity. What made this “argumentative mountain climbing” worse was, we had our “kids strapped to our backs” as we clung to the jagged edges of our egos, anchoring…
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The Price of Retaliating
In the book, Forgiving and Reconciling, Dr. Worthington talks about the “Injustice Gap.” It’s when we try to equalize the pain we’ve felt at the hands of our offender by requiring some kind of justice or amends. Dr. Worthington goes on to say that in trying to bridge the “Injustice Gap”, we don’t just require…
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What to Do If Your Spouse is Resistant to Counseling
Last week, I responded to a question from a commenter regarding a spouse who’s resistant to going to marriage counseling. After breaking the question down into two concerns, today I’m addressing the second concern … What if you or your spouse had a bad experience with counseling, is counseling really necessary and helpful? The…
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When Your Spouse Won’t Go to Bat For You – In-law Issues
Recently I suggested that I would be writing a post on how to set boundaries, but decided to focus on one common boundary problem—intrusive and critical in-laws. Let’s say you have a mother-in-law who makes a habit of criticizing you to your spouse or in front of others. But let’s up the ante and say…
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