It may not be cold season, but I keep the antibacterial gel always handy especially when someone sneezes near me! I don’t want to catch their cold and I’m not going to chalk it up to allergies. In much the same way our anger and bitterness can infect our lives.
I’m not saying that we pass bitterness along by “sneezing,” but I am saying that we can’t compartmentalize our anger.
I’ve been reminded of this fact lately because I’ve been scouring my old journals from the “messy marriage” years, and the thing I’m noticing is how my anger and the many ways I was unforgiving toward my spouse infected so many other areas and relationships in my life.
Not only was I prone to get my feathers ruffled much more by just about anyone, but I also was paranoid—fearful—of their acceptance of me. This created a lot of dysfunctional relationships in my life at that time.
I’m certainly not 100% free of dysfunction or anger now. But I was struck by just how different my life and relationships are currently—free of the infection of bitterness. And the reason I’m better now is because I didn’t bury my anger. I worked very hard to …
- Work through a thorough forgiveness process.
- Change my perspective to one of extending Christ’s grace.
- Intentionally be grateful in the good and especially the “bad.”
Even my relationship with God has really deepened and grown since I’ve worked through those resentments. I think doing the tasks I mentioned above was both a catalyst for spiritual growth, as well as, a result of pursuing God more completely.
Maybe you feel weighed down—even infected—by bitterness towards someone. If you do and it’s been present for any length of time, then I’m certain your outlook and other relationships are being “infected” as well. Am I right?
There really is hope, if you’re serious about surrendering your wounded heart to God. Begin to do some of the things I’ve listed above. In fact, I offer a forgiveness coaching program through my life-coaching practice – HopeRenewedCoach.com where I can walk with you through some specific tasks and processing. I offer a more that 40% discount on the 3 month package to those who mention “MM Discount” in the contact form at my coaching site.
And if coaching is not something you’re ready for or interested in, then begin by reading a good book on forgiveness. I list some here. Most of all, begin to daily connect with God. You can read how to get that started here. And if you’ve never received Christ’s forgiveness and salvation then find out how to do that here.
Most of all, let me know how I can pray for you in this area, and I will be sure to lift you up as I do many others who struggle with “messy” issues in life and marriage.
How have you approached forgiveness in your life?
What has been helpful for you?
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