Getting a reluctant mate to open up to you is about as easy as coaxing a cranky toddler to eat his peas. At least, that’s what I’ve discovered in my own life. And it’s also what I’ve heard from countless others, especially wives, in conversationless marriages.

Today I’m answering another reader’s question in my “Questioning Marriage“ video series. In the video, I offer three important steps to create more safeness in marriage. I’ll be giving three more when I post the follow-up to this video.

If you’re not working on figuring out what keeps your mate from coming close and opening up, then you’re inevitably going to drive your spouse further and further away.

So how do you make yourself and your relationship safer?

Click on the video to discover some steps to move in that direction …

What would you add to my list of ways to encourage openness?

What tactics have failed to produce openness in your marriage?

Here’s a Couple Conversation Guide to practice conversational skills and active/reflective listening.

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